Lovense Flexer vs Vulse Side-By-Side Comparison
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Our Verdict
The Lovense Flexer and Lovense Vulse are both app-controlled Lovense wearables built around internal motion. The Flexer is more stimulating overall because it also provides strong clit stimulation, but its less secure fit limits it mostly to use in bed. The Vulse is better if you want motion that feels more G-spot focused, occasionally want to wear it around, and do not need built-in clit stimulation – or are willing to pair it with a separate clit vibrator.
The Flexer combines a 9.1-out-of-10 clit motor, 4.9-out-of-10 internal vibrations, and flexing motion at 34 to 63 cycles per minute. With all that going on, it’s very stimulating. I can orgasm with it hands-free with all three forms of stimulation working together. However, most of the movement actually occurs in the external arm, creating changing clit pressure rather than the pronounced internal fingering sensation its intended to provide. So if you care about the motion being mainly internal, the Vulse may be better. The Flexer’s firm, rigid arms can also pinch against my pubic bone uncomfortably at times, and it does not fit securely enough to comfortably wear around. So it’s the overall more stimulating, but less comfortable or secure option.
The Vulse’s thrusting motion runs at 55 to 104 strokes per minute and feels more distinctly focused internally. Despite also having movement, I found it stays securely in place for me while walking around. However, it has no clit motor, and its internal vibrations are weak and buzzy reach only 2.5 out of 10. The main stimulation comes from the motion and I need separate clit stimulation to orgasm. The Flexer lasted 95 minutes on high compared with about 60 minutes for the Vulse. Both toys’ motions are loud.
Choose the Flexer for stronger, dual stimulation in bed. Choose the Vulse for more G-spot-focused motion and a more secure fit while wearing around.
The Lovense Flexer can be an interesting hands-free wearable to use in bed if you specifically want motion that rhythmically presses against and releases your clit. It can be extremely stimulating once I’m warmed up, but it’s not the best choice if you primarily want firm G-spot pressure, a comfortable and secure fit to wear around (choose a panty vibrator or egg vibrator for that), or rumbly vibrations.
Although its flexing motion is intended to create an internal fingering sensation, most of the movement actually happens in the clit arm. The G-spot pressure is subtle, while the external arm repeatedly presses down on and then lets off my clit. I find that dynamic sensation really stimulating, and I orgasm hands-free from it – those who like pressing on their clit with their fingers may especially enjoy it. However, the movement can feel pinchy or distracting at times, and the rigid, non-adjustable shape can feel like it’s working its way out.
The Flexer is also noisy and uncomfortable to wear around. The motion on your clit is the main reason to choose it.
For a quieter dual-stimulation wearable with more G-spot focused motion, try the Lelo Ida Wave. Or if you want to stick with Lovense and you don’t care about motion, the Lovense Dolce has more rumbly, powerful vibrations.
The Lovense Vulse is a good egg vibrator if you specifically want hands-free internal movement instead of powerful vibrations. Many people like how thrusting feels internally more than vibes – it’s a preference.
Its thrusting feels gentle but very enjoyable. As with all G-spot-only toys, I can’t orgasm from the Vulse alone, but when I pair it with clit stimulation, the thrusting enhances and extends my orgasms, makes them feel fuller, and helps me have back-to-back orgasms more quickly. Lovense’s excellent app also lets you control multiple toys together, so you can pair it with a clit vibrator like the Lovense Ferri for hands-free dual-stimulation.
While it’s best used in bed since it’s not that comfy to walk around with it in, the Vulse is the most secure motion-based wearable vibrator I’ve tested, so you could wear it around. It’s the only one I don’t feel like is going to fall out while I’m walking around.
The trade-offs are that the Vulse’s vibrations are weak and buzzy, the thrusting motor is loud, and its girthy straight shape and straight antenna are less comfortable than Lovense’s vibrating Lush eggs.
If you’re mainly looking for something you can wear around with strong, quiet vibrations, and better comfort as you move, a purely vibrating egg like the Lovense Lush 4 would be better. If you’re looking mainly for something to use in bed and enjoy motion internally, the Vulse is really fun.
The Lovense Flexer is bad for wearing around. Most powerful dual-stimulation wearables are not built for walking around the way panty vibrators or egg vibrators are. The Flexer is loud, restricts your movement, and not very secure when the flex motion is active.
Walking, stairs, sitting, and bending forward all make the toy feel too girthy and uncomfortable for me. And when moving around it feels like it may work itself out. The buzzy vibrations and high-pitched sound from the flexing motion are also very loud.
