The BMS PalmPower Extreme is one of the most powerful rechargeable wand vibrators.

At a 9 out of 10 top strength, only a small handful of wands, like the Magic Wand Plus, Magic Wand Waterproof, and the Doxy Die Cast, are comparable.

I usually orgasm on the PalmPower Extreme’s second level, rarely using the third, and almost never the top power because it’s so immense. But power queens and kings will love these upper settings.

The lowest setting’s 2 out of 10 strength is excellent because I need these softer vibrations for a warm-up. I’m not ready for the second level’s strength immediately, so I spend considerable time on the first level.  This setting is impactful, warming me up without feeling overwhelming. Then, I switch to the second level and usually finish there!

You can also access a broad range of power levels spanning between the 4 default settings by using PalmPower’s incremental control. By holding the plus or minus button, the wand’s power will slowly and gradually change power. When it reaches your desired strength, release the button.

With its wide power range from soft to extreme and the ability to gradually step through levels, most people will find something they enjoy.

The Dame Com’s vibration power is relatively mild for a mid-sized wand, though it’s certainly much stronger than their bullet vibrator, the Dame Zee. The Com’s top strength is only slightly greater than mid-sized non-wand vibrators like the Lelo Mona 2 or Lovense Hyphy. But since the head is larger, the vibrations are more diffuse, which can make them feel even milder.

Starting at 1.1 out of 10 and gradually increasing through five levels up to 4.67 out of 10, the Dame Com is best for those sensitive to intense power or abrupt jumps between settings. This moderate stimulation offers an alternative for those who enjoy the broad, diffuse stimulation wands provide, but don’t enjoy the overwhelming power of other wands.

If you’d rather have extreme strength, consider the BMS PalmPower Extreme or Magic Wand Plus. For those content with the strength of their non-wand vibrators, the Dame Com is a great option.

The BMS PalmPower Extreme’s frequency range is right in my sweet spot, ranging from extremely rumbly to neutral. The lowest level is extremely rumbly – part of what makes it an excellent warmup level that’s not overstimulating. And the second level (my favorite) is moderately rumbly. To me, this is the perfect combination of the comfortable, deep impact that comes from rumbliness, and the bit of a “zing” that extremely rumbly vibrations are sometimes missing.

As you increase power, a wand’s frequency always becomes less rumbly, and the PalmPower Extreme’s top two levels are neutral. But it doesn’t cross into the buzzy range as other comparably powerful wands like the Magic Wand Plus, Magic Wand Waterproof, and Doxy Die Cast do. But if you value a bit better rumbliness, you may enjoy the We-Vibe Wand 2 more.

Overall, the vibration feel and frequency of this wand contribute to it being one of my favorites!

Most people prefer rumbly vibrations, so we rate rumbly wands higher than buzzy wands.

The Dame Com delivers exceptionally rumbly vibrations at all power levels, staying below 60 Hz on high – a feat few wands accomplish. And it’s more rumbly than the Dame Pom (the brand’s palm vibrator that’s also designed for broad stimulation) and the Dame Min (the mini version of the Com).

The Dame Com’s deep, low-frequency vibrations help keep it from feeling overstimulating or numbing. Its rumbliness is part of what makes it great for those who like broad but milder stimulation.

If you’d rather have extremely rumbly vibrations with more power, also consider the Lovense Domi 2 or the Orion Grande Wand. But for an extremely rumbly mid-powered wand, the Dame Com is the best.

Though this wand has the power and broad head of a full-sized wand, the PalmPower Extreme is more compact and lighter making it easy to maneuver like a mini wand. The weight feels balanced in my hands and the silicone-backed handle is comfortable to grip.

Most importantly, the angled head is not a gimmick, as I thought it might be before using this wand. It helps me leverage the wand more easily and apply pressure while keeping my hands in a comfortable position. I value comfort, so this was a major benefit for me.

Unlike the Magic Wand Rechargeable’s plush silicone, the PalmPower Extreme’s head is firm, yet still comfortable since the neck has some flexibility; But not too much that applying firm pressure becomes difficult. It’s an excellent balance.

