Here’s the main conclusion: the Dolce has one of the strongest clit motors out of all my wearables, and it’s one of the few I can orgasm with hands-free from the clit stimulation alone.

The gradual settings from gentle to intense provide lots of warmup space, and, when both motors are running, they play off each other for an enjoyable, deeper thudding sensation.

The adjustability makes it more likely you’ll get good clit contact, though it’s still somewhat dependent on your anatomy for the perfect fit. But even if it’s not direct – the vibrations are strong enough that they travel.

In the next sections, I’ll cover the Flexer’s clit vibration power and rumbliness in-depth.

Here’s the main conclusion: the Flexer provides some of the more-intense clit stimulation out of the dual-stim wearables I have tested, and I can orgasm with it hands-free. The vibrations are buzzy and the flexing motion on your clit can be overstimulating at times though.

If more consistent clit pressure and rumbliness matters most, go with the Lovense Dolce, which doesn’t have a movement motor. If you’re interested in the motion and enjoy buzzy vibes, stick with the Flexer.

The Lovense Dolce has one of the strongest clit motors of any wearable I’ve tested, with a top power of 9.75 out of 10 – a touch stronger than even Lovense’s panty vibrator, the Lovense Ferri. It’s easily strong enough for me to orgasm hands-free from clit stimulation alone when the toy’s positioned well, and even when the fit sits a little off to the side, the vibrations are powerful enough that it’s still one of the most stimulating wearables for external vibes.

It also has one of the broadest power ranges you’ll find in a wearable – starting at a gentle 1 out of 10 strength with very gradual adjustability. That’s really useful since you likely wont be varying the toy’s position or pressure with your hand, if you’re sticking with wearing it for hands-free stimulation.

For me, both of the Dolce’s arms are a touch long, so the external arm sits near my clit, but not pressed totally against it. You can adjust the angle of the hinge point, but not the lengths of the arms. So whether the vibrations transfer well to you depends on the fit.

Thankfully, the vibrations are so strong that it stays very stimulating even without firm, direct contact. Especially when the two motors’ vibrations work together to create a sort of “thumping” feel.

If you want more guaranteed direct clitoral contact with your wearable, try the Lovense Ferri, a panty vibrator that you can position wherever you need it in your underwear and secure it with a strong magnetic clip. You can pair it with the Lovense Lush 4 to add in the G-spot vibes.

But if you’re not as concerned about a perfect fit, the Lovense Dolce is our strongest dual-stimulator.

The Flexer’s clit motor is very strong, reaching 9.1 out of 10 on high – one of my strongest wearables. And it still starts gently enough that I can warm up before using the stronger settings.

With wearables, strong motors only matter if the toy keeps that motor in contact with your body. In bed, the Flexer does that well, but in a unique way: When the flexing motion is active, the external arm moves back and forth, varying the clit pressure. This makes the stimulation feel stronger and more interesting to me as the external arm presses those vibrations firmly into my clit.

The Flexer is a good fit if you like movement and intensity shifts, but some will prefer consistent contact instead. If you want a dual-stimulation toy that stays in one spot and a more controlled feel, go with the vibration-only Lovense Dolce. The Lelo Ida Wave’s clit stimulation is also more consistent and rumbly while also providing G-spot stimulation from motion.

We rate rumbly vibrations higher than buzzy ones because most people prefer them. But it’s a personal preference.

The Dolce’s clit motor is more rumbly than most wearables. It starts extremely rumbly on its lowest setting (around 49 Hz), stays neutral through the middle, and only turns extremely buzzy at full power (around 116 Hz).

Vibrations always get buzzier as the power rises, and the Dolce provides a nice variety of frequencies. And if you’re running both motors at once, (especially one high and one low) you can achieve a low-frequency “beat” sensation from the two motors interacting with each other – that beat makes the vibrations feel deeper and more rumbly than their raw frequency alone suggests.

The Dolce’s external motor is actually more rumbly than the Lovense Ferri, so it’s a great pick for those who prefer deeper vibrations.

The Lelo Ida Wave is slightly more rumbly, but it’s not as strong overall. So if you prioritize a good balance of rumbliness and power, the Dolce is better.

We generally rate rumbly vibrations higher because most people enjoy them more, but buzzy versus rumbly is still a preference. The Flexer’s clit motor is for people who like strong, extremely buzzy intensity. It’s actually my buzziest dual-stimulation wearable.

