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Dame Com Review

Tested & Rated with Methodology v1.1

Overall Score

7.9

What is it:

How generally good the wand is. It’s a weighted average of the wand’s performance in various areas.

Scoring Factors:

6.8

18%

7.0

14%

8.7

15%

10.0

13%

8.4

11%

7.8

13%

8.5

8%

Build Quality

7.5

4%

9.5

1%

6.8

3%

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Performance Ratings

6.8
7.0
8.4
8.7
9.3
7.8
7.5
9.5
6.8
8.5

MAX VIBRATION POWER

POWER RANGE

RUMBLINESS

COMFORT & EASE OF USE

USE DURING SEX

NOISE

ATTACHMENT COMPATIBILITY

MOUNT COMPATIBILITY

BATTERY LIFE

BUILD QUALITY

Our Verdict

The Dame Com is a good option if you enjoy the broad stimulation wands provide, but prefer milder, rumbly vibrations over the immense power many full-sized wands pack.

Unlike many extremely powerful large wands, the Dame Com’s highest setting is only minimally stronger than non-wand vibrators like rabbits or G-spot vibrators. It has plenty of gentle levels for warming up. Though its vibrations aren’t overwhelmingly powerful, it’s one of our most rumbly wands. Every setting is deep and rumbly which can prevent overstimulation or numbing.  

It has a unique handle shape that may be hit or miss based on your preferences. The curved shape helps me leverage the wand, but I find gripping it awkward personally. I end up holding it near the head and I feel the vibrations in my hand. It is one of my favorite wands to use hands-free with my Liberator wand mounts though. The curved handle positions the head right near my clit for excellent stimulation.

For those overstimulated by extreme power, the Dame Com is a great choice. If you’re looking for the overwhelming strength typically associated with a wand, consider other options like the BMS PalmPower Extreme or Magic Wand Plus.

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Pros

  • Unique, curved handle is easy to use during sex
  • Extremely rumbly vibrations
  • Excellent to use hands-free with wand mounts

Cons

  • Vibrations travel into the hand
  • Medium powered

Table of Contents

Compare Wand Vibrators​

The Dame Com is a good wand vibrator if you enjoy broad stimulation but not the overwhelming strength many wands provide. Its vibrations are milder but more rumbly than other wands in its price range, like the BMS PalmPower Extreme and Magic Wand Rechargeable. Other than its gentler vibration strength (a personal preference), it performs similarly well to competing wands. Those who want rumbly vibrations with more intense power should consider the Fun Factory Vim.

Also see all our recommendations for the best wand vibrators, the best rechargeable wand vibrators, and the best waterproof wand vibrators. If you prefer more moderate strength (like the Dame Com’s), but enjoy more precise stimulation, you may prefer one of my best bullet vibrators.


Vibrations: Power And Range


Max Power Rating

6.8

What is it:

How strong the wand vibrator’s highest power level feels.

When does it matter:

If you prefer the extreme power some wands offer or want to make sure your wand at least reaches a certain strength.

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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Power Range Rating:

7.0

What is it:

How wide the range is between the highest and lowest power levels, and whether it has enough power levels that steps between levels aren’t too large.

When does it matter:

A broad power range is usually important because it enables more versatile stimulation. You can start on softer levels when your body isn’t ready for crazy strong power. But when you want more strength, you can turn it up high.

Scoring Factors:

7.0

100%

Adjusted Power Range Width

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Power vs Frequency Graph:

What is it:

A graph of each wand vibrator’s power vs frequency across all of its power levels. 

When does it matter:

If you want a detailed look at the full power and frequency characteristics of any particular wand vibrator. This will tell you how strong and how rumbly each setting of the wand feels.

How Strong Is Each Power?

  • Power ≤ 3: Comparable to the vibration strength of smaller vibrators like bullets.
  • Power between 3 and 4.5: Comparable to … 

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  • Power ≤ 3: Comparable to the vibration strength of smaller vibrators like bullets.
  • Power between 3 and 4.5: Comparable to the vibration strength of mid-sized, non-wand vibrators like the Lelo Mona 2, Lovense Hyphy, Lovense Lush 3, We-Vibe Nova 2, etc.
  • Power between 4.5 and 7: Slightly to moderately more powerful than mid-sized, non-wand vibrators like those mentioned above. 
  • Power ≥ 7: Substantially stronger than other kinds of vibrators. These levels feel extremely powerful.

The Vibration Power scale is defined with a 10.0 given to the most powerful wand vibrator’s highest strength (Currently the Doxy Die Cast). So a vibration power of 8.0 feels 80% as strong as the Doxy Die Cast. A 5.0 feels 50% as strong, and so on.

