Lovense Flexer Demo Video
I was excited when I noticed the Lovense Flexer pop-up on the Lovense sales page. I had spent the previous months falling in love with rotating G-spot arms. Especially the ones that had a clit-vibrator too.
And since I love the Lovense Nora (almost, but not exactly, the handheld version of the Flexer), my hopes were high.
The Lovense Flexer seems to have it all: clit vibes, G-spot vibes, and an internal head that moves back and forth in a come-hither motion to nudge against your G-spot. It’s hands-free, and Lovense typically makes the best app-controlled vibrators.
So as I placed my order and eagerly awaited its arrival, my curiosities swirled:
- Does the Flexer stay in place and hit the right spots, even though it’s hands-free?
- How strong and effective are the clit vibes?
- Does the moving G-spot arm actually feel like fingering?
I have my answers after owning this toy and playing with it for a month or two. And to be honest, this toy would benefit from some adjustments. I haven’t loved either of Lovense’s hands-free, dual-stimulation toys (the Dolce or the Flexer – I compare the Dolce vs Flexer here).
Whether you’re a huge fan of rabbit vibrators, hands-free toys, dual-stimulators, or you’ve never tried any of the above! I’ll walk you through my findings with the Lovense Flexer. And help you decide whether it’s still worth a try for you. Or I’ll direct you to something similar that might fit you better.
Review Update Notes
- November 10, 2023: Updated this review to include my experience and comparisons with the Lovense Vulse thrusting egg vibrator. The Vulse’s hands-free thrusting feels much better than the Flexer’s movement.
Lovense Flexer Vibrations and Stimulation
The Lovense Flexer has three motors: a clitoral vibrator, a G-spot vibrator, and a third motor that flexes back and forth in a come-hither motion. Even with all this going on, the Flexer’s stimulation is sub-par.
Let’s start with the Flexer’s unique come-hither motion. The Flexer has a moving arm designed to nudge against your G-spot, like fingering. I typically enjoy G-spot pressure over G-spot vibrations (that’s why I enjoy the Lovense Vulse so much). So I was thrilled to try the Lovense Flexer for this feature.
Unfortunately, the Flexer doesn’t stay in place well hands-free, so it doesn’t feel like fingering at all. Ideally when flexing, the clitoral arm would remain fixed on my clit, providing hands-free vibrations.
Meanwhile, the G-spot arm would pivot, delivering lovely pressure to my G-spot. In reality, the clitoral arm moves more than the G-spot arm, so I lose clit stimulation.
And the internal arm provides very little pressure against my G-spot since the external arm is moving more. You can force the G-spot arm to pivot by grabbing and holding the clitoral piece. But this is difficult and eliminates the hands-free aspect.
I’ve enjoyed the hands-free G-spot pressure from the Lovense Vulse (G-spot stimulation only) Lelo Ida Wave (dual-stimulation) more than the Lovense Flexer. Or you could go with the handheld Lovense Nora. Each toy has a rotating inner arm providing automatic G-spot pressure, and I love both.
Onto the vibrations!
The Flexer’s vibrations begin gently, which is great for warming up and remaining discreet. But they only reach a mid-level strength – nothing intense. The clit motor is strongest, starting at a 3 out of 10 vibration strength on low and reaching 6 out of 10 on high. For reference, the Lovense Ferri (my favorite clitoral panty vibrator) is over 1.5x as strong.
And while the Flexer’s G-spot arm is similar in size to the Lovense Lush 3 (their G-spot egg vibrator), the Flexer’s internal arm maxes out at just 2 out of 10 vibration strength – just a fifth of the Lush 3’s power. Compare the Lush 3 vs Flexer in more detail here.
The Lovense Flexer’s mild vibration strength may work for those who prefer soft stimulation but will leave many wishing for more power.
The Lovense Flexer’s clitoral and G-spot vibrations are also extremely buzzy. These vibrations can feel tickly, and most people prefer rumbly vibrations that travel deeper. If that’s you, the Flexer’s buzziness will be disappointing. I’ve found Lovense’s other wearable toys much more enjoyable as they’re less buzzy and more stimulating.
Lovense Flexer Comfort & Secure Fit
The Lovense Flexer is uncomfortable, and the fit is inadequate for effective stimulation. This came up quite a bit in the previous section, so let’s dig into it:
One of the main complaints I have with the Flexer is the clit-arm’s design. It’s narrow and short. And it’s not adjustable, so if it doesn’t fit your specific anatomy, you’re out of luck.