If you want quieter, comfortable dual-stimulation that stays put while walking around, try pairing the Lovense Ferri (clit stimulation) and Lovense Lush 4 (G-spot stimulation) together – you can control them simultaneously from the Lovense app. With the budget for one toy, your better off getting whichever one of those provides your preffered stimulation.
The Lovense Vulse is the best motion-based wearable I’ve tested for wearing around, but it still has significant trade-offs compared to vibration-only eggs.
Most toys with internal motion, like the Lovense Flexer, Lelo Ida Wave, Lelo Hula Beads and others, work better lying down because the motion mechanism causes them to shift or work their way out. The Vulse is the only one I’ve tested that stays securely in place as I move around – even during heavier movement like running and jumping.
You or a partner has excellent control of the Vulse through the Lovense app – the best app of any brand with easy-to-use controls and reliable connectivity.
However, it’s very noisy – much louder than eggs that just vibrate, like the Lovense Lush 4. It has a shorter battery life, and the straight antenna is not as comfortable as the newer Lovense Lush models. I also find the motion distracting if I’m walking around – whereas it feels good in bed.
So if wearing it around is your goal, you’re better off with a vibrating egg like the Lush 4 or Lush Mini. If you want a toy with motion mainly to use in bed that you could occasionally wear around, the Vulse is good.
The best way to use the Lovense Flexer is for hands-free dual-stimulation in bed. The strong buzzy vibrations and flexing motion on my clit are very stimulating, and I can orgasm with it hands-free. And the motion makes it feel different from vibration-only dual-stim wearables like the Lovense Dolce, so it just offers something fun and unique.
However, some tradoffs are that it’s extremely buzzy (which some people don’t like), and the rigid shape can press into me uncomfortably, depending on how you’re positioned. I find it most comfortable lying down – sitting up in bed feels too tight.
The external arm also ends up moving more than the internal arm, so it’s really most stimulating on my clit – not my G-spot as intended. But still, it’s very stimulating, though could be distracting or overwhelming if you’re easily overstimulated. I have to be fully warmed-up before using this toy.
The Flexer is powerful, has a great app, and offers interesting unique stimulation. But the Lelo Ida Wave and Lovense Dolce are better dual-stimulation options if you prefer more rumbly vibes or don’t want movement on your clit.
Using the Lovense Vulse in bed for hands-free internal stimulation is its best use. It’s a good option if you find movement more stimulating internally than strong G-spot vibrations.
I can’t orgasm from the Vulse alone, but its thrusting feels enjoyable and adds fullness when I pair it with clit stimulation. It enhances and extends my orgasms and helps me have back-to-back orgasms more quickly. You can use a handheld clit vibrator or pair it with the Lovense Ferri, which Lovense’s app lets you control alongside the Vulse for fully hands-free dual-stimulation.
Because its movement is in-and-out, it’s not as G-spot-focused as toys with an angled rotating head or shaft like the Lelo Ida Wave (a dual-stimulation wearable) or the Lovense Nora (a handheld rabbit) that target the front wall better. But it still feels good and filling. The motion and fullness is the stimulating part – the vibrations are much weaker and buzzier than vibration-only eggs like the Lovense Lush 4.
The Lovense Flexer is a good long-distance option for bedroom use: the Lovense app is excellent (the best of any brand), and the Flexer provides strong stimulation I can orgasm with hands-free. But it’s loud and uncomfortable to wear around, so it’s best for in-bed long-distance play.
Lovense’s app allows your partner to control vibration intensity and flexing speed separately. They can quickly create a custom pattern, and the chatting and video calls are reliable and clear.
The toy itself is only comfortable when you can lie down since the rigid fit can cause a tight feeling or pinching if you bend forward or move around too much.
So if long-distance play means something you can wear around comfortably, try the Lovense Ferri for clit stimulation, and add in the Lovense Lush 4 for dual-stimulation. You can control them simultaneously in the same great app.
The Lovense Vulse is a good long-distance toy if you and your partner specifically want hands-free internal movement instead of powerful G-spot vibrations.
Lovense has the best long-distance app experience of any brand, with reliable connectivity, saved partners, in-app messaging and video calls, and detailed controls for changing the Vulse’s thrusting and vibrations. You can also connect multiple Lovense toys, so you can pair the Vulse with the Lovense Ferri for long-distance, hands-free dual-stimulation. And if your partner also has a Lovense toy, you can control their toy while they control yours.
The Vulse works best for long-distance sessions in bed, where its thrusting feels enjoyable and filling without becoming uncomfortable and distracting as it can when walking around. It stays securely in place while moving, so you can wear it outside the bedroom – but its louder, and its girthy shape and straight antenna are less comfortable than Lovense’s Lush eggs like the Lush 4 or Lush Mini for wearing around.
