The Dame Com’s vibration power is relatively mild for a mid-sized wand, though it’s certainly much stronger than their bullet vibrator, the Dame Zee. The Com’s top strength is only slightly greater than mid-sized non-wand vibrators like the Lelo Mona 2 or Lovense Hyphy. But since the head is larger, the vibrations are more diffuse, which can make them feel even milder.

Starting at 1.1 out of 10 and gradually increasing through five levels up to 4.67 out of 10, the Dame Com is best for those sensitive to intense power or abrupt jumps between settings. This moderate stimulation offers an alternative for those who enjoy the broad, diffuse stimulation wands provide, but don’t enjoy the overwhelming power of other wands.

If you’d rather have extreme strength, consider the BMS PalmPower Extreme or Magic Wand Plus. For those content with the strength of their non-wand vibrators, the Dame Com is a great option.

One of the main reasons the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand is a favorite of mine is that it packs excellent power while remaining easy to maneuver from its compact size. In fact, every wand vibrator I’ve tried that has more power is larger and heavier than the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand. 

Now this vibrator does have limited power range. There are only three power levels and they’re all pretty close together. This wand comes out of the gate with a bang – I rate it’s lowest power level a 6 out of 10. 

I personally don’t mind starting out at that 6/10 level – it’s strong but not overwhelming to me. But if you usually need gentle levels to warm up, you might consider a wand with a wider range like the Lovense Domi or Dame Com.

While there are wands with even more extreme power (see the Doxy Die Cast), the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand’s power will be plenty for most people. I personally don’t even need the second or third power levels. I usually stay on the first setting which is enough to bring me to orgasm on its own. 

The FemmeFunn Ultra Wand is also cheaper than any of the more powerful wands I recommend. 

Most people prefer rumbly vibrations, so we rate rumbly wands higher than buzzy wands.

The Dame Com delivers exceptionally rumbly vibrations at all power levels, staying below 60 Hz on high – a feat few wands accomplish. And it’s more rumbly than the Dame Pom (the brand’s palm vibrator that’s also designed for broad stimulation) and the Dame Min (the mini version of the Com).

The Dame Com’s deep, low-frequency vibrations help keep it from feeling overstimulating or numbing. Its rumbliness is part of what makes it great for those who like broad but milder stimulation.

If you’d rather have extremely rumbly vibrations with more power, also consider the Lovense Domi 2 or the Orion Grande Wand. But for an extremely rumbly mid-powered wand, the Dame Com is the best.

The FemmeFunn Ultra is best for people who enjoy moderately rumbly to neutral vibrations. It has above average rumbliness, but it’s not extreme. (By the way, if you prefer buzzy vibrations, consider the FemmeFunn Booster Bullet or FemmeFunn Ultra Bullet – two of my favorite small, buzzy vibrators!)

The FemmeFunn Ultra Wand’s first two power levels feel moderately rumbly, and the highest level feels neutral. Since even the first two settings have substantial power, you’ll likely spend a lot of time with these – so you’ll experience some light rumbliness as you play. 

But this may or may not be a good fit depending on your preferences. We rate more rumbly wands higher since that’s most people’s preference. But many prefer more neutral vibrations and some prefer buzzy.

If you prefer more extreme rumbliness, the Dame Com is a moderately-powered, more rumbly option. And the Lovense Domi 2 is a high-powered, more rumbly option. Each is a bit more expensive than the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand.

If you enjoy rumbly vibes closer to the center of the spectrum, then the FemmeFun Ultra Wand is an all-around great toy at a reasonable price. I personally enjoy the vibration feeling from the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand, and it’s one of my favorites.

The Dame Com has a uniquely curved handle with a wave-like design, varying in thickness throughout. This shape helps me apply firmer pressure but can require adjustment depending on your personal grip preferences. I find its shape more awkward than helpful, though it’s not a huge deal.

I find gripping this wand close to the head most natural, but this causes vibrations in my hand, which can be distracting. Holding it farther away minimizes this effect, but you’ll need to experiment to find a comfy grip. The smooth silicone material feels luxurious and comfortable though.