The narrowness means that when it shifts slightly to one side (which happens since it moves), it won’t hit your clit at all.
That narrow clit-arm also moves around when the internal arm is flexing. If I’m not holding the base, the G-spot arm does not stimulate well, and the moving external part pinches my pubic bone uncomfortably.
I think the Lelo Ida Wave’s design is much more comfortable. It has a broad, flat base, which evenly distributes the pressure and vibrations.
The wider external portion of the Ida Wave also keeps the toy anchored so that most of the rotations of the internal arm are focused against your G-spot.
As for staying in place, the Flexer has a wide bulb, so even though the arm moves around, I’ve never had it fall entirely out of me. However, some people mentioned needing to hold it in.
“The toy would slip out a bit and had to be held in. It still hurt me no matter what way I held it. It’s a shame because for me Lovense toys are normally so satisfying to use.”–Lovehoney Customer Feedback
So if it fits right, you could wear it around, but I wouldn’t recommend it (it’s also very loud). The Flexer is best in the bedroom, where you can sit on the base to keep it in place.
The Lovense Ferri and Lush are better public play companions. They stay right where I want them and remain comfortable while walking. You can wear these separately or together. And you can control them both from the Lovense App simultaneously.
The Flexer’s internal bulb size is similar to the Lush but not quite as wide. So, it provides a nice stretch. This is great if you enjoy some girth but might be uncomfortable if you prefer slimmer toys.
The Flexer has some design aspects that poked me uncomfortably during its movement. And since it’s not adjustable, it will be hit or miss whether it aligns with your anatomy.
I didn’t have issues with it falling out, even when walking around. But it shifts too much when it flexes to stimulate well unless you sit firmly on the toy or hold it in place.
Lovense App: Close-Range Features
Although I don’t enjoy the Lovense Flexer’s stimulation, the app experience is phenomenal.
The Lovense Remote app is the best of any brand. It has excellent close-range and long-distance features and has the most reliable connectivity. We’ll cover the close-range features first. Jump here for long-distance features and jump here for connectivity.
The Lovense app makes it easy and intuitive to design your own pattern or set the vibrations to your preferred strength.
From the main Lovense Remote screen, you can raise or lower the on-screen dots to adjust the stimulation. One dot controls the Flexer’s vibration power, and the other controls how fast it flexes.
One bummer unique to the Lovense Flexer is that you cannot control the clit and G-spot vibrations separately. They’re a package deal. Lovense’s other dual-stimulation wearable toy (the Lovense Dolce) allows you to control the clitoral and G-spot motors independently.
You can use the “Loop” function to create repeating patterns quickly. Tap “Loop,” then drag one or both dots on the screen. The pattern you draw will repeat itself. This is ideal for making any sort of wave motion or quick pulses. And it’s fantastic for quickly drawing out a pattern and setting your phone aside while you enjoy. This way, you don’t have to stay glued to your phone the whole time.
To set the vibration power or flexing speed at a constant level, use the “Float” button. This will keep the power and speed fixed wherever you position the Flexer’s on-screen dots. I typically use this screen to warm up and then slowly drag the dots higher for a slow build. The “Float” function is also great for jumping quickly between power levels.
Lovense has a few preset patterns that are automatically available in your library. But where you really have the doors open is in “Discover” mode. Here, you can browse and save patterns that other people have created and shared. There are TONS of them.
And when you find one you enjoy, you can save it to your library to use whenever you want!
Lovense also offers the ability to let your toy buzz in response to your favorite songs. The songs need to be saved on your phone. The Lovense app used to be compatible with Spotify, but that feature was discontinued in September 2022 when Spotify removed support for third-party apps.
You can set the Lovense Flexer to vibrate in response to the noise picked up by your phone’s mic! Great for a club setting.
All of these settings are very intuitive, too. If you want the most customization power and value a user-friendly experience, Lovense toys are my top recommendation!
So, even if you don’t go with the Flexer, Lovense has several other wearables that might do the trick for you. My personal favorites are the Lovense Ferri and Lovense Lush 3. And even though the Nora isn’t wearable, it’s my favorite for dual stimulation.
Lovense App: Long-Distance Features
The Lovense App also has amazing long-distance control features. The long-distance connection (discussed here) is excellent too.
You can store one or more partners if you’ll connect with them often. In your saved partners list, you can easily see when they’re online.
You can video chat with your partner in the Lovense app while they control your Flexer. If you’d rather play without video, you can also only share control of your toy.