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Clit Stimulation: Main Takeaways
In the next sections, I’ll cover the Flexer’s clit vibration power and rumbliness in-depth.
Here’s the main conclusion: the Flexer provides some of the more-intense clit stimulation out of the dual-stim wearables I have tested, and I can orgasm with it hands-free. The vibrations are buzzy and the flexing motion on your clit can be overstimulating at times though.
If more consistent clit pressure and rumbliness matters most, go with the Lovense Dolce, which doesn’t have a movement motor. If you’re interested in the motion and enjoy buzzy vibes, stick with the Flexer.
Like all egg vibrators, the Lovense Vulse only stimulates your G-spot – not your clit. For clit stimulation, a panty vibrator is the better type of wearable for you. See all our recommendations for the best panty vibrators here.
An egg vibrator is a good option if:
- You enjoy internal vibrations, G-spot pressure, or fullness on its own. (Many people need clit stimulation to orgasm, but internal stimulation can still feel good and be great foreplay.)
- You plan to pair it with clit stimulation from something else.
I can’t orgasm even with our strongest G-spot vibrator alone, but when I pair it with clitoral stimulation, it makes my orgasms feel more full.
Clit Vibrations: Power, Range, and Transfer Effectiveness
The Flexer’s clit motor is very strong, reaching 9.1 out of 10 on high – one of my strongest wearables. And it still starts gently enough that I can warm up before using the stronger settings.
With wearables, strong motors only matter if the toy keeps that motor in contact with your body. In bed, the Flexer does that well, but in a unique way: When the flexing motion is active, the external arm moves back and forth, varying the clit pressure. This makes the stimulation feel stronger and more interesting to me as the external arm presses those vibrations firmly into my clit.
The Flexer is a good fit if you like movement and intensity shifts, but some will prefer consistent contact instead. If you want a dual-stimulation toy that stays in one spot and a more controlled feel, go with the vibration-only Lovense Dolce. The Lelo Ida Wave’s clit stimulation is also more consistent and rumbly while also providing G-spot stimulation from motion.
Clit Vibrations: Frequency (Rumbliness)
We generally rate rumbly vibrations higher because most people enjoy them more, but buzzy versus rumbly is still a preference. The Flexer’s clit motor is for people who like strong, extremely buzzy intensity. It’s actually my buzziest dual-stimulation wearable.
The clit vibrations range from 139.59 Hz on low to 244.51 Hz on high – extremely buzzy throughout its entire range. The two vibration motors create a faint wobble sensation when they play off each other, which adds some complexity. But the Flexer is not at all rumbly.
If buzzy vibrations feel tickly or numb to you, the Lovense Dolce or Lelo Ida Wave are better.
G-spot Stimulation: Main Takeaways
In the next sections, I’ll cover the Flexer’s G-spot vibration power, rumbliness, and flexing motion.
Here’s the main conclusion: the Flexer’s G-spot stimulation is good for a dual-stim wearable, but the flexing motion contributes less than you’d expect. The external arm moves more than the internal arm with each flex, so you can feel some internal pressure, but it’s gentle.
Thankfully, the bulbous design transfers the vibrations well to the front wall. So the combination of internal vibes and gentle movement combines for an enjoyable experience.
But handheld vibrators provide much firmer front-wall pressure since you can leverage the base with your hand. Two of my favorites are the We-Vibe Nova 2 and Lovense Nora.
In the next sections, I’ll cover the Vulse’s vibration power, rumbliness, and thrusting motion in detail.
Here’s the main conclusion: the Vulse delivers good, enjoyable G-spot stimulation through its thrusting motion, but the vibrations are weak and buzzy. Don’t buy the Vulse expecting it to feel like the much stronger Lush models – the Lovense Lush 4 is 4x stronger.
Instead, it’s a nice option for those who prefer internal movement. For me, the Vulse works best paired with a favorite external clit vibrator: it does not carry me to orgasm by itself, but it noticeably enhances one.
G-spot Vibrations: Power, Range, and Transfer Effectiveness
The Flexer’s G-spot vibrations reach a moderate 4.9 out of 10 strength that enhances the experience when paired with the toy’s external vibes and flexing motion. I’m able to orgasm with the Flexer when the internal and external vibrations work together with the flexing motion.
But, the Lovense Dolce’s internal arm has nearly double the vibration strength of the Flexer. Both have an excellent, bulbous design that transfers the vibrations efficiently to the front wall.
If you find even gentle internal motion more stimulating than vibrations, the Flexer is a great option. If you don’t need motion, and feel stimulated from internal vibrations alone, the Dolce will feel the strongest to you.
