The Dame Com’s vibration power is relatively mild for a mid-sized wand, though it’s certainly much stronger than their bullet vibrator, the Dame Zee. The Com’s top strength is only slightly greater than mid-sized non-wand vibrators like the Lelo Mona 2 or Lovense Hyphy. But since the head is larger, the vibrations are more diffuse, which can make them feel even milder.

Starting at 1.1 out of 10 and gradually increasing through five levels up to 4.67 out of 10, the Dame Com is best for those sensitive to intense power or abrupt jumps between settings. This moderate stimulation offers an alternative for those who enjoy the broad, diffuse stimulation wands provide, but don’t enjoy the overwhelming power of other wands.

If you’d rather have extreme strength, consider the BMS PalmPower Extreme or Magic Wand Plus. For those content with the strength of their non-wand vibrators, the Dame Com is a great option.

The Viben Obsession is significantly stronger than any of my non-wand vibrators, even on its softest setting. 

There are three power levels. The lowest starts at 7.7 out of 10 vibration strength, and it goes up to 8.5 on high. It doesn’t provide any warm-up, which is a bummer because I typically need softer power when I’m starting out. Otherwise, the vibrations feel too overwhelming.

I can only use the Viben Obsession’s lowest power level without feeling irritated. And even then, I need to use it over my clothes.

I find the second and third levels wildly unpleasant. They’re extremely buzzy which feels overwhelming and uncomfortable combined with the immense strength. I’ll talk more about that in the next section.

Many wands have a broader power range than the Viben Obsession – packing extreme power on high, but beginning gentler on low. I prefer these wands like the Lovense Domi, BMS PalmPower Extreme, among others.

Most people prefer rumbly vibrations, so we rate rumbly wands higher than buzzy wands.

The Dame Com delivers exceptionally rumbly vibrations at all power levels, staying below 60 Hz on high – a feat few wands accomplish. And it’s more rumbly than the Dame Pom (the brand’s palm vibrator that’s also designed for broad stimulation) and the Dame Min (the mini version of the Com).

The Dame Com’s deep, low-frequency vibrations help keep it from feeling overstimulating or numbing. Its rumbliness is part of what makes it great for those who like broad but milder stimulation.

If you’d rather have extremely rumbly vibrations with more power, also consider the Lovense Domi 2 or the Orion Grande Wand. But for an extremely rumbly mid-powered wand, the Dame Com is the best.

We rate wands with rumbly vibrations more highly than those with buzzy vibrations. Most people prefer rumbliness. But, there is definitely variation in peoples’ preferences. 

For example – I really enjoy neutral or moderately buzzy vibrations when they’re moderately powerful (roughly vibration strengths between 4 and 7). But when vibrations are both extremely buzzy and immensely powerful they become unbearable to me.

And that’s the problem with the Viben Obsession – it’s extreme in both power and buzziness. 

It’s one of the few wand vibrators we’ve tested that is already buzzy on its lowest setting! And on high, it’s the buzziest of all our wands. On the second or third power, I don’t even like to touch it to any part of my body. And I definitely don’t want it near my clit!

You can find comparably priced, powerful wands with better rumbliness. Whether that’s extreme rumbliness, like with the Lovense Domi, moderately rumbly like the Viben Sultry, or more neutral  like the BMS PalmPower Extreme. I enjoy each of these wands, and each provides powerful stimulation with deeper, more enjoyable rumbliness.

The Dame Com has a uniquely curved handle with a wave-like design, varying in thickness throughout. This shape helps me apply firmer pressure but can require adjustment depending on your personal grip preferences. I find its shape more awkward than helpful, though it’s not a huge deal.

I find gripping this wand close to the head most natural, but this causes vibrations in my hand, which can be distracting. Holding it farther away minimizes this effect, but you’ll need to experiment to find a comfy grip. The smooth silicone material feels luxurious and comfortable though.