The head is firmer than I typically prefer. But the slightly flexible neck keeps the pressure comfortable. And the semi-rigid design helps leverage the wand better.

The buttons are located near the base of the handle, which keeps them from interfering with my grip, but I do need to adjust my hold to press them. The controls are excellent with separate buttons to increase and decrease power, and a third to cycle through patterns. You can also change the intensity of the vibration patterns which many wands do not allow.

And the Dame Com is fully waterproof, so it’s really easy to clean.

I gave the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand one of the highest ratings for comfort and ease of use!

The compact size is easy to hold and maneuver. The head isn’t squishy, but the neck is extremely flexible so it’s still comfy. I’ve found when some wands are flexible, you lose the ability to apply pressure – but this is not the case with the Ultra Wand. It’s the perfect size to comfortably leverage the handle and push the vibrations deeper into me.

The head is also an excellent size for versatile stimulation. For such a short wand, the head is fairly tall – but not too wide. So I can press the top of the wand to my body for more focused stimulation, or use the tall side of the head for more broad stimulation.

It has two buttons used to control it. One lets you cycle through a series of 3 power levels and then several patterns. The second button is a “power boost” button. This lets you turn any one of the power levels or patterns up to full power with one click. 

While I do wish there was another button to step back down in power (instead of cycling through the settings with one button), the power boost button is a nice touch. 

The silicone handle is also exceptionally comfortable to hold. Overall, this is one of the wands I reach for most often. Which is one of the strongest testaments I can give it!

The Dame Com is one of the easiest wands to use during sex. Its mid-sized head can still fit into fairly tight places, but still gives the broad stimulation of a larger wand. And I appreciate its handle shape more during sex. The curve helps leverage the wand for firm pressure, even in more limited space.

I don’t need to change my body positioning to fit its mid-sized head near my clit as I do with larger wands which sometimes require me to lean back in Cowgirl or angle my leg out while Spooning to create more space for the wand.

The handle’s length and curve also make finding the right angle in Doggystyle easy.

In Modified Missionary, I feel the vibrations in my hand more since I grip it close to the head – the groove between the handle and head is a useful finger-hold for support. But if you want to limit those vibrations, you can shift your grip lower.

This wand is also one of my favorites to use during sex. It performs best in Spooning, Doggystyle, and Modified Missionary positions. 

The extreme flexibility of the neck makes it trickier to apply leverage in the Cowgirl position. But that’s only if you’re looking for very firm pressure. 

And the flexible neck is a big part of the reason I really enjoy this wand in other positions. Its extra bendiness and slim head make it easy to maneuver and fit into tight places. 

The handle is the perfect size to give you a good grip with nice leverage. But it’s short enough that it doesn’t take up too much space during sex. Overall, this is a great option to use with a partner!

For a mid-powered wand, the Dame Com isn’t that quiet. Its decibel levels are low – however, it can make a louder rattling sound when it’s not pressed against your body making it more noticeable (you can hear this in the video above).

Because I’ve read reviews touting the Dame Com as the quietest wand vibrator, I actually bought a second Com to see if the rattling sound was just a fluke. But both wands made this sound when not pressed to my body.

During our testing, its lower levels were completely inaudible from the other side of a closed bedroom door, but my partner heard its middle and upper levels.

Turning on a box fan or playing music successfully masked the Dame Com’s noise on all power levels. So you can still use the Com if you live with others. You’ll just need to mask the noise with a fan.

But if low noise is a top priority, there are better alternatives like the We-Vibe Wand 2, which offers more power and remains inaudible at every level.

This is not one of the quietest wands available, but there are some solutions to help. 

We test each wand to see whether someone can hear it standing directly on the other side of a closed bedroom door. When I use the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand in our bedroom and my partner listens at the door, I can use the lowest power without him hearing. But he can hear the top two settings.

But, when we turn a box fan or some music on in the bedroom, it becomes inaudible on all power levels. 

If sound is especially important to you, the Viben Sultry has comparable power to the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand, but remains inaudible on all power levels without needing a fan or music. And of course, less powerful wands are also quieter.