The Vulse’s G-spot vibrations are weak for an egg vibrator. Its main feature is the thrusting motion, so the vibrations feel secondary: I rate its top power at 2.5 out of 10, with the low end starting at 0.8.
Lovense’s vibration-only eggs, like the Lovense Lush 4, Lush Mini, and Lush 3, are roughly 4x stronger. They also feel more G-spot focused since their bulbous, countoured shape angles and presses the vibrations into the front wall better than the Vulse’s straighter shape.
With the Vulse, I barely notice the vibrations alongside the thrusting. If strong G-spot vibrations matter more to you than motion, go with the Lovense Lush 4 or Lush Mini instead.
G-spot Vibrations: Frequency (Rumbliness)
We rate rumbly internal vibrations higher because they tend to feel deeper, though some people enjoy buzzy stimulation. The Flexer’s G-spot motor stays extremely buzzy across its entire range, from 182.44 Hz on low to 257.18 Hz on high.
Buzzy vibrations don’t travel as deep, so the buzzy vibrations at only a moderate strength on the Flexer definitely need the internal motion and external vibes to feel worthwhile.
If rumbliness is a priority, the Lovense Dolce is a much better pick.
We rate rumbly vibrations higher than buzzy ones because most people prefer deeper vibrations that travel through the body, though this is still a personal preference.
The Lovense Vulse is mostly buzzy. Though the vibrations start out moderately rumbly, the whole power range is too weak for any real impact. And by the time it’s reached the top power, its vibrating at 185 Hz – far into the extremely buzzy range. The Vulse’s vibrations need some deeper rumbliness to feel impactful at this strength.
The combination of weak and buzzy vibes means it is mostly the thrusting motion that drives the stimulation. If you prioritize rumbly vibrations over motion, go with the Lovense Lush 4 or VeDO Kiwi.
G-spot Stimulation from Motion
The Flexer’s motion is enjoyable, but it feels more like subtle internal pressure changes than the firm G-spot fingering that’s advertised.
The internal arm moves in a front-to-back arc at 34 to 63 cycles per minute. The flexing hinge is very strong, and doesn’t “give” under pressure like the flexible Lelo Ida Wave’s internal arm does. However, because there’s no “anchoring” point for the Flexer, the external arm moves more than the internal arm, causing the G-spot pressure to feel gentle. You really feel most of the motion on your clit.
I can orgasm with the Flexer when the motion is paired with clit vibrations and internal vibes. But handheld toys provide firmer internal pressure if that’s a big priority to you. The We-Vibe Nova 2 is great if you want to leverage the pressure yourself. And the Lovense Nora is better if you want automatic internal motion.
The Lovense Vulse provides enjoyable, noticeable internal motion, that strengthens my orgasms, but its thrusting does not target my G-spot as directly as I’d like.
The Vulse moves in and out rather than pressing upward into the front vaginal wall. So the stimulation feels more like general internal movement and fullness than focused G-spot pressure. It still feels good, and it performs much better than similar motion-based egg vibrators like the Lelo Hula Beads which has too little range of motion to be stimulating.
For me, the Vulse works best as hands-free internal stimulation paired with a separate clit vibrator. I can’t orgasm from internal stimulation alone, but its movement and fullness make my orgasms from clit stimulation feel stronger, fuller, and more drawn-out.
The Vulse’s motion motor is good – it doesn’t stall or slow down under pressure. And you have good control over the thrusting speed through the Lovense app. You can change it gradually from 55 cycles per minute (CPM) to 104. How far the Vulse thrusts is fixed at about 0.28 inches. While it’s a fairly shallow motion, its enough for me to enjoy, but some people may want more depth.
Compared with dual-stimulation motion wearables, the Vulse creates more noticeable internal movement than the Lovense Flexer, whose motor mainly moves the external clit arm. The Vulse’s internal motion feels about as stimulating as the Lelo Ida Wave, though the Vulse creates more fullness while the Ida Wave directs its rotating motion more toward the front wall. Both the Flexer and Ida Wave also provide built-in clit stimulation, so I can orgasm with them hands-free; the Vulse requires a separate clit vibrator.
App Control: Main Takeaways
In the next sections, I’ll cover the Lovense app’s close-range features, long-distance features, and connectivity in detail.
Here’s the main conclusion:
The Lovense app is by far the best of any brand. It provides the most control, is easiest to use, and has the most reliable connectivity. If an outstanding app is your top priority, stick to a Lovense toy.
In the next sections, I’ll cover the Lovense app’s close-range features, long-distance features, and connectivity in detail.
