The Bellesa Demi Wand has 8 power levels that are all very close together and low-powered. They’re not at all what I expect from a typical wand vibrator. Demi’s power range is much more comparable to the low and middle power levels of a small bullet vibrator.

And I actually find the Demi is less powerful than my favorite bullets like the Lovense Ambi and We-Vibe Tango X (which also outperform the Demi in other aspects). So even if you are only looking for bullet-level vibration strength, I would go with one of those instead.

While I can orgasm with the Bellesa Demi Wand, it’s much easier with one of my bullets.

And if you want the typical enormous power wand vibrators are famous for: the Magic Wand Plus is in this same price range and has 6x the strength of the Bellesa Demi!

The Dame Com’s vibration power is relatively mild for a mid-sized wand, though it’s certainly much stronger than their bullet vibrator, the Dame Zee. The Com’s top strength is only slightly greater than mid-sized non-wand vibrators like the Lelo Mona 2 or Lovense Hyphy. But since the head is larger, the vibrations are more diffuse, which can make them feel even milder.

Starting at 1.1 out of 10 and gradually increasing through five levels up to 4.67 out of 10, the Dame Com is best for those sensitive to intense power or abrupt jumps between settings. This moderate stimulation offers an alternative for those who enjoy the broad, diffuse stimulation wands provide, but don’t enjoy the overwhelming power of other wands.

If you’d rather have extreme strength, consider the BMS PalmPower Extreme or Magic Wand Plus. For those content with the strength of their non-wand vibrators, the Dame Com is a great option.

We also test and rate how rumbly or buzzy each wand vibrator is.

We award wand vibrators with more rumbly vibrations a high score in this category since most people prefer rumbly vibrations. But some people prefer more neutral or even buzzy vibrations – so a low score in Vibration Frequency may not mean a wand is a bad choice for you.

In fact, some of my favorite vibrators (like the Lovense Hyphy) are very buzzy. So it really depends on what you enjoy!

The Bellesa Demi’s lowest three power levels are actually in the rumbly range. But since this wand is so low-powered, I mostly use the highest powers.

And the three strongest settings are definitely buzzy. Other small wands like the BMS Swan Era have much more powerful, rumbly settings.

Even if you enjoy more neutral or buzzy-feeling vibrators, I’d still recommend a higher-quality bullet like the Lovense Ambi which offers a nice mix of buzziness and rumbliness.

But if you’re like most people, and want something deep and rumbly – the Lovense Domi 2 and Dame Com are some of the best wand vibrators with extremely rumbly vibrations.

Most people prefer rumbly vibrations, so we rate rumbly wands higher than buzzy wands.

The Dame Com delivers exceptionally rumbly vibrations at all power levels, staying below 60 Hz on high – a feat few wands accomplish. And it’s more rumbly than the Dame Pom (the brand’s palm vibrator that’s also designed for broad stimulation) and the Dame Min (the mini version of the Com).

The Dame Com’s deep, low-frequency vibrations help keep it from feeling overstimulating or numbing. Its rumbliness is part of what makes it great for those who like broad but milder stimulation.

If you’d rather have extremely rumbly vibrations with more power, also consider the Lovense Domi 2 or the Orion Grande Wand. But for an extremely rumbly mid-powered wand, the Dame Com is the best.

I found the Bellesa Demi Wand to be one of the least comfortable and more difficult wands to use.

It’s certainly not painful – none of my wand vibrators are. It’s just designed poorly for comfortable, longer sessions.

It’s a very small wand, which means you have to reach farther to place the Demi in the right spot. Whereas mid-sized and larger wands have a nice handle you can gently hold with minimal reach.

But the Bellesa Demi Wand’s extremely flexible neck is the main reason this vibrator is difficult to use. I like to press my vibrators firmly against me – it helps push the vibes deeper! But when you apply pressure with the Demi Wand, its head just flexes away.

If you want to press the Demi with any force, you need to place your fingers on the head itself and push it against you.