But for the FemmeFunn’s power, its noise is reasonable.

The Dame Com has fair compatibility with wand attachments. Its head is mid-sized, so it’s not compatible with the majority of attachments designed for full-sized wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. But some attachments designed for other brands’ comparable wands also fit the Dame Com.

Lovense Domi’s attachments fit – offering penis, clit, G-spot, anal, and prostate stimulation. Attachments designed for the Le Wand Petite and PalmPower Extreme also fit the Dame Com. So you have some variety available, though your overall selection is more limited than full-sized wands.

See our wand attachment compatibility table for all the attachments we’ve tested for compatibility with our wands.

The FemmeFunn Ultra Wand has decent compatibility with attachments.

It doesn’t work with attachments designed for full-sized wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. But a few brands make attachments compatible with mid-sized wands like the FemmeFunn.

Le Wand has several attachments designed for the Le Wand Petite, and all of these fit the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand too. These provide various kinds of stimulation like G-spot, anal, prostate, and dual-stimulation. They also have textured caps to change how the wand’s clit stimulation feels.

Both attachments designed for the Lovense Domi also fit the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand. These provide similar stimulation to those mentioned above, and the male attachment also provides penis stimulation.

I test all my wands with the Liberator Axis and Wanda mounts, and the Dame Com is one of my favorite hands-free wands.

Using the Axis mount, I lie on my stomach, and the mount holds the wand slightly upward between my legs. The Com’s mid-sized head comfortably disperses the vibrations, but they’re still somewhat direct (which I need more when playing hands-free). The curved handle positions the head closer to my clit than straight wands, for better contact and firmer pressure.

Because its vibrations are extremely rumbly I can enjoy them longer before I orgasm, without feeling overstimulated. This makes the Dame Com and Axis Mount a great combo to use during sex.

This wand also does well with the Wanda mount. This mount holds the wand upright, and you can straddle the mount on your knees. Leaning forward or backward varies the pressure and gives you control over the stimulation. You can also sit directly on the mount and receive stimulation if you situate the wand deeper into the mount’s slot.

For a compact wand without a curved handle, I was surprised at how well the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand works with mounts. 

I test all my wands with Liberator’s mounts for hands-free play: the Axis and Wanda. 

The Axis enables you to lie face down over the mount while it holds the wand between your legs. I typically use this mount for hands-free stimulation during sex from behind. The FemmeFunn Ultra wand works fairly well with the Axis, but you need to be aware of your body’s position to keep the wand in contact with your clit. 

It’s not as effortless to get good clitoral contact and pressure as a wand with a curved handle or angled head. My favorites to use with the Axis are the Dame Com and BMS PalmPower Extreme.

When it comes to the Wanda mount, the FemmeFunn is awesome! While straddling the Wanda, it’s very easy to lean forward or backward and adjust the pressure and stimulation you get from the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand. Or you can bend all the way forward over the mount, and there’s plenty of room for penetration from a partner. 

The Dame Come’s battery lasted 75 minutes continuously vibrating on high during our testing. This is near the average rechargeable wand performance and is likely enough for most people.

But if you tend to forget to charge your wand, there are longer-lasting options like the Magic Wand Mini (210 minutes).

The FemmeFunn wand lasts around 75 minutes continuously running on its highest power.

This is toward the lower end of our wand vibrators’ battery lives.

If you want a wand with this level of power that provides longer playtime between charges, consider the Magic Wand Rechargeable.

But keep in mind, if you won’t be using the highest strength the entire time, the FemmeFunn Ultra Wand will last longer.

The Dame Com has an entirely silicone body, which feels very high-quality and luxurious. The buttons feel well-made, and the plastic casing beneath the silicone feels solid and durable. I feel like I can apply very firm pressure without worrying about the neck breaking.

It’s not perfect though: the motor can rattle when the wand is held in open air. But it doesn’t happen when the wand’s in contact with your body.

This wand is covered entirely in silicone, including the buttons, which feels very luxurious and comfortable. Even though the neck is more flexible than most wands, it still feels thick enough, so I’m never worried it will break from firm pressure.