Here’s the main conclusion:
The Lovense app is by far the best of any brand. It provides the most control, is easiest to use, and has the most reliable connectivity. If an outstanding app is your top priority, stick to a Lovense toy.
App Control: Close-Range Features
The Lovense Flexer’s app has the best close-range features of any brand.
On the main Remote screen, you drag the control dots up or down to adjust intensity of the vibrations and speed of the flexing motion.
Tap Float to hold a steady power/speed, or Loop to draw a custom pattern that repeats. Since the toy reacts as you draw, you can feel the pattern in real time instead of creating it blindly and testing it later. If you like what you made, tap Record to save it to My Patterns.
Lovense typically allows separate control of each motor. Unfortunately, the two arms’ separate vibrating motors are tied together. Setting the vibration intensity of the internal arm does the same to the external arm. But the flexing motion is still controlled separately.
For presets, the My Patterns screen includes Lovense’s default patterns, anything you’ve saved, and patterns downloaded from Lovense’s active community library.
Lovense’s sound-reactive mode is also the best I’ve used. You can set a minimum decibel threshold, so the toy stays still until the room gets loud enough, and adjust sensitivity to control how much of the toy’s power range it uses. The live decibel readout makes it easy to calibrate. Many other apps either combine these controls or don’t offer a threshold at all.
The music-sync mode works with Spotify or local files and follows the music well enough for hands-free variation. You can cap the intensity to keep it in your comfortable range.
Lovense also includes a few useful extras: Voice Control, device-to-device control with certain Lovense toys, and per-toy max intensity settings. The intensity cap is helpful if you want to limit noise or prevent a partner from setting the toy too strong.
Overall, the Lovense app’s close-range features are excellent – and the best of any brand I’ve tested.
The Vulse’s app has the best close-range features of any brand.
On the main Remote screen, you drag a control dot up or down to adjust vibration intensity and speed of thrusting. Lovense typically provides control of separate motors in the app, but unfortunately the vibrations and thrusting are linked in the Vulse. So raising the vibration intensity increases the thrusting speed, and vice versa.
Tap Float to hold a steady power level and thrusting speed, or Loop to draw a custom pattern that repeats. Since the toy reacts as you draw, you can feel the pattern in real time instead of creating it blindly and testing it later. If you like what you made, tap Record to save it to My Patterns.
You can also control multiple Lovense toys at once with each toy getting its own dots on the Remote screen. For example, you can pair both the Lovense Ferri (a clit vibrator) and the Vulse for simultaneous clit and G-spot stimulation. Or you can control your own toy and a nearby partner’s toy at once. We tested four toys simultaneously without issue.
For presets, the My Patterns screen includes Lovense’s default patterns, anything you’ve saved, and patterns downloaded from Lovense’s active community library.
Lovense’s sound-reactive mode is also the best I’ve used. You can set a minimum decibel threshold, so the toy stays still until the room gets loud enough, and adjust sensitivity to control how much of the toy’s power range it uses. The live decibel readout makes it easy to calibrate. Many other apps either combine these controls or don’t offer a threshold at all.
The music-sync mode works with Spotify or local files and follows the music well enough for hands-free variation. You can cap the intensity to keep it in your comfortable range.
Lovense also includes a few useful extras: Voice Control, device-to-device control with certain Lovense toys, and per-toy max intensity settings. The intensity cap is helpful if you want to limit noise or prevent a partner from pushing the toy too high.
Overall, the Lovense app’s close-range features are excellent – and still the best of any brand I’ve tested.
App Control: Long-Distance Features
Lovense also has the best long-distance experience of any brand, by a wide margin.
During messaging or video calls, your partner gets the same excellent Remote screen used for close-range control. They can set a steady intensity or flexing speed with Float or draw a repeating pattern with Loop, so long-distance control doesn’t feel stripped down. The only small downside is that you can’t control your own toy during a video call – only your partner can.
The video call tools are excellent. Incoming calls are easy to notice and accept, and once you’re in a call, the video feed is clear. You can mute, toggle your camera, switch between front and back cameras, cast audio to a speaker, or end the call. The controls stay out of the way until you tap the screen, and you can move your self-view so it doesn’t block your partner.
The app also handles normal phone use well. You can lock your screen or switch to another app without disrupting the session.
Messaging is equally strong. The thread is easy to follow, and you can send voice notes, photos, and videos from your camera or camera roll. There’s also an optional “burn after reading” feature for one-time viewing that prevents screenshots, and it works as intended.
Lovense gives you helpful partner settings too. You can let a trusted partner auto-accept control requests, get a notification when they come online, or hide your online status from specific people. Each partner can have different settings.