You can’t simply use the handle to leverage the vibrator as you can with less flexible wands like the Dame Com. Or even rigid bullet vibrators like the Lovense Ambi and We-Vibe Tango X.

The Dame Com has a uniquely curved handle with a wave-like design, varying in thickness throughout. This shape helps me apply firmer pressure but can require adjustment depending on your personal grip preferences. I find its shape more awkward than helpful, though it’s not a huge deal.

I find gripping this wand close to the head most natural, but this causes vibrations in my hand, which can be distracting. Holding it farther away minimizes this effect, but you’ll need to experiment to find a comfy grip. The smooth silicone material feels luxurious and comfortable though.

The head is firmer than I typically prefer. But the slightly flexible neck keeps the pressure comfortable. And the semi-rigid design helps leverage the wand better.

The buttons are located near the base of the handle, which keeps them from interfering with my grip, but I do need to adjust my hold to press them. The controls are excellent with separate buttons to increase and decrease power, and a third to cycle through patterns. You can also change the intensity of the vibration patterns which many wands do not allow.

And the Dame Com is fully waterproof, so it’s really easy to clean.

I do find the Demi Wand reasonably easy to use during sex.

The small head and compact size help it fit easily between my partner’s body and mine. I enjoy it decently in Cowgirl, Spooning, and Modified Missionary positions.

Doggystyle is the only position that using the Demi wand is just plain bad. Because it’s so small, you have to reach far to keep the head pressed to your clit – and in a position like Doggystyle where you’re also supporting your own body weight, reaching this far gets tiring.

And in every position, a major drawback is that you can’t get firm pressure because of the extremely flexible neck.

If you want a small wand with better pressure, the Blush Noje W4 is another mini wand that I enjoyed much more during sex. It’s easier to leverage, and it’s cheaper! Or you could go with a bullet like the Lovense Ambi.

If you have the budget, the BMS PalmPower Extreme has an angled head that provides incredible pressure and helps the wand fit well between bodies during sex – even with its larger size. It gets almost perfect scores in all 4 positions! And since it’s larger, it offers much more vibration power.

If you typically have sex in Doggystyle, I find medium-length or long wand vibrators are best. The Lovense Domi 2 is one of my favorites in this position!

The Dame Com is one of the easiest wands to use during sex. Its mid-sized head can still fit into fairly tight places, but still gives the broad stimulation of a larger wand. And I appreciate its handle shape more during sex. The curve helps leverage the wand for firm pressure, even in more limited space.

I don’t need to change my body positioning to fit its mid-sized head near my clit as I do with larger wands which sometimes require me to lean back in Cowgirl or angle my leg out while Spooning to create more space for the wand.

The handle’s length and curve also make finding the right angle in Doggystyle easy.

In Modified Missionary, I feel the vibrations in my hand more since I grip it close to the head – the groove between the handle and head is a useful finger-hold for support. But if you want to limit those vibrations, you can shift your grip lower.

Demi Lovato’s Bellesa wand is definitely very quiet.

It has one of the lowest decibel readings on both low and high power. And when my partner and I tested whether someone can hear it behind a closed door, the Demi wand remained inaudible on all power levels.

But the main reason it’s so quiet is that the Demi is very low-powered. If you want something stronger that remains discreet, the Magic Wand Rechargeable or Lelo Smart Wand 2 Large are both only audible behind a closed door on the highest power level. And each has the substantial vibration power people associate with wands.

For a mid-powered wand, the Dame Com isn’t that quiet. Its decibel levels are low – however, it can make a louder rattling sound when it’s not pressed against your body making it more noticeable (you can hear this in the video above).

Because I’ve read reviews touting the Dame Com as the quietest wand vibrator, I actually bought a second Com to see if the rattling sound was just a fluke. But both wands made this sound when not pressed to my body.

During our testing, its lower levels were completely inaudible from the other side of a closed bedroom door, but my partner heard its middle and upper levels.

Turning on a box fan or playing music successfully masked the Dame Com’s noise on all power levels. So you can still use the Com if you live with others. You’ll just need to mask the noise with a fan.