The clit vibrations range from 139.59 Hz on low to 244.51 Hz on high – extremely buzzy throughout its entire range. The two vibration motors create a faint wobble sensation when they play off each other, which adds some complexity. But the Flexer is not at all rumbly.

If buzzy vibrations feel tickly or numb to you, the Lovense Dolce or Lelo Ida Wave are better.

In the next sections, I’ll cover the G-spot motor’s power and rumbliness in detail.

Here’s the main conclusion: the Dolce has the most powerful G-spot motor I’ve tested in a dual-stimulation wearable. Its girthy, bulbous arm presses firmly into my front wall, so the strong vibrations transfer right to your G-spot where you want them.

The vibes feel rumbly on low and buzzy on high. But when you have both motors going together, it adds a thuddy sensation that feels deeper and more layered.

In the next sections, I’ll cover the Flexer’s G-spot vibration power, rumbliness, and flexing motion.

Here’s the main conclusion: the Flexer’s G-spot stimulation is good for a dual-stim wearable, but the flexing motion contributes less than you’d expect. The external arm moves more than the internal arm with each flex, so you can feel some internal pressure, but it’s gentle.

Thankfully, the bulbous design transfers the vibrations well to the front wall. So the combination of internal vibes and gentle movement combines for an enjoyable experience.

But handheld vibrators provide much firmer front-wall pressure since you can leverage the base with your hand. Two of my favorites are the We-Vibe Nova 2 and Lovense Nora.

The Lovense Dolce has the most stimulating G-spot arm of my dual-stimulation wearable vibrator. Its internal motor is strong, reaching about 9.4 out of 10 on high, and that power tranfers to my G-spot well: the bulbous arm presses firmly against the front wall, hands-free.

These strong vibes and pressure on my G-spot make my orgasms from the clit vibrations feel richer and fuller.

Like the clit motor, the G-spot arm has incremental adjustments through the app – much more control than budget options like the Fantasy For Her G-spot Stimulate-Her provide. It starts gentle enough to warm up with, and gradually builds to the extreme top strength without large jumps. A wide range like this makes it easy to find power levels that work for you without getting overstimulated.

What makes the vibrations land so well is the internal arm’s shape. It’s a bit wider and thicker than even Lovense’s famous Lush eggs, so it applies firm pressure and creates a really full feel. The slim-armed Fantasy For Her actually reaches a hair higher on paper (about 9.75 out of 10), but its narrow arm doesn’t press as firmly, so the Dolce feels more stimulating.

The dedicated G-spot eggs still do one thing better: the Lovense Lush 4 and older models press a little more precisely into the ideal spot since you’re not trying to position two arms in a perfect place. So if targeted G-spot stimulation alone is all you’re after, an egg vibrator can be better. But the Dolce also provides the clit stimulation that many need to orgasm (which the Lush eggs lack).

The Flexer’s G-spot vibrations reach a moderate 4.9 out of 10 strength that enhances the experience when paired with the toy’s external vibes and flexing motion. I’m able to orgasm with the Flexer when the internal and external vibrations work together with the flexing motion.

But, the Lovense Dolce’s internal arm has nearly double the vibration strength of the Flexer. Both have an excellent, bulbous design that transfers the vibrations efficiently to the front wall.

If you find even gentle internal motion more stimulating than vibrations, the Flexer is a great option. If you don’t need motion, and feel stimulated from internal vibrations alone, the Dolce will feel the strongest to you.

The Lovense Dolce has a good balance between rumbly and buzzy vibes. But it is my most rumbly powerful dual-stimulation toy. And when both motors run together, there’s an extra thuddy sensation layered in that makes the vibes feel even more rumbly.

Rumbliness matters more on the G-spot side than it does for the clit motor. On the clit side, you’re placing the vibe directly on a highly sensitive area, so whether the vibrations are deeper (rumbly) or more surface-level (buzzy), it feels very stimulating. But G-spot vibrations have to travel farther through tissue to reach more nerve-rich regions, and lower-frequency vibes do that better.

So it helps that the Dolce’s G-spot motor is on the more rumbly end compared to most wearables. The entire first half of it’s settings fall in the rumbly range, and it only turns extremely buzzy at the very top strength. But when you have the two motors going at the same time, it adds that low-frequency “beat” sensation that keeps the top level from turning into a thin surface-level buzz.