Lovense also offers the broadest anonymous and group control options. You can send a one-time control link or create a group link for up to 10 people. When the time runs out, they lose access and can’t request control again.
If long-distance play is the main reason you’re buying a wearable vibrator, Lovense is the best choice.
Lovense also has the best long-distance experience of any brand, by a wide margin.
During messaging or video calls, your partner gets the same excellent Remote screen used for close-range control. They can set a steady intensity/speed with Float or draw a repeating pattern with Loop, so long-distance control doesn’t feel stripped down. The only small downside is that you can’t control your own toy during a video call – only your partner can.
The video call tools are excellent. Incoming calls are easy to notice and accept, and once you’re in a call, the video feed is clear. You can mute, toggle your camera, switch between front and back cameras, cast audio to a speaker, or end the call. The controls stay out of the way until you tap the screen, and you can move your self-view so it doesn’t block your partner.
The app also handles normal phone use well. You can lock your screen or switch to another app without disrupting the session.
Messaging is equally strong. The thread is easy to follow, and you can send voice notes, photos, and videos from your camera or camera roll. There’s also an optional “burn after reading” feature for one-time viewing that prevents screenshots and it works as intended.
Lovense gives you helpful partner settings too. You can let a trusted partner auto-accept control requests, get a notification when they come online, or hide your online status from specific people. Each partner can have different settings.
Lovense also offers the broadest anonymous and group control options. You can send a one-time control link or create a group link for up to 10 people. When the time runs out, they lose access and can’t request control again.
If long-distance play is the main reason you’re buying a wearable vibrator, Lovense is the best choice.
App Control: Connectivity
The Flexer’s connectivity is excellent. Lovense has the most reliable app connection of any brand I’ve tested, both for nearby Bluetooth control and long-distance play.
Pairing is quick: the very first time you connect, just tap Add Toy, turn the Flexer on, and it appears in the app within seconds. After that first setup, it auto-connects as soon as you turn it on with the app open.
Once paired, the Flexer stays connected through normal phone use, including locking your screen, switching apps, or leaving the app idle.
It also handles body interference very well. Body tissue can weaken Bluetooth more than walls or clothing, which is why some wearable vibrators work fine for solo control but drop connection when a partner controls them from certain angles. In our body-interference test, the Flexer stayed connected through all three positions, including the hardest one.
Bluetooth range was excellent too, reaching about 315 feet in our clear line-of-sight test. That’s one of the longest ranges we’ve measured for a wearable and far more than most people will need. Though walls and other interference will shorten real-world range.
If the it does disconnect, the app reconnects automatically once the signal is clear. A red “Reconnecting…” message also tells the controlling partner that control has paused. You can choose whether the toy stops vibrating during a disconnect with Auto-Stop, or keeps vibrating at the last intensity level until it reconnects.
Long-distance connectivity is also excellent. The toy connects to your phone over Bluetooth, and your phone connects to your partner’s phone over Wi-Fi or cell data. Since the Bluetooth connection is strong, long-distance play works well as long as your internet connection is decent. Sessions stay stable, commands go through reliably, and locking your phone or switching apps doesn’t disrupt control.
One quirk: if you start a session on Wi-Fi and then switch to cell data, the first switch can drop control and require a quick re-invite. After that, switching works normally. To avoid this, start the session on cellular data – then you can switch freely between the two.
The Vulse’s connectivity is excellent. Lovense has the most reliable app connection of any brand I’ve tested, both for nearby Bluetooth control and long-distance play.
Pairing is quick: the very fist time, just tap Add Toy, turn the Vulse on, and it appears in the app within seconds. After that first setup, it auto-connects as soon as you turn it on with the app open.
Once paired, the Vulse stays connected through normal phone use, including locking your screen, switching apps, or leaving the app idle.
It also handles body interference very well. Body tissue can weaken Bluetooth more than walls or clothing, which is why some egg vibrators work fine for solo control but drop connection when a partner controls them from certain angles. In our body-interference test, the Vulse stayed connected through all three positions, including the hardest one. Other eggs, like the Satisfyer Ribbed Petal lost connection at certain angles.
Bluetooth range was excellent too, reaching about 240 feet in our clear line-of-sight test. That’s far more than most people will need, though the newer Lovense Lush 4 reached an even farther 365 feet. Keep in mind, walls and other interference will shorten real-world range.
If the Vulse does disconnect, the app reconnects automatically once the signal is clear. A red “Reconnecting…” message also tells the controlling partner that control has paused. You can choose whether the toy stops vibrating during a disconnect with Auto-Stop, or keeps vibrating at the last intensity level until it reconnects.
