The Dame Com’s vibration power is relatively mild for a mid-sized wand, though it’s certainly much stronger than their bullet vibrator, the Dame Zee. The Com’s top strength is only slightly greater than mid-sized non-wand vibrators like the Lelo Mona 2 or Lovense Hyphy. But since the head is larger, the vibrations are more diffuse, which can make them feel even milder.

Starting at 1.1 out of 10 and gradually increasing through five levels up to 4.67 out of 10, the Dame Com is best for those sensitive to intense power or abrupt jumps between settings. This moderate stimulation offers an alternative for those who enjoy the broad, diffuse stimulation wands provide, but don’t enjoy the overwhelming power of other wands.

If you’d rather have extreme strength, consider the BMS PalmPower Extreme or Magic Wand Plus. For those content with the strength of their non-wand vibrators, the Dame Com is a great option.

The Lelo Smart Wand 2 Medium is one of the least powerful wands I own. Its vibrations are gentle from start to finish. I can orgasm with it, but it takes time and effort.

I have bullet vibrators that are stronger than this wand. If all you want is the strength of a bullet, I would recommend something less expensive like the Lovense Ambi, or the We-Vibe Tango X if you prefer more rumbly vibrations. Or if you want something with a bit more length and a handle to grip, consider the Lelo Mona 2 or Lovense Hyphy.

But if you want the strength that wands are famous for, then there are several stronger, cheaper wands. Consider the Lovense Domi or BMS PalmPower Extreme for powerful mid-sized wands. Or the Magic Wand Plus for a full-sized wand.

Most people prefer rumbly vibrations, so we rate rumbly wands higher than buzzy wands.

The Dame Com delivers exceptionally rumbly vibrations at all power levels, staying below 60 Hz on high – a feat few wands accomplish. And it’s more rumbly than the Dame Pom (the brand’s palm vibrator that’s also designed for broad stimulation) and the Dame Min (the mini version of the Com).

The Dame Com’s deep, low-frequency vibrations help keep it from feeling overstimulating or numbing. Its rumbliness is part of what makes it great for those who like broad but milder stimulation.

If you’d rather have extremely rumbly vibrations with more power, also consider the Lovense Domi 2 or the Orion Grande Wand. But for an extremely rumbly mid-powered wand, the Dame Com is the best.

This wand’s vibrations are rumbly (low-frequency) rather than buzzy (high-frequency). And typically, rumbly vibrations are what people prefer.

However, the Smart Wand 2 Medium’s vibrations are so low-powered, that they still have little impact on me even with their rumbliness. But there are many wands that have more power with the same amount of rumbliness, and our rumbliness rating takes this into account.

Some of these include the Lovense Domi 2, We-Vibe Wand 2, and the full-sized Lelo Smart Wand 2 Large – each is a powerful, rumbly wand.

The Dame Com has a uniquely curved handle with a wave-like design, varying in thickness throughout. This shape helps me apply firmer pressure but can require adjustment depending on your personal grip preferences. I find its shape more awkward than helpful, though it’s not a huge deal.

I find gripping this wand close to the head most natural, but this causes vibrations in my hand, which can be distracting. Holding it farther away minimizes this effect, but you’ll need to experiment to find a comfy grip. The smooth silicone material feels luxurious and comfortable though.

The head is firmer than I typically prefer. But the slightly flexible neck keeps the pressure comfortable. And the semi-rigid design helps leverage the wand better.

The buttons are located near the base of the handle, which keeps them from interfering with my grip, but I do need to adjust my hold to press them. The controls are excellent with separate buttons to increase and decrease power, and a third to cycle through patterns. You can also change the intensity of the vibration patterns which many wands do not allow.

And the Dame Com is fully waterproof, so it’s really easy to clean.

The Lelo Smart Wand 2 Medium is a comfortable and easy-to-use wand. Its thin, curved handle is comfortable to hold and easy to maneuver.

The smaller head has a tiny bit of flex in the neck, which is perfect for comfy, yet firm pressure. And the buttons let you increase and decrease power to get the right stimulation level. You don’t need to cycle through power levels.

But if you’re going to buy a wand at this price, you can find more better options that are just as comfortable. The Magic Wand Mini is an excellent option that’s a similar size, has stronger vibrations, is just as comfortable – and is much cheaper.

The Dame Com is another mid-sized wand massager with a curved handle that’s helpful for applying firm pressure. But I enjoy its vibrations more.

The Dame Com is one of the easiest wands to use during sex. Its mid-sized head can still fit into fairly tight places, but still gives the broad stimulation of a larger wand. And I appreciate its handle shape more during sex. The curve helps leverage the wand for firm pressure, even in more limited space.

I don’t need to change my body positioning to fit its mid-sized head near my clit as I do with larger wands which sometimes require me to lean back in Cowgirl or angle my leg out while Spooning to create more space for the wand.

The handle’s length and curve also make finding the right angle in Doggystyle easy.

In Modified Missionary, I feel the vibrations in my hand more since I grip it close to the head – the groove between the handle and head is a useful finger-hold for support. But if you want to limit those vibrations, you can shift your grip lower.

This wand’s size and curved shape are fairly convenient during sex, but the stimulation is too low to be truly enjoyable.

If you want any sort of stimulation from these low-powered vibes, you have to apply the pressure more directly to your clit than is usual for a wand. And even though the head is not large – it’s not as small as my bullets. So I have a more difficult time getting good clitoral contact during sex, between our bodies.