The Dolce has the best balance of rumbliness and power I’ve found in a dual-stimulation wearable.

We rate rumbly internal vibrations higher because they tend to feel deeper, though some people enjoy buzzy stimulation. The Flexer’s G-spot motor stays extremely buzzy across its entire range, from 182.44 Hz on low to 257.18 Hz on high.

Buzzy vibrations don’t travel as deep, so the buzzy vibrations at only a moderate strength on the Flexer definitely need the internal motion and external vibes to feel worthwhile.

If rumbliness is a priority, the Lovense Dolce is a much better pick.

The Flexer’s motion is enjoyable, but it feels more like subtle internal pressure changes than the firm G-spot fingering that’s advertised.

The internal arm moves in a front-to-back arc at 34 to 63 cycles per minute. The flexing hinge is very strong, and doesn’t “give” under pressure like the flexible Lelo Ida Wave’s internal arm does. However, because there’s no “anchoring” point for the Flexer, the external arm moves more than the internal arm, causing the G-spot pressure to feel gentle. You really feel most of the motion on your clit.

I can orgasm with the Flexer when the motion is paired with clit vibrations and internal vibes. But handheld toys provide firmer internal pressure if that’s a big priority to you. The We-Vibe Nova 2 is great if you want to leverage the pressure yourself. And the Lovense Nora is better if you want automatic internal motion.

In the next sections, I’ll cover the Lovense app’s close-range features, long-distance features, and connectivity in detail.

Here’s the main conclusion:

The Lovense app is by far the best of any brand. It provides the most control, is easiest to use, and has the most reliable connectivity. If an outstanding app is your top priority, stick to a Lovense toy.

In the next sections, I’ll cover the Lovense app’s close-range features, long-distance features, and connectivity in detail.

Here’s the main conclusion:

The Lovense app is by far the best of any brand. It provides the most control, is easiest to use, and has the most reliable connectivity. If an outstanding app is your top priority, stick to a Lovense toy.

The Lovense Dolce’s app has the best close-range features of any brand. It gives easy intuitive control over power or patterns.

On the main Remote screen, you drag the control dots up or down to adjust intensity of the vibrations.

Tap Float to hold a steady power, or Loop to draw a custom pattern that repeats. Since the toy reacts as you draw, you can feel the pattern in real time instead of creating it blindly and testing it later. If you like what you made, tap Record to save it to My Patterns.

Lovense provides separate control of each motor, so you can set them to different intensities. Or drag one dot on top of the other to control them together if you find that easier.

For presets, the My Patterns screen includes Lovense’s default patterns, anything you’ve saved, and patterns downloaded from Lovense’s active community library.

Lovense’s sound-reactive mode is also the best I’ve used. You can set a minimum decibel threshold, so the toy stays quiet until the sound around you is louder, and adjust sensitivity to control how much of the toy’s power range it uses. The live decibel readout makes it easy to calibrate. Many other apps either combine these controls or don’t offer a threshold at all.

The music-sync mode works with Spotify or local files and follows the music well enough to keep the vibrations varying without any effort on your end. You can cap the intensity to keep it in a comfortable range to you.

Lovense also includes a few useful extras: Voice Control, device-to-device control with certain Lovense toys, and per-toy max intensity settings. The intensity cap is helpful if you want to limit noise or prevent a partner from pushing the toy too high.

Overall, the Lovense app’s close-range features are excellent – and easily the best of any brand I’ve tested.

The Lovense Flexer’s app has the best close-range features of any brand.

On the main Remote screen, you drag the control dots up or down to adjust intensity of the vibrations and speed of the flexing motion.

Tap Float to hold a steady power/speed, or Loop to draw a custom pattern that repeats. Since the toy reacts as you draw, you can feel the pattern in real time instead of creating it blindly and testing it later. If you like what you made, tap Record to save it to My Patterns.

Lovense typically allows separate control of each motor. Unfortunately, the two arms’ separate vibrating motors are tied together. Setting the vibration intensity of the internal arm does the same to the external arm. But the flexing motion is still controlled separately.

For presets, the My Patterns screen includes Lovense’s default patterns, anything you’ve saved, and patterns downloaded from Lovense’s active community library.