Long-distance connectivity is also excellent. The toy connects to your phone over Bluetooth, and your phone connects to your partner’s phone over Wi-Fi or cell data. Since the Bluetooth connection is strong, long-distance play works well as long as your internet connection is decent. Sessions stay stable, commands go through reliably, and locking your phone or switching apps doesn’t disrupt control.
One quirk: if you start a session on Wi-Fi and then switch to cell data, the first switch can drop control and require a quick re-invite. After that, switching works normally. To avoid this, start the session on cellular data and then you can switch freely between the two.
Remote Control: Main Takeaways
The Lovense Flexer doesn’t include a physical remote control. A remote lets you adjust the toy by feel – without pulling out your phone. Though there’s other downsides like less depth and no visual feedback to help your partner know what your toy’s doing. If you want to consider options with physical remotes, see our recommendations in these guides:
- best remote and app-controlled vibrators (all types of vibrators)
- best wearable vibrators (wearables only).
The Lovense Vulse doesn’t include a physical remote control. A remote lets you adjust the toy by feel – without pulling out your phone. Though there’s other downsides like less depth and no visual feedback to help your partner know what your toy’s doing. If you want to consider options with physical remotes, see our recommendations in these guides:
- best remote and app-controlled vibrators (all types of vibrators)
- best wearable vibrators (wearables only).
On-Toy Controls
The Flexer’s on-toy controls work as a backup, but the app is the main way to use this toy. A single button cycles through three power levels and four patterns on the same loop, with the vibration and motion functions linked together.
Lovense lets you customize the three on-toy preset power levels in the app so the button provides access to the levels you like. This can be useful if you don’t want to mess with the app for quick, immediate interaction.
However, the button sits far enough back on the toy that it’s annoying to reach while using. So the app is really what you should count on in typical use.
While the app is the main way to control the Vulse, the toy does have a single externally accessible button on the antenna. This is much better than egg vibrators with a button on the body of the egg, which you have to remove to access.
The single button cycles through three power levels and four patterns on the same loop. You cannot step backward, so dropping to a gentler/slower level means clicking through the remaining settings first. Seven total settings is not terrible for backup control, but I would rather Lovense leave patterns out of the on-toy cycle.
If you do plan to use the on-toy button, Lovense allows you to set the 3 on-toy preset powers to whatever intensity you want through the app. That way, you can customize it to settings you’ll actually use.
Secure Fit & Adjustability
The Flexer’s fit is workable when using it hands-free in bed, but it moves around a lot and does not feel secure when walking. Some of that movement is intentional – the flexing arm presses both internally and externally. But it also makes the stimulation feel a bit chaotic and less secure.
The bigger issue is that the Flexer is rigid and not adjustable. If the shape lines up well with your anatomy, it can be very stimulating. If it doesn’t, there’s not much you can do to improve the fit. That makes it a riskier pick than adjustable dual-stim toys like the Lovense Dolce, which stays in place better and has a good adjustable spine to help you get a better fit for your individual anatomy.
The Flexer feels least secure when the flexing motion is on. With vibrations alone, it’s more stable, but still has a “half in” feeling that makes me less confident moving around. During light activity, especially bending or squatting, I worry it could work its way out. And it’s not comfortable to wear when moving around anyway.
I’d treat the Flexer as an in-bed toy, not something for walking around. For dual-stimulation you can wear around more easily, try pairing the Lovense Ferri with the Lovense Lush 4 or Lush Mini.
The Lovense Vulse fits very securely – it’s the most secure of any of my wearable vibrators with motion. It was surprisingly comparable to eggs that only vibrate.
In bed, it stays exactly where I put it, even while the thrusting motion is running. When I walk around, the antenna can occasionally twist slightly causing the toy to rotate a bit to one side, but this doesn’t change the stimulation at all, and it stayed fully inserted – I’m not worried about it falling out at all.
Most of my other motion-based wearables are only safe for use in bed because the moving mechanism causes the toy to work its way out, but this is not an issue for the Vulse.
Like all egg vibrators, it’s not adjustable, because it simply slides into place. There are no hinges or bendable arms – eggs are more of a one-size-fits-all design.
Comfort
The Flexer can be an uncomfortable dual-stimulation wearable, and takes some warmup and unique preferences to enjoy. It is rigid, girthy, and the flexing motion can pinch against my pubic bone.
It’s best for those who prefer a fuller internal feel, and don’t mind firm pressure on your clit.
I find it most comfortable lying in bed. Sitting up or bending forward makes it feel too tight. Walking around is worse – my movement feels restricted in normal activities like walking, stairs, standing, or sitting.