The head is firmer than I typically prefer. But the slightly flexible neck keeps the pressure comfortable. And the semi-rigid design helps leverage the wand better.

The buttons are located near the base of the handle, which keeps them from interfering with my grip, but I do need to adjust my hold to press them. The controls are excellent with separate buttons to increase and decrease power, and a third to cycle through patterns. You can also change the intensity of the vibration patterns which many wands do not allow.

And the Dame Com is fully waterproof, so it’s really easy to clean.

The Viben Obsession has a comfortable handle that’s relatively narrow for a full-sized wand. People with small hands like me will find its slim, silicone handle comfortable and easy to grip. I also don’t feel any uncomfortable vibrations in my hands as I do with some wands. This surprised me since the Obsession is extremely powerful.

The head is large, which means you can’t fit it into tight areas, but it provides wider stimulation instead. Since the vibrations are so strong, you probably won’t need to position its head in a precise spot – it broadly stimulates the entire area. It’s also lighter than other full-sized wands so maneuvering it is fairly easy.

The head is firm, but the neck is extremely flexible which keeps it comfortable.

The controls are great. They’re easy to feel without looking, but I don’t accidentally press them. And you can both increase or decrease the power, which is necessary since this wand is so strong. You may need to step back down sometimes.

The Dame Com is one of the easiest wands to use during sex. Its mid-sized head can still fit into fairly tight places, but still gives the broad stimulation of a larger wand. And I appreciate its handle shape more during sex. The curve helps leverage the wand for firm pressure, even in more limited space.

I don’t need to change my body positioning to fit its mid-sized head near my clit as I do with larger wands which sometimes require me to lean back in Cowgirl or angle my leg out while Spooning to create more space for the wand.

The handle’s length and curve also make finding the right angle in Doggystyle easy.

In Modified Missionary, I feel the vibrations in my hand more since I grip it close to the head – the groove between the handle and head is a useful finger-hold for support. But if you want to limit those vibrations, you can shift your grip lower.

In this section, I try to rate how easy it is to use the wand during sex. I consider aspects like whether a wand limits how my partner and I can position our bodies and whether maneuvering the wand and keeping it in contact with my clit during sex is easy. 

I try to compartmentalize how the vibrations themselves feel. But I experience such discomfort from the Viben Obsession’s extremely buzzy vibrations during sex, it’s impossible to separate that component out completely.

With all the movement happening during sex, the Viben Obsession’s wide head bumps into my legs and other areas that I don’t want to be stimulated. And since the vibrations are so powerful and buzzy it feels uncomfortable and distracting.

This is especially the case in positions like Missionary or Spooning where I can’t lean back to create more space for the wand’s head. The Viben Obsession’s firm head also bumps uncomfortably into my pubic bone in Cowgirl.

The Obsession’s vibrations seem to feel more diffuse in Doggystyle, and I’m able to enjoy the lowest power level a bit. And the Viben Obsession has a long enough handle that I can support its weight by resting the wand’s base on the bed. So my arms don’t get tired using it in this position.

For a mid-powered wand, the Dame Com isn’t that quiet. Its decibel levels are low – however, it can make a louder rattling sound when it’s not pressed against your body making it more noticeable (you can hear this in the video above).

Because I’ve read reviews touting the Dame Com as the quietest wand vibrator, I actually bought a second Com to see if the rattling sound was just a fluke. But both wands made this sound when not pressed to my body.

During our testing, its lower levels were completely inaudible from the other side of a closed bedroom door, but my partner heard its middle and upper levels.

Turning on a box fan or playing music successfully masked the Dame Com’s noise on all power levels. So you can still use the Com if you live with others. You’ll just need to mask the noise with a fan.

But if low noise is a top priority, there are better alternatives like the We-Vibe Wand 2, which offers more power and remains inaudible at every level.

The Viben Obsession is my loudest wand vibrator. I find its noise distracting, and it’s certainly not discreet. 