Lovense’s sound-reactive mode is also the best I’ve used. You can set a minimum decibel threshold, so the toy stays still until the room gets loud enough, and adjust sensitivity to control how much of the toy’s power range it uses. The live decibel readout makes it easy to calibrate. Many other apps either combine these controls or don’t offer a threshold at all.

The music-sync mode works with Spotify or local files and follows the music well enough for hands-free variation. You can cap the intensity to keep it in your comfortable range.

Lovense also includes a few useful extras: Voice Control, device-to-device control with certain Lovense toys, and per-toy max intensity settings. The intensity cap is helpful if you want to limit noise or prevent a partner from setting the toy too strong.

Overall, the Lovense app’s close-range features are excellent – and the best of any brand I’ve tested.

Lovense also has the best long-distance experience of any brand, by a wide margin.

During messaging or video calls, your partner gets the same excellent Remote screen used for close-range control. They can set a steady intensity with Float or draw a repeating pattern with Loop, so long-distance control doesn’t feel stripped down. The only small downside is that you can’t control your own toy during a video call – only your partner can.

The video call tools are excellent. Incoming calls are easy to notice and accept, and once you’re in a call, the video feed is clear. You can mute, toggle your camera, switch between front and back cameras, cast audio to a speaker, or end the call. The controls stay out of the way until you tap the screen, and you can move your self-view so it doesn’t block your partner.

The app also handles normal phone use well. You can lock your screen or switch to another app without disrupting the session.

Messaging is equally strong. The thread is easy to follow, and you can send voice notes, photos, and videos from your camera or camera roll. There’s also an optional “burn after reading” feature for one-time viewing that prevents screenshots, and it works as intended.

Lovense gives you helpful partner settings too. You can let a trusted partner auto-accept control requests – so they can take control of your toy by surprise. Or get a notification when they come online, or hide your online status from specific people. Each partner can have different settings.

Lovense also offers the broadest anonymous and group control options. You can send a one-time control link or create a group link for up to 10 people. When the time runs out, they lose access and can’t request control again.

If long-distance play is the main reason you’re buying a wearable vibrator, Lovense is the best choice.

Lovense also has the best long-distance experience of any brand, by a wide margin.

During messaging or video calls, your partner gets the same excellent Remote screen used for close-range control. They can set a steady intensity or flexing speed with Float or draw a repeating pattern with Loop, so long-distance control doesn’t feel stripped down. The only small downside is that you can’t control your own toy during a video call – only your partner can.

The video call tools are excellent. Incoming calls are easy to notice and accept, and once you’re in a call, the video feed is clear. You can mute, toggle your camera, switch between front and back cameras, cast audio to a speaker, or end the call. The controls stay out of the way until you tap the screen, and you can move your self-view so it doesn’t block your partner.

The app also handles normal phone use well. You can lock your screen or switch to another app without disrupting the session.

Messaging is equally strong. The thread is easy to follow, and you can send voice notes, photos, and videos from your camera or camera roll. There’s also an optional “burn after reading” feature for one-time viewing that prevents screenshots, and it works as intended.

Lovense gives you helpful partner settings too. You can let a trusted partner auto-accept control requests, get a notification when they come online, or hide your online status from specific people. Each partner can have different settings.

Lovense also offers the broadest anonymous and group control options. You can send a one-time control link or create a group link for up to 10 people. When the time runs out, they lose access and can’t request control again.

If long-distance play is the main reason you’re buying a wearable vibrator, Lovense is the best choice.

The Dolce’s connectivity is excellent. Lovense has the most reliable app connection of any brand I’ve tested, both for nearby Bluetooth control and long-distance play.

Pairing is quick: The very first time you connect, simply tap Add Toy, turn the Dolce on, and it appears in the app within seconds. After that first setup, it auto-connects as soon as you turn it on with the app open.

Once paired, the Dolce stays connected through normal phone use, including locking your screen, switching apps, or leaving the app idle.

It also handles body interference very well. Water-rich materials (like body tissue) can weaken Bluetooth more than walls or clothing, which is why some egg vibrators work fine for solo control but drop connection when a partner controls them from certain angles. In our body-interference test, the Dolce stayed connected through all three positions, including the hardest one.

Bluetooth range was excellent too, reaching about 340 feet in our clear line-of-sight test. That’s one of the longest ranges we’ve measured for a wearable and far more than most people will need. Though walls and other interference will shorten real-world range.