This might be fine for those who value the strong, unique stimulation it provides. But if comfort is a priority, the Fantasy For Her G-spot Stimulate-Her is one of my most comfortable dual-stimulation wearables in bed. Or, egg and panty vibrators are more comfortable to wear around.
The Vulse is comfortable in bed as long as you like some girth. Though it has some oddities you have to get used to.
In bed, it feels more natural than the Lelo Hula Beads for me: it settles into the right spot, and importantly – it slides up high enough that it does not press uncomfortably against my vaginal opening.
It still provides a bit of a stretch and bladder pressure like other eggs of this size, so it’s best for those who enjoy some girth, or prefer shorter sessions.
When moving around, the straight (but flexible) antenna can be annoying, especially when walking or lying on my stomach. I prefer the curved, form-fitting antennas of the newer Lush models like the Lush 4, because they don’t tap unpredictably against my clit or stick out as much. And I personally find the thrusting motion more ditracting than enjoyable when walking around so I still prefer vibration-only eggs for that.
If you prioritize comfort, the Lovense Lush Mini is my favorite egg because it’s smaller and doesn’t press as much against my bladder. And the curved antenna fits snug against my body.
But if you want a motion-based toy, the Lovense Vulse is reasonably comfortable in bed and while moving.
Noise
The Flexer is very loud. The vibrations are high-pitched and buzzy, and the flex motor adds a distinct non-constant mechanical sound that draws attention.
Decibel readings were 49.7 dBA on low and 54.7 dBA on high. Those numbers are not extreme, but the high-pitched, uneven sound makes it easier to hear.
In our background noise masking test, I wear the toy while my partner listens from three feet away and we play pink noise through a speaker at quiet, moderate, and loud volumes. Even with our loudest background audio playing all the Flexer’s settings were audible – low power was barely noticeable, but middle and high were still unmistakable.
We also check whether my partner can hear me use it behind our closed bedroom door. The middle and high powers were audible. A box fan helped enough that high power was barely audible and probably would not be noticed in normal use. To be completely masked, I had to play music in the bedroom.
If you want dual-stimulation from motion that’s quieter, consider the Lelo Ida Wave.
The Lovense Vulse is louder than any of my other egg vibrators, so it’s not a great option if discretion is important to you.
The issue is the high-pitched thrusting motor. The back and forth motion creates an inconsistent sound that’s much more noticeable than the consistent, lower-pitched hum of vibration-only eggs like the Lovense Lush 4.
In our Background Noise Masking testing, I wore the Vulse while my partner listened from three feet away with pink noise playing at quiet, moderate, and loud volumes. The Vulse’s low power was masked in every condition, but middle power was still audible with quiet and moderate background noise, and high power stayed audible even with our loudest masking audio.
I also have my partner listen from behind a closed bedroom door, while I use the vibrator in bed. My partner could hear the Vulse’s high power, and could still barely hear it when I turned a box fan on in the bedroom. Music was the only thing that masked it.
The Vulse’s noise is quieter than the demo video above once worn, but certainly still loud. If you’re easily annoyed by sound or need something quiet, the Lovense Lush 4 is the better option.
Battery Life
The Lovense Flexer has a great battery life, lasting 95 minutes on high in our test. That’s comparable with or better than other dual-stimulation wearables, and plenty for most in-bed or long-distance sessions.
The Vulse has a sub-par battery life of about 60 minutes at max power in our testing. That is enough for most use in the bedroom, but short if you plan to wear it around. Egg vibrators designed to wear around typically last longer.
If you prioritize extended wear or often forget to charge between uses, the Lovense Lush 4 lasts twice as long.
Cleaning
The Flexer is IPX7 waterproof and easy to clean with soap and water. You can rinse it thoroughly after use, including at the hinge, where the internal and external arms meet.
The Vulse is very easy to clean because it is IPX7 waterproof. You can rinse it under running water or fully submerge it while scrubbing with soap and water.
Build Quality
The Flexer feels sturdy and well-built. I’ve had mine since 2022 and it’s still working how it did when I first got it.
It is covered in smooth, firm silicone, and the connecting arm between the internal and external sections is very strong. The flexing movement comes from the motor, not from the toy feeling floppy or manually bendable.
That rigidity contributes to the comfort problems, but it also makes the toy feel durable.
My main frustration with the build has to do with noise. The flex motor can be especially high-pitched in a cheap-sounding way. It’s not as quiet as premium options like the Lelo Ida Wave.
The Vulse feels well built. It is covered in smooth silicone, the antenna feels sturdy, and the thrusting motor holds up to pressure without slowing or stalling.
The high-pitch of the thrusting motor can be annoying and doesn’t necessarily sound high-quality. But I’ve owned this toy since 2023, and it continues to operate as expected.