The Dame Com’s vibration power is relatively mild for a mid-sized wand, though it’s certainly much stronger than their bullet vibrator, the Dame Zee. The Com’s top strength is only slightly greater than mid-sized non-wand vibrators like the Lelo Mona 2 or Lovense Hyphy. But since the head is larger, the vibrations are more diffuse, which can make them feel even milder.

Dame Com Larger Head vs Focal Stimulation
The Dame Com with vibrators of similar strength, but more direct stimulation – Lovense Hyphy (middle) and Lelo Mona 2 (right)

Starting at 1.1 out of 10 and gradually increasing through five levels up to 4.67 out of 10, the Dame Com is best for those sensitive to intense power or abrupt jumps between settings. This moderate stimulation offers an alternative for those who enjoy the broad, diffuse stimulation wands provide, but don’t enjoy the overwhelming power of other wands. 

If you’d rather have extreme strength, consider the BMS PalmPower Extreme or Magic Wand Plus. For those content with the strength of their non-wand vibrators, the Dame Com is a great option.

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Vibrations: Frequency (Rumbliness)


Rumbliness Rating:

8.4

What is it:

How “rumbly” (low frequency) or “buzzy” (high frequency) a wand vibrator feels at each of its power levels. And whether a wand can deliver strong vibrations while remaining reasonably rumbly. Higher scores indicate a “more rumbly” (lower-frequency) wand, since the majority of people prefer rumbliness. But ultimately vibration frequency is a personal preference.

When does it matter:

If you prefer vibrations in a specific area along the rumbly-to-buzzy spectrum.

Scoring Factors:

9.6

50%

7.1

50%

0%

Power vs Frequency Graphs

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Power vs Frequency Graph:

What is it:

A graph of each wand vibrator’s power vs frequency across all of its power levels. 

When does it matter:

If you want a detailed look at the full power and frequency characteristics of any particular wand vibrator. This will tell you how strong and how rumbly each setting of the wand feels.

Frequency on Low Power:

36 Hz

(Extremely Rumbly)

Median Frequency:

44 Hz

(Extremely Rumbly)

What is it:

What part of the frequency spectrum a wand vibrator’s power levels are centered around. It’s the vibration frequency of the wand’s middle power level (the average of the two middle levels if there is an even number of settings).

When does it matter:

If you prefer vibrations in a particular part of the frequency spectrum. This is a fast way to see whether one wand’s vibration levels are generally more rumbly or buzzy than another wand’s vibration settings. Since most people prefer rumbly toys, a higher performance score implies a lower-frequency (more rumbly) wand. 

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Frequency on High Power:

56 Hz

(Extremely Rumbly)

Ave Power Per Frequency:

7.1

What is it:

A measure that rewards wand vibrators that remain rumbly (low-frequency) while packing good vibration strength. Calculated for a wand using the normalized power / normalized frequency at each power level and taking the median.

When does it matter:

If you want a wand with a good balance of power and rumbliness.

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Most people prefer rumbly vibrations, so we rate rumbly wands higher than buzzy wands.

The Dame Com delivers exceptionally rumbly vibrations at all power levels, staying below 60 Hz on high – a feat few wands accomplish. And it’s more rumbly than the Dame Pom – the brand’s palm vibrator that’s also designed for broad stimulation.

The Dame Com’s deep, low-frequency vibrations help keep it from feeling overstimulating or numbing. Its rumbliness is part of what makes it great for those who like broad but milder stimulation.

If you’d rather have extremely rumbly vibrations with more power, also consider the Fun Factory Vim or Lovense Domi 2. But for an extremely rumbly mid-powered wand, the Dame Com is the best.

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Comfort & Ease Of Use


Comfort & Ease of Use Rating:

8.7

What is it:

How comfortable the wand is to hold and press against your body. As well as how easy it is to press the buttons, leverage the wand for good pressure, and maneuver it to apply the stimulation where and how you want it. This rating also includes how easy the wand is to clean. Ratings are based primarily on solo use – I cover use during partnered sex here.

When does it matter:

If you are easily distracted by subtle discomforts such as feeling the vibrations in your hands, slight wrist strain, or an awkward grip on the handle. It also matters if you want a wand that’s easy to use for a wide variety of stimulation or for long periods of time.

These wands have excellent performance in this category and others. We only include wands we recommend overall, excluding wands that perform well here but not in other areas.

Scoring Factors:

7.4

22.5%

8.0

22.5%

10.0

22.5%

9.0

22.5%

10.0

10%

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Dame Com Comfort And Ease of Use

Handle Comfort:

7.4

What is it:

How comfortable the wand is to grip and hold during typical use.