If the Dolce does disconnect, the app reconnects automatically once the signal is clear. A red “Reconnecting…” message also tells the controlling partner that control has paused. You can choose whether the toy stops vibrating during a disconnect with Auto-Stop, or keeps vibrating at the last intensity level until it reconnects.

Long-distance connectivity is also excellent. The toy connects to your phone over Bluetooth, and your phone connects to your partner’s phone over Wi-Fi or cell data. Since the Bluetooth connection is strong, long-distance play works well as long as your internet connection is decent. Sessions stay stable, commands go through reliably, and locking your phone or switching apps doesn’t disrupt control.

One quirk: if you start a session on Wi-Fi and then switch to cell data, the first switch can drop control and require a quick re-invite. After that, switching works normally. To avoid this, start the session on cellular data – for some reason if you do that, you can switch freely between cell data and Wi-Fi without issue.

The Flexer’s connectivity is excellent. Lovense has the most reliable app connection of any brand I’ve tested, both for nearby Bluetooth control and long-distance play.

Pairing is quick: the very first time you connect, just tap Add Toy, turn the Flexer on, and it appears in the app within seconds. After that first setup, it auto-connects as soon as you turn it on with the app open.

Once paired, the Flexer stays connected through normal phone use, including locking your screen, switching apps, or leaving the app idle.

It also handles body interference very well. Body tissue can weaken Bluetooth more than walls or clothing, which is why some wearable vibrators work fine for solo control but drop connection when a partner controls them from certain angles. In our body-interference test, the Flexer stayed connected through all three positions, including the hardest one.

Bluetooth range was excellent too, reaching about 315 feet in our clear line-of-sight test. That’s one of the longest ranges we’ve measured for a wearable and far more than most people will need. Though walls and other interference will shorten real-world range.

If the it does disconnect, the app reconnects automatically once the signal is clear. A red “Reconnecting…” message also tells the controlling partner that control has paused. You can choose whether the toy stops vibrating during a disconnect with Auto-Stop, or keeps vibrating at the last intensity level until it reconnects.

Long-distance connectivity is also excellent. The toy connects to your phone over Bluetooth, and your phone connects to your partner’s phone over Wi-Fi or cell data. Since the Bluetooth connection is strong, long-distance play works well as long as your internet connection is decent. Sessions stay stable, commands go through reliably, and locking your phone or switching apps doesn’t disrupt control.

One quirk: if you start a session on Wi-Fi and then switch to cell data, the first switch can drop control and require a quick re-invite. After that, switching works normally. To avoid this, start the session on cellular data – then you can switch freely between the two.

The Lovense Dolce doesn’t include a physical remote control. A remote lets you adjust the toy by feel – without pulling out your phone. Though there’s other downsides like less depth and no visual feedback to help your partner know what your toy’s doing. If you want to consider options with physical remotes, see our recommendations in these guides:

• best remote and app-controlled vibrators (all types of vibrators)
• best wearable vibrators (wearables only).

The Lovense Flexer doesn’t include a physical remote control. A remote lets you adjust the toy by feel – without pulling out your phone. Though there’s other downsides like less depth and no visual feedback to help your partner know what your toy’s doing. If you want to consider options with physical remotes, see our recommendations in these guides:

• best remote and app-controlled vibrators (all types of vibrators)
• best wearable vibrators (wearables only).

The Lovense Dolce has some of the best on-toy controls of any wearable I’ve tested. While you’ll probably use the app most of the time, the on-toy controls are still helpful if you don’t want to hold something or when straightening the spine to use the Dolce like a handheld vibe.

A pair of +/- buttons on the external arm lets you step up or down through 3 power levels and 4 patterns. The two buttons are nice, because you can backtrack instead of having to cycle thorugh every setting on a loop. And the buttons are raised, so you can find them easily without having to look.

The buttons only give you three steady power levels; the full range lives in the app. But through the app, you can set those three preset levels to be whatever intensities you enjoy most – so they’ll be levels you’ll actually use.

The Flexer’s on-toy controls work as a backup, but the app is the main way to use this toy. A single button cycles through three power levels and four patterns on the same loop, with the vibration and motion functions linked together.

Lovense lets you customize the three on-toy preset power levels in the app so the button provides access to the levels you like. This can be useful if you don’t want to mess with the app for quick, immediate interaction.

However, the button sits far enough back on the toy that it’s annoying to reach while using. So the app is really what you should count on in typical use.