But if low noise is a top priority, there are better alternatives like the We-Vibe Wand 2, which offers more power and remains inaudible at every level.

The Bellesa Demi is compatible with very few attachments. Of the more than 25 wand attachments we own, it’s only compatible with Lovehoney’s Queen G (a G-spot attachment designed for the Lovehoney Deluxe Mini Massage Wand)

Most attachments are designed for full-sized wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable (among others). While most attachments fit a range of wands, very few are designed to fit tiny heads like the Bellesa Demi’s. If you value attachment compatibility, consider the Magic Wand Plus or Rechargeable.

The Dame Com has fair compatibility with wand attachments. Its head is mid-sized, so it’s not compatible with the majority of attachments designed for full-sized wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. But some attachments designed for other brands’ comparable wands also fit the Dame Com.

Lovense Domi’s attachments fit – offering penis, clit, G-spot, anal, and prostate stimulation. Attachments designed for the Le Wand Petite and PalmPower Extreme also fit the Dame Com. So you have some variety available, though your overall selection is more limited than full-sized wands.

See our wand attachment compatibility table for all the attachments we’ve tested for compatibility with our wands.

We test our wands with the Liberator’s wand mounts – the Axis and Wanda. These mounts are designed to hold your wand vibrator so you can enjoy hands-free clit stimulation.

Unfortunately, the Demi wand is too small for either mount. As with wand attachments, wand mounts are designed for mid to full-sized wand vibrators.

If you value hands-free play – the BMS PalmPower Extreme and Dame Com are my favorites to use with both wand mounts. They have an angled head or a curved handle, which helps them provide better pressure and clitoral contact when held in the Liberator Axis mount. And more angles to try in the Wanda mount.

I test all my wands with the Liberator Axis and Wanda mounts, and the Dame Com is one of my favorite hands-free wands.

Using the Axis mount, I lie on my stomach, and the mount holds the wand slightly upward between my legs. The Com’s mid-sized head comfortably disperses the vibrations, but they’re still somewhat direct (which I need more when playing hands-free). The curved handle positions the head closer to my clit than straight wands, for better contact and firmer pressure.

Because its vibrations are extremely rumbly I can enjoy them longer before I orgasm, without feeling overstimulated. This makes the Dame Com and Axis Mount a great combo to use during sex.

This wand also does well with the Wanda mount. This mount holds the wand upright, and you can straddle the mount on your knees. Leaning forward or backward varies the pressure and gives you control over the stimulation. You can also sit directly on the mount and receive stimulation if you situate the wand deeper into the mount’s slot.

The Bellesa Demi wand has a pretty short battery life. I test all my wands’ battery life by charging them fully – then letting them run on high power until they die.

The Demi Wand lasted only 55 minutes. And since it’s pretty low-powered, most people will be cranking it on high the whole time – so there’s not much room to extend the battery life by mixing in lower strengths.
If you value longer play sessions the Lovense Domi will give you at least two hours of play. Or the Magic Wand Rechargeable lasts over 4 hours!

The Dame Come’s battery lasted 75 minutes continuously vibrating on high during our testing. This is near the average rechargeable wand performance and is likely enough for most people.

But if you tend to forget to charge your wand, there are longer-lasting options like the Magic Wand Mini (210 minutes).

The silicone on my Demi Wand has a nice texture and feels high-quality.  I’ve not had any issues with it breaking, though the neck is very flexible, and I am a little suspicious that it won’t have the longest life. Because it has very weak vibrations, you’ll likely be pressing and bending this wand very hard, so it has to take some wear and tear.

The Dame Com has an entirely silicone body, which feels very high-quality and luxurious. The buttons feel well-made, and the plastic casing beneath the silicone feels solid and durable. I feel like I can apply very firm pressure without worrying about the neck breaking.

It’s not perfect though: the motor can rattle when the wand is held in open air. But it doesn’t happen when the wand’s in contact with your body.