The Dame Com’s vibration power is relatively mild for a mid-sized wand, though it’s certainly much stronger than their bullet vibrator, the Dame Zee. The Com’s top strength is only slightly greater than mid-sized non-wand vibrators like the Lelo Mona 2 or Lovense Hyphy. But since the head is larger, the vibrations are more diffuse, which can make them feel even milder.

Starting at 1.1 out of 10 and gradually increasing through five levels up to 4.67 out of 10, the Dame Com is best for those sensitive to intense power or abrupt jumps between settings. This moderate stimulation offers an alternative for those who enjoy the broad, diffuse stimulation wands provide, but don’t enjoy the overwhelming power of other wands.

If you’d rather have extreme strength, consider the BMS PalmPower Extreme or Magic Wand Plus. For those content with the strength of their non-wand vibrators, the Dame Com is a great option.

The BMS PalmPower Groove has poor vibration power and range compared to other wands (even other mini wand vibrators). It’s one of my weakest wands, maxing out at just 1.6 out of 10 vibration strength – more comparable to a typical bullet vibrator than a wand.

At such a low price, it’s not necessarily bad If you enjoy mild stimulation. The vibrations still feel impactful enough that I enjoy them and orgasm with the PalmPower Groove. But If you’re expecting the massive power wand vibrators are famous for, you’ll be disappointed.

For a more powerful mini wand vibrator under $50, consider the VeDO Wini or Orion Your New Favorite Wand Massager.

Most people prefer rumbly vibrations, so we rate rumbly wands higher than buzzy wands.

The Dame Com delivers exceptionally rumbly vibrations at all power levels, staying below 60 Hz on high – a feat few wands accomplish. And it’s more rumbly than the Dame Pom (the brand’s palm vibrator that’s also designed for broad stimulation) and the Dame Min (the mini version of the Com).

The Dame Com’s deep, low-frequency vibrations help keep it from feeling overstimulating or numbing. Its rumbliness is part of what makes it great for those who like broad but milder stimulation.

If you’d rather have extremely rumbly vibrations with more power, also consider the Lovense Domi 2 or the Orion Grande Wand. But for an extremely rumbly mid-powered wand, the Dame Com is the best.

We rate wands with rumbly vibrations higher than buzzy ones because most people prefer it.

The BMS PalmPower Groove is very low-frequency (rumbly) from start to finish. Even its highest setting is less than 60 Hz (our cutoff for the “extremely rumbly” range). But since its vibrations are so weak, the low-frequency vibrations only pack a little impact.

Unfortunately, if you want rumbliness and power, it’s hard to find at the extremely low price of the Groove, so you’ll have to increase your budget a bit.

At a comparable price, the Romp Presto is a stronger mini wand with two starting levels in the rumbly range. Or the Satisfyer Wand-er Woman (a full-sized wand) is the cheapest wand with excellent power and rumbliness.

The Dame Com has a uniquely curved handle with a wave-like design, varying in thickness throughout. This shape helps me apply firmer pressure but can require adjustment depending on your personal grip preferences. I find its shape more awkward than helpful, though it’s not a huge deal.

I find gripping this wand close to the head most natural, but this causes vibrations in my hand, which can be distracting. Holding it farther away minimizes this effect, but you’ll need to experiment to find a comfy grip. The smooth silicone material feels luxurious and comfortable though.

The head is firmer than I typically prefer. But the slightly flexible neck keeps the pressure comfortable. And the semi-rigid design helps leverage the wand better.

The buttons are located near the base of the handle, which keeps them from interfering with my grip, but I do need to adjust my hold to press them. The controls are excellent with separate buttons to increase and decrease power, and a third to cycle through patterns. You can also change the intensity of the vibration patterns which many wands do not allow.

And the Dame Com is fully waterproof, so it’s really easy to clean.

The BMS PalmPower Groove is decently comfortable and has easy-to-use but basic controls.

The short length (just 6.1 inches) is easy to maneuver, and the small head fits in tight spaces and comfortably provides firm pressure. You can limit contact to fleshy areas so it doesn’t press uncomfortably against your pubic bone.

The head’s grooved texture and indented section are supposed to provide additional stimulation, but I haven’t noticed that. It doesn’t add or detract from the vibrator to me.

The short, silicone handle is slim and tapers toward the end. The taper is intended to make the Groove more comfortable, but I find it more tiring to leverage. My hands and fingers tire faster than those with longer, less tapered handles like the Romp Presto.

A single button cycles through the Groove’s 4 power levels and 3 vibration patterns. I prefer wand vibrators with separate buttons to increase and decrease power like the Presto.

The Dame Com is one of the easiest wands to use during sex. Its mid-sized head can still fit into fairly tight places, but still gives the broad stimulation of a larger wand. And I appreciate its handle shape more during sex. The curve helps leverage the wand for firm pressure, even in more limited space.

I don’t need to change my body positioning to fit its mid-sized head near my clit as I do with larger wands which sometimes require me to lean back in Cowgirl or angle my leg out while Spooning to create more space for the wand.

The handle’s length and curve also make finding the right angle in Doggystyle easy.

In Modified Missionary, I feel the vibrations in my hand more since I grip it close to the head – the groove between the handle and head is a useful finger-hold for support. But if you want to limit those vibrations, you can shift your grip lower.