The Lovense Dolce has good adjustability, and is the most secure fit out of all my dual-stim wearables. It doesn’t budge whether using it in bed, walking around the house, or even during heavier activity like running or jumping.

The girthy internal arm keeps the toy fully inserted, and prevents it from swaying side to side. Many of my other dual-stim toys start to loosen and work themselves out of place with movement.

And it has the good adjustability too. Many other strong dual-stimulation wearables, like the Lelo Ida Wave and Fantasy For Her G-spot Stimulate-Her – are simply flexible, and spring back. You can’t change their shape to fit your body better. But the Dolce has an adjustable spine you can shape to fit you better.

The Dolce holds at the angle you set it to. It even adjust a little side to side so you can nudge the external arm toward one side of your clit or the other. However, you can’t make either arm shorter or longer. It fits my anatomy okay, but you’re out of luck if you end up needing a longer clit arm, or shorter G-spot arm. So it’s still somewhat dependent on your personal anatomy.

If you are concerned about fit, a safer way to replicate a dual-stimulation toy is to pair the Lovense Lush Mini or Lush 4 for G-spot stimulation with the Lovense Ferri for clitoral stimulation. You can clip the Ferri in your underwear at the most stimulating position, so you’re not restricted to the set arm length of the Dolce.

Once the Dolce inserted, it’s actually difficult to adjust because of how firm the hinge is – a little annoying until you find the right fit, but convenient for the tight hold. This rigidity and girth works great for a secure fit, but it does cause some issues with comfort – primarily when walking around.

The Flexer’s fit is workable when using it hands-free in bed, but it moves around a lot and does not feel secure when walking. Some of that movement is intentional – the flexing arm presses both internally and externally. But it also makes the stimulation feel a bit chaotic and less secure.

The bigger issue is that the Flexer is rigid and not adjustable. If the shape lines up well with your anatomy, it can be very stimulating. If it doesn’t, there’s not much you can do to improve the fit. That makes it a riskier pick than adjustable dual-stim toys like the Lovense Dolce, which stays in place better and has a good adjustable spine to help you get a better fit for your individual anatomy.

The Flexer feels least secure when the flexing motion is on. With vibrations alone, it’s more stable, but still has a “half in” feeling that makes me less confident moving around. During light activity, especially bending or squatting, I worry it could work its way out. And it’s not comfortable to wear when moving around anyway.

I’d treat the Flexer as an in-bed toy, not something for walking around. For dual-stimulation you can wear around more easily, try pairing the Lovense Ferri with the Lovense Lush 4 or Lush Mini.

The Lovense Dolce can be a bit uncomfortable, mainly when walking around. In bed, it can be comfortable in the right position and depending on your preferences for girth.

The same things that keep it securely in place are what affect comfort: the bulbous arm is most comfortable to those who don’t mind a stretch and a full feel. I prefer internal toys that are slimmer, so the Dolce is most comfortable to me when laying flat. If I try to bend forward, it starts to press painfully at my vaginal opening and against my bladder.

The adjustable, but somewhat rigid hinge also gets in the way once you’re not laying flat. There’s no squish to cushion your pubic bone, and when you’re walking, this can get pushed too hard against you. Especially if you’re wearing clothes that will force the clit arm firmly against your body.

None of this is unusual for a strong dual-stimulation wearable. They’re generally the bulkiest wearables there are. They’re really only designed for in-bed use, and most don’t even stay fully inserted unless you’re lying down.

If you’re sensitive to girth and pubic-bone pressure, the slimmer Fantasy For Her G-spot Stimulate-Her may be more comfortable in bed – but you give up the Dolce’s stronger, stimulation and its app control. And if what you really want is a toy to wear comfortably while you’re up and moving around, combine the Lovense Ferri panty vibrator with the Lovense Lush 4. You can control them together in the same great Lovense app.

The Flexer can be an uncomfortable dual-stimulation wearable, and takes some warmup and unique preferences to enjoy. It is rigid, girthy, and the flexing motion can pinch against my pubic bone.

It’s best for those who prefer a fuller internal feel, and don’t mind firm pressure on your clit.

I find it most comfortable lying in bed. Sitting up or bending forward makes it feel too tight. Walking around is worse – my movement feels restricted in normal activities like walking, stairs, standing, or sitting.