When you give your partner control of your Flexer, they will have the same Loop and Float functions you normally use in the app! So they can easily draw out an exact vibration or flexing pattern or set them to a constant level.
And if your partner also has a Lovense toy, you can simultaneously control each other’s toys!
You can mute your mic or turn off the video portion anytime during your video chat. You can also minimize the control panel to see your partner more clearly.
One extra fun feature – you can generate a one-time control link to give someone control of your Flexer anonymously. This is great if you don’t want to share your Lovense username. Simply set an amount of time the control link will be active. Then send the link, and the person can only control your Flexer for the amount of time you set. When the time is up, they can’t access your Flexer or request control again.
Overall, Lovense’s long-distance play is easy and the best of any app-control brand. The app gives you and your partner several easy, intuitive options to customize your experience.
If the Flexer does not sound like it will work as well as you’d like, I’d suggest trying the Nora. It will allow your partner to stimulate you both externally and internally. But since it’s handheld, you have better control over the stimulation, and I find it more enjoyable!
Lovense App: Connectivity
The Lovense Flexer has fantastic connectivity with the Lovense App, both in nearby Bluetooth mode and long-distance mode. Connecting is quick and easy, the Flexer stays connected, and the Flexer responds quickly to adjustments you make using the app.
All Lovense toys have a quick, easy pairing process with the app (see the video below). The first time you use the Flexer, you must add it as a new toy. After you’ve completed that process once, the Flexer will typically connect immediately when you open the Lovense app. If it doesn’t, you can simply select it from your list of toys.
The Lovense Flexer typically connects within a few seconds. And it stays connected, too – disconnections are rare. And even if the Flexer briefly drops the connection, it typically reconnects automatically within a second or two. Often, you need to go through the entire pairing process again with other brands.
Lovense Flexer Noise Level
The Flexer is one of the louder wearable vibrators – another reason it’s unsuitable for public play.
While wearing it, I measured the Flexer’s noise at 64dB on high power. That measurement is accounting for my body muffling some of that noise. Other Lovense wearables like the Ferri and Lush only hit 46dB and 47dB on high-power when I wear them. Listen to the difference in the video below.
We also tested whether my partner could hear it while standing immediately on the other side of our closed bedroom door. He could hear the Flexer’s vibrations once they reached 30% power. However, when I used the come hither motion alone, it remained inaudible the entire time.
Or if you want extremely quiet dual-stimulation just to enjoy in the bedroom, check out the We-Vibe Nova.
Lovense Flexer Battery Life & Charging
The Lovense Flexer is rechargeable, and Lovense lists the battery life between 1.5-2 hours. I tested this by fully charging the Lovense Flexer, and then turning it on at max power (both vibrations and flexing). The Flexer lasted 92 minutes in my testing, so right at the hour and a half mark from Lovense’s specifications.
Plenty of play time for use at home. For something you can wear around longer, consider the Lush 3 or Ferri, which have even longer-lasting batteries.
To charge the Flexer, simply use the magnetic charging cable. You can buy a replacement cable on Lovense’s site if you lose it.
Lovense Flexer Review Results
Although the Lovense Flexer is an exciting idea, it didn’t work as intended for me. Since the external part moved too much, it didn’t provide great G-spot pressure, and the clit arm pinched me uncomfortably.
The Flexer was Lovense’s first try at a wearable toy that moves. I’m hopeful that future iterations may work better. The Flexer could work better for you if it fits your particular anatomy. But since it’s not adjustable, chances are slim.
While I normally recommend buying Lovense toys directly through Lovense since it’s cheaper, this is a toy I’d buy through Lovehoney instead. They have a happiness guarantee, so you can return it for a refund if it doesn’t work for you.
I think the Lovense Flexer is a great toy if you:
- Are excited to try a unique hands-free dual-stimulation option from the best app-control brand. And you’re willing to take a chance on the Flexer fitting your anatomy, even though it’s not adjustable.
I think an alternative wearable vibrator might be better if you:
- Enjoy strong vibrations
- Value a comfortable experience and adjustability
- Want a toy you can easily wear around
- Want something to use during sex
- Will be bothered by the external portion moving around
- Don’t want to rely on gripping the small base of this toy to keep it in place
Lovense Flexer Alternatives
Lovense Ferri and Lush – Better To Wear Around
If you want a hands-free toy to wear as you go about your day, the Lovense Ferri and Lovense Lush are more comfortable, discreet, and stimulating than the Lovense Flexer. They use the same great Lovense app and have excellent connectivity.