When does it matter:

If you are sensitive to wrist strain, discomfort in your hands, or feeling vibrations in your hands. This may also matter more if you enjoy applying substantial pressure with your wand as you’ll need a comfier hold.

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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Head Comfort:

8.0

What is it:

 How comfortable the wand’s head is when pressed against your body during use.

When does it matter:

If you tend to get distracted if a wand’s head presses too firmly against your pubic bone, has weird textures or seams, or directs the vibes elsewhere besides your clit.

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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Easy Positioning & Pressure:

10.0

What is it:

How easily you can maneuver the wand in various ways to get different types of clit stimulation. And how easily you can leverage the wand and vary the pressure.

When does it matter:

If you like to apply a lot of pressure with your toy. Or if you need your wand placed in a particular spot and tend to make frequent adjustments.

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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Controls:

9.0

What is it:

How easy it is to use the controls and whether they have all the necessary functionality for a positive experience.

When does it matter:

If you typically switch power levels or vibration patterns during use.

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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Easy Cleaning:

10.0

What is it:

Whether a wand vibrator is waterproof, splashproof, or not rated. For wand vibrators without a waterproof rating, I subjectively rate how difficult it is to clean.

When does it matter:

If you’re worried about damaging your toy with water. Or if you won’t use your wand as much if cleaning is tedious.

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Waterproof Rating:

IPX7

What is it:

The waterproof rating of the wand vibrator – IPX7, IPX6, or No Rating

When does it matter:

When you plan to use your wand vibrator in the shower or want simpler cleaning.

  • IPX7 (Submersible): Wands with this rating are considered “waterproof.” You can submerge them in water up to a meter deep for up to 30 minutes. So you can use them in the bath and cleaning is easy.
  • IPX6 (Splashproof): Wands with this rating can resist high-pressure, heavy sprays of water, but should not be fully submerged. This means you can use them in the shower (but not submerged in a bath). You can also clean them under a sink faucet without worry.
  • No Rating: These wands do not have a waterproof rating. You should not use them in the shower, and you must be careful to keep water away from electronic components when cleaning them .

The Dame Com has a uniquely curved handle with a wave-like design, varying in thickness throughout. This shape helps me apply firmer pressure but can require adjustment depending on your personal grip preferences. I find its shape more awkward than helpful, though it’s not a huge deal.

I find gripping this wand close to the head most natural, but this causes vibrations in my hand, which can be distracting. Holding it farther away minimizes this effect, but you’ll need to experiment to find a comfy grip. The smooth silicone material feels luxurious and comfortable though.

Grip Point One on Dame Com
Two different ways to grip the Dame Com
Grip Point 2 on Dame Com

The head is firmer than I typically prefer. But the slightly flexible neck keeps the pressure comfortable. And the semi-rigid design helps leverage the wand better. 

The buttons are located near the base of the handle, which keeps them from interfering with my grip, but I do need to adjust my hold to press them. The controls are excellent with separate buttons to increase and decrease power, and a third to cycle through patterns. You can also change the intensity of the vibration patterns which many wands do not allow.

And the Dame Com is fully waterproof, so it’s really easy to clean.

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Use During Sex


Use During Sex Rating:

9.3

What is it:

How easy a wand vibrator is to maneuver and comfortably hold to your clit for quality stimulation during partnered sex.

When does it matter:

If you’ll frequently use your wand vibrator with a partner during penetrative sex.

Scoring Factors:

10.0

25%

9.0

25%

8.0

25%

10.0

25%

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Dame Com Fit in Tight Space

Spooning:

10.0

What is it:

How easy a wand vibrator is to maneuver and comfortably hold to your clit for quality stimulation in a spooning sex position – both partners lying on their side with the penetrating partner behind the person using the wand

When does it matter:

If you frequently have sex in the spooning position or similar positions from behind.

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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Doggystyle:

9.0

What is it:

How easy a wand vibrator is to maneuver and comfortably hold to your clit for quality stimulation in a Doggystyle sex position. The partner using the wand is on their knees with their upper body resting mostly on their shoulders since you need your hands to hold the wand. The penetrating partner is kneeling behind.

When does it matter:

If you frequently have sex in the Doggystyle position or similar variations from behind

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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Modified Missionary:

8.0

What is it:

How easy a wand vibrator is to maneuver and comfortably hold to your clit for quality stimulation in a Modified Missionary sex position – the partner using the wand vibrator is on their back with pillows or a wedge beneath their hips to raise them up. The penetrating partner is kneeling facing them.