My partner can hear it from the other side of our closed bedroom door on all power levels. And it’s the only wand that was not drowned out by playing music in the bedroom. My partner could still hear it on the other side of the door! 
The Viben Sultry and Magic Wand Rechargeable are comparably powerful, but much quieter (and more rumbly too!)

The Dame Com has fair compatibility with wand attachments. Its head is mid-sized, so it’s not compatible with the majority of attachments designed for full-sized wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. But some attachments designed for other brands’ comparable wands also fit the Dame Com.

Lovense Domi’s attachments fit – offering penis, clit, G-spot, anal, and prostate stimulation. Attachments designed for the Le Wand Petite and PalmPower Extreme also fit the Dame Com. So you have some variety available, though your overall selection is more limited than full-sized wands.

See our wand attachment compatibility table for all the attachments we’ve tested for compatibility with our wands.

The Viben Obsession has excellent compatibility with wand attachments. As a full-sized wand, the majority of attachments are designed for heads this size.

There are compatible attachments for a range of stimulation including G-spot, prostate, anal, penis, clitoral, and dual-stimulation. Below are the wand attachments we’ve tested for compatibility with the Viben Obsession.

I test all my wands with the Liberator Axis and Wanda mounts, and the Dame Com is one of my favorite hands-free wands.

Using the Axis mount, I lie on my stomach, and the mount holds the wand slightly upward between my legs. The Com’s mid-sized head comfortably disperses the vibrations, but they’re still somewhat direct (which I need more when playing hands-free). The curved handle positions the head closer to my clit than straight wands, for better contact and firmer pressure.

Because its vibrations are extremely rumbly I can enjoy them longer before I orgasm, without feeling overstimulated. This makes the Dame Com and Axis Mount a great combo to use during sex.

This wand also does well with the Wanda mount. This mount holds the wand upright, and you can straddle the mount on your knees. Leaning forward or backward varies the pressure and gives you control over the stimulation. You can also sit directly on the mount and receive stimulation if you situate the wand deeper into the mount’s slot.

I test my wands with the Liberator Wanda and Axis mounts which hold your wand so you can play hands-free. The Viben Obsession fits well with both mounts. 

The Axis works best lying on your stomach while the mount holds the wand between your legs. The Viben Obsession’s head rests in a good position for clit stimulation, sticking out just past the fabric. 

In the Axis, I prefer wands with an upward curve or angle like with the BMS PalmPower Extreme which put a little more pressure on my clit. But since the Viben Obsession’s power and buzziness are so intense, I’m happy to have slightly less contact with my clit.

The Wanda mount also holds the Obsession in a good position. I can comfortably straddle the mount while keeping the head in contact with my clit. The broad head provides plenty of surface area to lean against. And the flexible neck is comfortable when I press my weight back on it.

The Dame Come’s battery lasted 75 minutes continuously vibrating on high during our testing. This is near the average rechargeable wand performance and is likely enough for most people.

But if you tend to forget to charge your wand, there are longer-lasting options like the Magic Wand Mini (210 minutes).

The Viben Obsession lasts around 65 minutes on high power, which is shorter than other comparably strong wands. You’ll have to be vigilant about charging between uses.

If you tend to forget to charge your wand like me, you might want something with a longer battery life, like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. 

The Dame Com has an entirely silicone body, which feels very high-quality and luxurious. The buttons feel well-made, and the plastic casing beneath the silicone feels solid and durable. I feel like I can apply very firm pressure without worrying about the neck breaking.

It’s not perfect though: the motor can rattle when the wand is held in open air. But it doesn’t happen when the wand’s in contact with your body.

The Viben Obsession’s construction is decent overall. The buttons feel a little clicky. And the neck feels somewhat flimsy and makes a weird noise when I apply pressure. This makes me more cautious to press the Obsession as firmly as other wands. 

Other than that, the silicone and construction quality feels good.