The Ferri is a panty vibrator that provides hands-free clitoral vibrations. And the Lush 3 is an egg vibrator that provides hands-free G-spot vibrations. Choose based on your preferred stimulation. Or you can wear them both simultaneously for better dual-stimulation than the Flexer provides. You can easily control them together in the Lovense app.
The Ferri and Lush are separate toys, allowing you to customize your fit. That means better stimulation, better comfort, and a more secure fit as you walk around.
I also prefer this combo over the Flexer because the Ferri and Lush have stronger motors than the clit and G-spot arm of the Flexer. And even though they’re stronger, they’re quieter than the Flexer. So the Ferri and Lush are much more discreet.
Lovense Nora 2 – Handheld Dual-Stimulation
The Lovense Nora 2 is better than the Lovense Flexer if you want the automatic dual-stimulation of clitoral vibrations and G-spot pressure (like the Flexer provides) and don’t mind a handheld toy. The Nora’s dual-stimulation is much more effective and enjoyable than the Flexer’s.
The Nora has a vibrating clit motor like the Flexer. But the G-spot portion rotates rather than flexes. The Nora’s internal arm applies comfortable pressure on your G-spot as it sweeps through its motion.
I find the Nora’s G-spot stimulation is much better than the Flexer’s because you can easily hold the Nora in place. So the Nora actually presses on your G-spot. In contrast, the Flexer’s motion moves the external arm too much instead of pressing the internal arm to your G-spot.
The Nora’s G-spot arm can also move more quickly than the Flexer, which causes it to feel more stimulating. Ultimately, I orgasm easily with the Nora, but I cannot orgasm at all with the Flexer.
The Nora is another Lovense toy, too. So you’ll have that same great app to play with solo or with a long-distance partner anywhere in the world.
Read more about my experience with the Lovense Nora here.
Lelo Ida Wave – Better Wearable Dual-Stimulation
Like the Flexer, the Lelo Ida Wave also provides hands-free clitoral vibrations and G-spot pressure from a moving internal arm. But the Lelo Ida Wave is much more comfortable and stimulates better.
The Ida Wave is the most similar option to the Flexer in design, but the wider clitoral motor is critical. It keeps the clit arm in contact with my body the whole time. Whereas the Flexer’s clitoral arm instantly moves off my clit when the toy flexes.
The Ida Wave’s wide clitoral arm disperses the pressure evenly and comfortably on my body instead of pressing against my public bone uncomfortably like the Flexer does.
The Ida Wave’s wider exterior part also keeps the toy “anchored” so that its internal rotating arm stimulates my G-spot well. All the rotations happen inside like they’re supposed to! By contrast, the Flexer doesn’t have much to keep the external part from moving. So the Flexer shifts around, and the external arm moves when the toy flexes. So the Ida Wave’s G-spot pressure is much better.
The Lelo app has very basic control abilities – nothing as great as Lovense. You can only control it from nearby (it is not a long-distance toy). But at the end of the day, the Ida Wave stimulates better and doesn’t distract me with painful pokes. So, the Ida Wave is my preference over the Flexer, despite the more basic app.
Read more about my experience with the Lelo Ida Wave here.
Lovense Flexer vs Vulse
The Lovense Vulse is another moving wearable vibrator from Lovense. This one is a thrusting egg vibrator that provides hands-free internal stimulation. The Vulse is more comfortable, more stimulating, and generally better for most people than the Lovense Flexer.
The Lovense Vulse only stimulates your G-spot – it does not provide dual-stimulation like the Lovense Flexer. But the Vulse’s internal thrusting feels wonderful! I’ll gladly take the Vulse’s internal stimulation that feels good over the Flexer’s poor, uncomfortable, and even slightly painful dual-stimulation any day.
I especially love using the Vulse for hands-free internal stimulation while I use another vibrator on my clit. My orgasms feel more extended and happen more quickly one after another.
To learn more, read my full Lovense Vulse review
Lovense Flexer FAQ
How to Use the Lovense Flexer
Turn the Flexer on using the button at the toy’s base. You can cycle through intensity levels and patterns using this button. But for better control, connect it to the app as described above.
Use water-based lube on the internal part and insert it vaginally. You’ll likely need to sit on the Flexer or keep a hand pressed firmly on the base to keep the external arm from moving as the toy flexes.
How to Clean and Care for the Lovense Flexer
Clean the Lovense Flexer with warm, soapy water before and after use. It is entirely waterproof, so you can submerge it!
To keep the silicone in good condition, use water-based lube instead of silicone lubricant.