When does it matter:

If you frequently have sex in positions facing each other with the partner receiving penetration on their back.

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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Cowgirl:

10.0

What is it:

How easy a wand vibrator is to maneuver and comfortably hold to your clit for quality stimulation in the Cowgirl sex position – the penetrating partner is lying on their back, while the partner using the wand is straddling on top of them.

When does it matter:

If you frequently have sex in positions facing each other with the partner receiving penetration on top.

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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The Dame Com is one of the easiest wands to use during sex. Its mid-sized head can still fit into fairly tight places, but still gives the broad stimulation of a larger wand. And I appreciate its handle shape more during sex. The curve helps leverage the wand for firm pressure, even in more limited space.

I don’t need to change my body positioning to fit its mid-sized head near my clit as I do with larger wands which sometimes require me to lean back in Cowgirl or angle my leg out while Spooning to create more space for the wand.

The handle’s length and curve also make finding the right angle in Doggystyle easy.

In Modified Missionary, I feel the vibrations in my hand more since I grip it close to the head – the groove between the handle and head is a useful finger-hold for support. But if you want to limit those vibrations, you can shift your grip lower.

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Noise


Noise Rating:

7.8

What is it:

How loud the wand vibrator is. We measure the decibels on low power & high power with a sound level meter. We also test whether we can hear each wand on the other side of a closed door.

When does it matter:

When you live with other people or are distracted by sound.

Scoring Factors:

10.0

33%

7.3

33%

6.0

33%

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Decibels on Low Power:

35 dB

What is it:

How loud the wand’s lowest power level is, measured in dB with a sound level meter approximately 12 inches away

When does it matter:

If you typically use a wand’s lower power levels. Several wands are so strong, many people will only use the lower end of their power range.

Good Value:

<43 dB is excellent; Nearly everything under this value was inaudible behind a closed door.

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Decibels on High Power:

45.0 dB

What is it:

How loud the wand’s highest power level is, measured in dB with a sound level meter approximately 12 inches away

When does it matter:

If you typically use a wand’s higher power levels (several wands are so strong, many people will only use the lower end of their power range) or want the freedom to use the full power range without worry. Also, if you choose a moderately powered wand you may use its top strengths more often.

Good Sound Level:

<50 dB

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Audibility Behind Closed Door:

What is it:

Whether my partner could hear me using the wand inside the bedroom while he stood on the other side of the closed bedroom door. We tested each wand on low, middle, and high power levels with the house completely silent. Then we tested each wand’s highest power while a box fan was turned on in the bedroom. Lastly, we tested the highest power while music was playing in the bedroom.

When does it matter:

When you live with other people and want to select a wand you can use confidently without them hearing.

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Low Power:

Inaudible

Middle Power:

Audible

High Power:

Audible

High Power with Box Fan:

Inaudible

High Power with Music:

Inaudible

For a mid-powered wand, the Dame Com isn’t that quiet. Its decibel levels are low – however, it can make a louder rattling sound when it’s not pressed against your body making it more noticeable (you can hear this in the video above).

Because I’ve read reviews touting the Dame Com as the quietest wand vibrator, I actually bought a second Com to see if the rattling sound was just a fluke. But both wands made this sound when not pressed to my body.

During our testing, its lower levels were completely inaudible from the other side of a closed bedroom door, but my partner heard its middle and upper levels. 

Turning on a box fan or playing music successfully masked the Dame Com’s noise on all power levels. So you can still use the Com if you live with others. You’ll just need to mask the noise with a fan.

But if low noise is a top priority, there are better alternatives like the Magic Wand Mini, which offers slightly more power and remains inaudible at every level.

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Attachment Compatibility


Attachment Compatibility Rating:

7.5

What is it:

Each wand vibrator’s compatibility with wand attachments. We consider how many attachments fit each wand vibrator and whether the ones that fit cover a broad variety of stimulation types (clit, G-spot, dual-stimulation, penis, prostate, etc.) Compatibility table here

When does it matter:

If you like to use your wand vibrator beyond its basic clitoral use.

Scoring Factors:

5.0

50%

10.0

50%

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Dame Com Compatible Wand Attachments

Number of Attachments Rating:

5.0

What is it:

Whether a wand vibrator is compatible with a large number of attachments or only a small selection.

When does it matter:

When you want a lot of choice in your wand vibrator attachments.

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Stimulation Variety:

10.0

What is it:

Whether the attachments that fit a particular wand vibrator cover a broad variety of kinds of stimulation (clit, G-spot, dual-stimulation, penis, prostate, etc.)

When does it matter:

When you want to make sure you can find attachments for various kinds of stimulation that fit your wand vibrator.