I recommend either using a smaller vibrator like the We-Vibe Tango X or Lovense Hyphy.

Or if you prefer a wand massager, you can just get something stronger. This way, you don’t need contact with your clit to be as direct to feel the vibes. I enjoy plenty of other wands during sex.

The BMS PalmPower Extreme and Lovense Domi are two of my favorites.

For a mid-powered wand, the Dame Com isn’t that quiet. Its decibel levels are low – however, it can make a louder rattling sound when it’s not pressed against your body making it more noticeable (you can hear this in the video above).

Because I’ve read reviews touting the Dame Com as the quietest wand vibrator, I actually bought a second Com to see if the rattling sound was just a fluke. But both wands made this sound when not pressed to my body.

During our testing, its lower levels were completely inaudible from the other side of a closed bedroom door, but my partner heard its middle and upper levels.

Turning on a box fan or playing music successfully masked the Dame Com’s noise on all power levels. So you can still use the Com if you live with others. You’ll just need to mask the noise with a fan.

But if low noise is a top priority, there are better alternatives like the We-Vibe Wand 2, which offers more power and remains inaudible at every level.

The Lelo Smart Wand 2 (Medium) is definitely one of the quietest wands I own. But it’s not hard to be this quiet with such low power. There are many stronger wands that also remain discreet.

The We-Vibe Wand 2 for instance is a compact option that’s about 5x stronger and very discreet. My partner can’t hear any of its power levels on the other side of the closed bedroom door.

The Dame Com has fair compatibility with wand attachments. Its head is mid-sized, so it’s not compatible with the majority of attachments designed for full-sized wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. But some attachments designed for other brands’ comparable wands also fit the Dame Com.

Lovense Domi’s attachments fit – offering penis, clit, G-spot, anal, and prostate stimulation. Attachments designed for the Le Wand Petite and PalmPower Extreme also fit the Dame Com. So you have some variety available, though your overall selection is more limited than full-sized wands.

See our wand attachment compatibility table for all the attachments we’ve tested for compatibility with our wands.

The Smart Wand Medium has limited compatibility with wand attachments.

Its head is close enough in size to the Lovense Domi’s that the attachments designed for it also fit the Smart Wand. These cover a decent range of stimulation (G-spot, anal, prostate, penis, clitoral texture). But you don’t have many options beyond these attachments.

If attachment compatibility is important to you, a full-sized wand is a better option. Most attachments are designed for the Magic Wand Rechargeable and Plus (or comparably-sized wands).

I test all my wands with the Liberator Axis and Wanda mounts, and the Dame Com is one of my favorite hands-free wands.

Using the Axis mount, I lie on my stomach, and the mount holds the wand slightly upward between my legs. The Com’s mid-sized head comfortably disperses the vibrations, but they’re still somewhat direct (which I need more when playing hands-free). The curved handle positions the head closer to my clit than straight wands, for better contact and firmer pressure.

Because its vibrations are extremely rumbly I can enjoy them longer before I orgasm, without feeling overstimulated. This makes the Dame Com and Axis Mount a great combo to use during sex.

This wand also does well with the Wanda mount. This mount holds the wand upright, and you can straddle the mount on your knees. Leaning forward or backward varies the pressure and gives you control over the stimulation. You can also sit directly on the mount and receive stimulation if you situate the wand deeper into the mount’s slot.

I test my wands’ mount compatibility with my two Liberator mounts – the Axis and Wanda. These hold your wand for you so you can enjoy hands-free stimulation.

The Lelo Smart Wand 2 Medium fits well with the Wanda mount. This mount holds the wand in a slightly angled upright position. Then you straddle the mount for hands-free vibes. With the Smart Wand Medium’s more compact size, its head is positioned at just the right height. You can easily lower your weight onto it – whereas full-sized wands can stick up too high in the Wanda.

It doesn’t work as well in the Liberator Axis. With this mount, you lie on your stomach and the Axis holds your wand to the side at a slight upward angle. In this position, the Smart Wand’s smaller size hurts it. It doesn’t reach my clit as easily as larger wands and I have to focus on keeping my body in just the right position.

With mounts, I prefer wand vibrator’s with larger heads. The BMS PalmPower Extreme and Dame Com are my two favorites to use with both mounts. They have larger heads and angled shapes that help keep them in better contact with my clit than the Smart Wand Medium.

The Dame Come’s battery lasted 75 minutes continuously vibrating on high during our testing. This is near the average rechargeable wand performance and is likely enough for most people.

But if you tend to forget to charge your wand, there are longer-lasting options like the Magic Wand Mini (210 minutes).

The Lelo Smart Wand Medium has one of the shortest battery lives of all my wands. It lasts just 40 minutes on its highest power.

There are several longer-lasting options with more power. The comparably-sized Magic Wand Mini has more power and lasts for 3.5 hours on high! It’s a great option if you’re like me, and forget to charge your wand between uses.

The Dame Com has an entirely silicone body, which feels very high-quality and luxurious. The buttons feel well-made, and the plastic casing beneath the silicone feels solid and durable. I feel like I can apply very firm pressure without worrying about the neck breaking.

It’s not perfect though: the motor can rattle when the wand is held in open air. But it doesn’t happen when the wand’s in contact with your body.

The sleek, silicone and metallic plastic handle gives a sleek look to the Lelo Smart Wand 2 Medium that’s comfortable and functional. Overall this wand feels well-built and solid, though its motor is gentler than other wands.