The buttons are easy to feel and press without looking. There are separate buttons to increase and decrease power, so you don’t need to cycle through intensity levels. The incremental control is great for accessing power levels beyond the 4 default settings. Hold the plus or minus button to gradually change the power and release it when it reaches a level you enjoy.

And it’s the only wand this powerful that’s fully waterproof – so cleaning it is easy.

I reach for this wand very often, because it provides a great, comfortable experience, with excellent vibrations!

The Dame Com has a uniquely curved handle with a wave-like design, varying in thickness throughout. This shape helps me apply firmer pressure but can require adjustment depending on your personal grip preferences. I find its shape more awkward than helpful, though it’s not a huge deal.

I find gripping this wand close to the head most natural, but this causes vibrations in my hand, which can be distracting. Holding it farther away minimizes this effect, but you’ll need to experiment to find a comfy grip. The smooth silicone material feels luxurious and comfortable though.

The head is firmer than I typically prefer. But the slightly flexible neck keeps the pressure comfortable. And the semi-rigid design helps leverage the wand better.

The buttons are located near the base of the handle, which keeps them from interfering with my grip, but I do need to adjust my hold to press them. The controls are excellent with separate buttons to increase and decrease power, and a third to cycle through patterns. You can also change the intensity of the vibration patterns which many wands do not allow.

And the Dame Com is fully waterproof, so it’s really easy to clean.

This wand is in my top two for use during sex (and my favorite to use with a wand mount for hands-free sex).

While its head isn’t tiny like mini wands, it’s slimmer and smaller than full-sized wands. So it still fits well between bodies and in tight spaces during sex. And since its vibrations have a substantial impact, precisely positioning this wand isn’t necessary to get the clit stimulation I need.

The angled head is especially helpful during sex. The head’s angle rests between my legs while the handle lies comfortably parallel along my body. So the handle does not stick out or get in the way, preventing me from leveraging the wand as a straight handle can – this is especially beneficial in positions facing each other like Missionary or Cowgirl.

The handle is also compact but still has enough length that you can rest the base on your bed to help support the wand in certain positions like Spooning or Doggystyle. If you plan to use your wand regularly with a partner, this is an excellent choice.

The Dame Com is one of the easiest wands to use during sex. Its mid-sized head can still fit into fairly tight places, but still gives the broad stimulation of a larger wand. And I appreciate its handle shape more during sex. The curve helps leverage the wand for firm pressure, even in more limited space.

I don’t need to change my body positioning to fit its mid-sized head near my clit as I do with larger wands which sometimes require me to lean back in Cowgirl or angle my leg out while Spooning to create more space for the wand.

The handle’s length and curve also make finding the right angle in Doggystyle easy.

In Modified Missionary, I feel the vibrations in my hand more since I grip it close to the head – the groove between the handle and head is a useful finger-hold for support. But if you want to limit those vibrations, you can shift your grip lower.

As an extremely powerful wand, the BMS PalmPower Extreme is not one of the quietest options. It’s discreet on its lower levels, remaining inaudible behind a closed door. But my partner could hear its middle and upper settings during our testing.

This is pretty typical for a wand this strong. If you plan to use its highest settings while others are home, you may need to play music to remain discreet. Though I typically orgasm on its lower levels which are quieter.

For a mid-powered wand, the Dame Com isn’t that quiet. Its decibel levels are low – however, it can make a louder rattling sound when it’s not pressed against your body making it more noticeable (you can hear this in the video above).

Because I’ve read reviews touting the Dame Com as the quietest wand vibrator, I actually bought a second Com to see if the rattling sound was just a fluke. But both wands made this sound when not pressed to my body.

During our testing, its lower levels were completely inaudible from the other side of a closed bedroom door, but my partner heard its middle and upper levels.

Turning on a box fan or playing music successfully masked the Dame Com’s noise on all power levels. So you can still use the Com if you live with others. You’ll just need to mask the noise with a fan.

But if low noise is a top priority, there are better alternatives like the We-Vibe Wand 2, which offers more power and remains inaudible at every level.

The BMS PalmPower Extreme has limited compatibility with wand attachments. Its head is mid-sized, so it’s incompatible with attachments designed for full-sized wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. There is an insertable (G-spot, anal, or prostate) attachment designed specifically for this wand, but it’s a little flimsy.