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The Dame Com has fair compatibility with wand attachments. Its head is mid-sized, so it’s not compatible with the majority of attachments designed for full-sized wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. But some attachments designed for other brands’ comparable wands also fit the Dame Com.

Lovense Domi’s attachments fit – offering penis, clit, G-spot, anal, and prostate stimulation. Attachments designed for the Le Wand Petite and PalmPower Extreme also fit the Dame Com. So you have some variety available, though your overall selection is more limited than full-sized wands. 

See our wand attachment compatibility table for all the attachments we’ve tested for compatibility with our wands.

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Mount Compatibility


Mount Compatibility Rating:

9.5

What is it:

How compatible the wand is with Liberator’s mounts which hold your wand vibrator so you can play hands-free.

When does it matter:

If you want to use your wand vibrator for hands-free play solo or with a partner.

Scoring Factors:

10.0

50%

9.0

50%

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Dame Com - Liberator Axis Wand Mount Compatibility Photo

Compatibility with Axis:

10.0

What is it:

How well a wand vibrator fits with the Liberator Axis wand mount. Whether the wand fits correctly and securely, and whether it can provide quality, comfortable clit stimulation when the wand is placed in the mount.

When does it matter:

If you own or plan to purchase the Axis mount. You can use this mount solo or with a partner, but I find it best for hands-free stimulation during partnered sex. You can lie on top of the mount face-down, and it makes using your wand vibrator hands-free during sex from behind comfortable and easy. (Like a more relaxing version of the Doggystyle sex position)

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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Dame Com - Liberator Wanda Mount Compatibility Photo

Compatibility with Wanda:

9.0

What is it:

How well a wand vibrator fits with the Liberator Wanda mount. Whether the wand fits correctly and securely, and whether it can provide quality, comfortable clit stimulation when the wand is placed in the mount.

When does it matter:

If you own or plan to purchase the Wanda mount. This mount is best if you enjoy positions on your knees. With the Axis mount, it’s easiest to lie on top of it. But you’ll straddle the Wanda on your knees. You can use it solo or with a partner.

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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I test all my wands with the Liberator Axis and Wanda mounts, and the Dame Com is one of my favorite hands-free wands.

Using the Axis mount, I lie on my stomach, and the mount holds the wand slightly upward between my legs. The Com’s mid-sized head comfortably disperses the vibrations, but they’re still somewhat direct (which I need more when playing hands-free). The curved handle positions the head closer to my clit than straight wands, for better contact and firmer pressure.

Wand In Use with Axis Overlay
My typical position when using the Liberator Axis mount (demonstrated with BMS PalmPower Extreme)

Because its vibrations are extremely rumbly I can enjoy them longer before I orgasm, without feeling overstimulated. This makes the Dame Com and Axis Mount a great combo to use during sex.

This wand also does well with the Wanda mount. This mount holds the wand upright, and you can straddle the mount on your knees. Leaning forward or backward varies the pressure and gives you control over the stimulation. You can also sit directly on the mount and receive stimulation if you situate the wand deeper into the mount’s slot.

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Battery Life


Battery Life Rating:

6.8

What is it:

How long the wand vibrator lasted continuously running on its highest power before its battery died during our test.

When does it matter:

If you want to play for long periods of time between charges.

Scoring Factors:

6.8

100%

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Dame Com Magnetic Charging Cable Photo

Battery Life on High Power:

75 minutes

Power Source:

Rechargeable

The Dame Come’s battery lasted 75 minutes continuously vibrating on high during our testing. This is near the average rechargeable wand performance and is likely enough for most people.  

But if you tend to forget to charge your wand, there are longer-lasting options like the Magic Wand Mini (210 minutes). 

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Build Quality


Build Quality Rating:

8.5

What is it:

Our perception of the wand vibrator’s durability and material quality; whether it feels cheap or sturdy and long-lasting. If we noticed any decline in a wand’s performance over our months of testing, it is accounted for in its Build Quality rating.

When does it matter:

When you want a wand vibrator to last for years. Many wand vibrator manufacturers provide a warranty (usually 1 to 2 years), but a higher quality wand vibrator is more likely to endure after your warranty is expired.

Scoring Factors:

Subjectively Scored

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The Dame Com has an entirely silicone body, which feels very high-quality and luxurious. The buttons feel well-made, and the plastic casing beneath the silicone feels solid and durable. I feel like I can apply very firm pressure without worrying about the neck breaking.

It’s not perfect though: the motor can rattle when the wand is held in open air. But it doesn’t happen when the wand’s in contact with your body.


General Design And Specs