The BMS PalmPower Groove has a great design to use during sex with a partner. The short length makes it easy to move around and leverage without the handle interfering with you or your partner’s body.

The small head fits easily between your legs too. You can hold it close to your clit for great stimulation without it being pressed painfully against your pubic bone, even in positions facing your partner like Missionary.

Though I wish it had stronger vibrations, I successfully use it in Spooning, Cowgirl, and Modified Missionary positions. Doggystyle takes more work because you have to reach pretty far back with such a small toy. In Doggystyle, I actually prefer a long wand. However, only those very focused on a wand for Doggystyle will take issue with this.

For a mid-powered wand, the Dame Com isn’t that quiet. Its decibel levels are low – however, it can make a louder rattling sound when it’s not pressed against your body making it more noticeable (you can hear this in the video above).

Because I’ve read reviews touting the Dame Com as the quietest wand vibrator, I actually bought a second Com to see if the rattling sound was just a fluke. But both wands made this sound when not pressed to my body.

During our testing, its lower levels were completely inaudible from the other side of a closed bedroom door, but my partner heard its middle and upper levels.

Turning on a box fan or playing music successfully masked the Dame Com’s noise on all power levels. So you can still use the Com if you live with others. You’ll just need to mask the noise with a fan.

But if low noise is a top priority, there are better alternatives like the We-Vibe Wand 2, which offers more power and remains inaudible at every level.

The BMS PalmPower Groove is very quiet. When I’m using it in the bedroom, my partner can’t hear it behind the closed door, even on high power. But since it’s a gentle wand vibrator, the quiet vibrations aren’t that impressive.

You can find stronger options that are also inaudible from behind a closed door. For instance, the Romp Presto is over 3 times stronger and cannot be heard on any setting.

The Dame Com has fair compatibility with wand attachments. Its head is mid-sized, so it’s not compatible with the majority of attachments designed for full-sized wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. But some attachments designed for other brands’ comparable wands also fit the Dame Com.

Lovense Domi’s attachments fit – offering penis, clit, G-spot, anal, and prostate stimulation. Attachments designed for the Le Wand Petite and PalmPower Extreme also fit the Dame Com. So you have some variety available, though your overall selection is more limited than full-sized wands.

See our wand attachment compatibility table for all the attachments we’ve tested for compatibility with our wands.

The BMS PalmPower Groove has very limited attachment compatibility since the head is so tiny.

Only 3 of my nearly 30 wand attachments fit on the PalmPower Groove. These include the PalmPower Bliss and Embrace, which are designed for the PalmPower Recharge. They don’t screw onto the Groove’s head but stay on by friction. It also fits the Lovehoney Queen G. All 3 are G-spot attachments, so the variety is minimal.

You have options, but not as many as wands with large heads like the Orion Your New Favorite Wand.

I test all my wands with the Liberator Axis and Wanda mounts, and the Dame Com is one of my favorite hands-free wands.

Using the Axis mount, I lie on my stomach, and the mount holds the wand slightly upward between my legs. The Com’s mid-sized head comfortably disperses the vibrations, but they’re still somewhat direct (which I need more when playing hands-free). The curved handle positions the head closer to my clit than straight wands, for better contact and firmer pressure.

Because its vibrations are extremely rumbly I can enjoy them longer before I orgasm, without feeling overstimulated. This makes the Dame Com and Axis Mount a great combo to use during sex.

This wand also does well with the Wanda mount. This mount holds the wand upright, and you can straddle the mount on your knees. Leaning forward or backward varies the pressure and gives you control over the stimulation. You can also sit directly on the mount and receive stimulation if you situate the wand deeper into the mount’s slot.

I test all my wands with Liberator’s mounts for hands-free play – the Axis and Wanda.

Unfortunately, the BMS PalmPower Groove is too small to fit in these wand mounts. It does not stay in place, so it cannot be used. If you want a budget-friendly mini wand that works well with mounts, the Romp Presto is decent. Otherwise you’ll have to increase your budget for a full-sized wand like the Magic Wand Plus.

The Dame Come’s battery lasted 75 minutes continuously vibrating on high during our testing. This is near the average rechargeable wand performance and is likely enough for most people.

But if you tend to forget to charge your wand, there are longer-lasting options like the Magic Wand Mini (210 minutes).

The BMS PalmPower Groove has a poor battery life compared to my other wands. In our testing, it only lasted 55 minutes continuously vibrating on high power. Several stronger wand vibrators lasted longer. Consider the VeDO Wini, which lasts a bit longer on high, and is much stronger.

The Dame Com has an entirely silicone body, which feels very high-quality and luxurious. The buttons feel well-made, and the plastic casing beneath the silicone feels solid and durable. I feel like I can apply very firm pressure without worrying about the neck breaking.

It’s not perfect though: the motor can rattle when the wand is held in open air. But it doesn’t happen when the wand’s in contact with your body.

The BMS PalmPower Groove has passable build quality. As their cheap, mini wand it feels less solid and luxurious than BMS’s premium products like the PalmPower Extreme. The Groove is very lightweight, so it feels cheaper. But the body-safe silicone handle and head feel nice and comfortable.

Considering the extremely low cost, its decent build quality is better than expected.