This might be fine for those who value the strong, unique stimulation it provides. But if comfort is a priority, the Fantasy For Her G-spot Stimulate-Her is one of my most comfortable dual-stimulation wearables in bed. Or, egg and panty vibrators are more comfortable to wear around.

Unfortunately, the Lovense Dolce is louder than most wearables I’ve tested, especially on its higher settings – a bit expected, since both its motors are powerful.

Decibel readings range from 43 dBA on low to about 57 dBA on high. On those higher settings the vibrations also take on a slight grating quality rather than the kind of clean, consistent hum of the Lovense Lush 4 that blends in with other background sounds more easily.

The Dolce did worse than many wearables in our Background Noise Masking subtest, where I wear the toy while my partner listens from three feet away and we play pink noise through a speaker at set volumes (56, 62, and 68 dBA). Its lowest strength was masked by the quietest background noise we played, but on the middle and high strengths we had to raise the audio to our moderate volume (62 dBA) before he could no longer hear it. Plenty of wearables – including the Lush 4 and Lelo Ida Wave – were fully masked by that quietest audio.

For the closed-door test, my partner listens directly outside our closed bedroom door while I use the Dolce like a handheld toy. Wearing dampens sound, and the Dolce works well handheld because you can straighten the spine and grip the clit arm like a handle, so holding it gives us the most conservative results. My partner couldn’t hear the low setting through the door, but the middle and high came through clearly. Turning a box fan to its lowest setting was enough to mask both.

If you want a more discreet dual-stimulation wearable without giving up much power, the Lelo Ida Wave stays fully masked at our quietest tested background level on every setting.

The Flexer is very loud. The vibrations are high-pitched and buzzy, and the flex motor adds a distinct non-constant mechanical sound that draws attention.

Decibel readings were 49.7 dBA on low and 54.7 dBA on high. Those numbers are not extreme, but the high-pitched, uneven sound makes it easier to hear.

In our background noise masking test, I wear the toy while my partner listens from three feet away and we play pink noise through a speaker at quiet, moderate, and loud volumes. Even with our loudest background audio playing all the Flexer’s settings were audible – low power was barely noticeable, but middle and high were still unmistakable.

We also check whether my partner can hear me use it behind our closed bedroom door. The middle and high powers were audible. A box fan helped enough that high power was barely audible and probably would not be noticed in normal use. To be completely masked, I had to play music in the bedroom.

If you want dual-stimulation from motion that’s quieter, consider the Lelo Ida Wave.

The Lovense Dolce has a short battery life – in our test it ran 45 minutes with both arms vibrating at their highest power before dying: among the shortest of any wearable I’ve tested.

That 45-minute figure is a worst case, though. It’s measured at constant full power on both motors. Since you’ll likely spend plenty of time on lower settings, or with only one of the motors running strong, your real runtime will likely be longer. For a typical solo session in bed – where the Dolce is at its best – that’s usually enough, as long as you charge it beforehand.

If you want to go longer between charges, the Lelo Ida Wave lasted 135 minutes at full power in our test, though its stimulation isn’t as strong. Or pair the Lovense Lush 4 and Lovense Ferri which both have a run time of 2 or more hours on high.

The Lovense Flexer has a great battery life, lasting 95 minutes on high in our test. That’s comparable with or better than other dual-stimulation wearables, and plenty for most in-bed or long-distance sessions.

The Lovense Dolce is very easy to clean because it’s fully waterproof – rated IPX7. You can rinse it under a running faucet or fully submerge it in soapy water.

The Flexer is IPX7 waterproof and easy to clean with soap and water. You can rinse it thoroughly after use, including at the hinge, where the internal and external arms meet.

The Lovense Dolce has excellent build quality. It’s covered in smooth, firm, body-safe silicone, and the central hinge feels strong and solid, with no loosening in the time I’ve owned it. I’ve had mine since 2021 when it was still called the Quake, and it still works like it did when I bought it.

The Flexer feels sturdy and well-built. I’ve had mine since 2022 and it’s still working how it did when I first got it.

It is covered in smooth, firm silicone, and the connecting arm between the internal and external sections is very strong. The flexing movement comes from the motor, not from the toy feeling floppy or manually bendable.

That rigidity contributes to the comfort problems, but it also makes the toy feel durable.

My main frustration with the build has to do with noise. The flex motor can be especially high-pitched in a cheap-sounding way. It’s not as quiet as premium options like the Lelo Ida Wave.