However, attachments designed for the Le Wand Petite also fit the BMS PalmPower Extreme. These attachments cover a broad variety of stimulation and are high quality. If you want to explore wand attachments for this wand, I’d recommend Le Wand’s. Head to our full wand attachment compatibility table for the full breakdown of attachments we’ve tested.

The Dame Com has fair compatibility with wand attachments. Its head is mid-sized, so it’s not compatible with the majority of attachments designed for full-sized wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. But some attachments designed for other brands’ comparable wands also fit the Dame Com.

Lovense Domi’s attachments fit – offering penis, clit, G-spot, anal, and prostate stimulation. Attachments designed for the Le Wand Petite and PalmPower Extreme also fit the Dame Com. So you have some variety available, though your overall selection is more limited than full-sized wands.

See our wand attachment compatibility table for all the attachments we’ve tested for compatibility with our wands.

I test all my wands with the Liberator Axis and Wanda mounts for hands-free play. The BMS PalmPower Extreme’s angled head makes it my favorite to use with both (solo and during sex).

The Axis holds the wand at a slight upward angle between my legs as I lie on my stomach across the mount. I can rest in this position and orgasm solo, or my partner can enter from behind – my favorite way to use this wand! Hands-free sex using the Axis and PalmPower Extreme combo has become a go-to move for my partner and me.

In this position, the head’s upward angle positions it closer to my clit than a straight wand and applies additional pressure. I don’t need to adjust my body to maintain contact as I do with other wands. The angle sets this wand apart and makes all the difference if you love firm pressure!

It also has the best versatility in the Liberator Wanda since I can face its angled head two different directions. One direction raises the head which is excellent when I’m on my hands and knees which requires greater height. This position works really well during sex. The other direction places the head just above the fabric. This lets me straddle the mount and sit directly on it, leaning forward or backward to vary the stimulation.

Overall, the BMS PalmPower Extreme is extremely versatile with mounts, and does a great job at keeping firm, consistent contact with my body for excellent stimulation. It’s my favorite for hands-free play.

I test all my wands with the Liberator Axis and Wanda mounts, and the Dame Com is one of my favorite hands-free wands.

Using the Axis mount, I lie on my stomach, and the mount holds the wand slightly upward between my legs. The Com’s mid-sized head comfortably disperses the vibrations, but they’re still somewhat direct (which I need more when playing hands-free). The curved handle positions the head closer to my clit than straight wands, for better contact and firmer pressure.

Because its vibrations are extremely rumbly I can enjoy them longer before I orgasm, without feeling overstimulated. This makes the Dame Com and Axis Mount a great combo to use during sex.

This wand also does well with the Wanda mount. This mount holds the wand upright, and you can straddle the mount on your knees. Leaning forward or backward varies the pressure and gives you control over the stimulation. You can also sit directly on the mount and receive stimulation if you situate the wand deeper into the mount’s slot.

In our testing, this rechargeable wand lasted 108 minutes continuously vibrating on its max power. This is slightly above average, though there are longer-lasting wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable if that’s a big priority.

Unlike many wands which use proprietary chargers, the BMS PalmPower Extreme simply uses a USB Type C cable, so it’s easy to replace if you lose it.

The Dame Come’s battery lasted 75 minutes continuously vibrating on high during our testing. This is near the average rechargeable wand performance and is likely enough for most people.

But if you tend to forget to charge your wand, there are longer-lasting options like the Magic Wand Mini (210 minutes).

This wand has an excellent build. The combination of a silicone-backed handle with a solid plastic front feels very sturdy and comfortable. The motor is excellent quality – the only one this powerful that does not become buzzy.

The head’s neck flexes a good amount without feeling flimsy – I can apply firm pressure without worry. And the silicone-coated buttons are easy to feel and comfortable to press. And its waterproof rating makes sure it won’t be damaged while cleaning.

The Dame Com has an entirely silicone body, which feels very high-quality and luxurious. The buttons feel well-made, and the plastic casing beneath the silicone feels solid and durable. I feel like I can apply very firm pressure without worrying about the neck breaking.

It’s not perfect though: the motor can rattle when the wand is held in open air. But it doesn’t happen when the wand’s in contact with your body.