The Dame Pom has a decent power range that begins very soft (1.25 out of 10) and reaches a medium intensity (5.0 out of 10) on high power. 

The Pom’s gentle-to-average strength is great if you’re prone to overstimulation or just prefer moderate intensity. And with its 5 power levels, you can climb through its power range slowly and comfortably. But it may not be enough if you prefer finishing with very intense stimulation. 

If you prefer powerful vibrations, I’d consider the We-Vibe Touch X or Fun Factory Laya III in the Dame Pom’s price range. They both begin as gently as the Dame Pom but finish with stronger vibrations (7.75 out of 10), which is plenty for most people.

I still enjoy the Dame Pom’s milder vibrations. I can orgasm with them, but I definitely need to use the highest setting to get there. It’s a slower process since everything is gentler, but drawing the experience out by edging for a while can be fun and lead to a stronger orgasm eventually.

The Pillow Talk Flirty has gentle to mid-level power. It’s excellent for those who prefer milder vibrations or get overstimulated by intense power. 

To move through its power range, you press and hold the button to increase power gradually. As a result, steps between intensity levels are subtle and comfortable. And the Flirty covers the mild to moderate power range very well. 

The lowest power starts at 1.5 out of 10 vibration strength, but the highest only reaches 5 out of 10. When I use the Pillow Talk Flirty, I can orgasm from it, but it takes some effort. So it’s not one I reach for often, but it can be great for those overstimulated by intense power.

If you prefer more power, consider the Blush Limited Addiction in this price range. It’s stronger but lacks gentle levels. Or, if you want to keep those low powers but add some strength, try the slightly more expensive Pillow Talk Racy.

We rate rumbly vibrations higher than buzzy ones because it’s what most people prefer.

The Dame Pom has decent rumbliness, with its 5 power levels ranging from extremely rumbly on low to neutral on high. It never becomes buzzy, which many people find overstimulating or numbing. Its low-frequency vibrations and moderate power make it a good option if you prefer milder stimulation. 

If you prefer low-frequency, rumbly vibrations but enjoy more power, there are better options than the Dame Pom. For instance, the We-Vibe Tango X and We-Vibe Touch X have similarly low-frequency (rumbly) vibrations but more strength on those rumbly settings. Or rumbly wand vibrators like the BMS Swan Era Wand or Lovense Domi 2 pack even higher intensity while remaining rumbly.

Which is better for you depends on whether you prefer rumbly, mild vibrations or rumbly, intense vibrations.

We rate rumbly vibrators higher than buzzy ones because it’s what most people want. But preferences vary, so consider what you enjoy.

The Pillow Talk Flirty has below-average rumbliness. Its softest power levels are in the rumbly range, but most people will use these gentle levels only briefly while warming up. Its stronger power levels range from neutral-feeling to moderately buzzy.

It can be enjoyable if you prefer buzzy vibrations. But I find the mild power paired with the buzzy frequency packs little impact. So it’s best if you like light stimulation. I enjoy neutral or moderately buzzy vibrations, but typically when paired with more strength than the Flirty has.

You’ll need to increase your budget slightly if you prefer rumbly vibrations. The Pillow Talk Racy is the most affordable bullet with great rumbliness. Or you could go with a mini wand like the BMS Swan Era, which is even more rumbly than the Racy, and not much pricier.

The Dame Pom’s wide, flexible shape primarily provides broad stimulation. It spreads comfortably along your vulva and vibrates the entire area.

Using the Dame Pom’s ridged tip, you can also focus the stimulation more. But resting the Pom over the entire area for broad stimulation is easiest. A bullet-shaped toy like the We-Vibe Tango X is better if you prefer precise stimulation. 

The Pom’s flexible shape and squishy texture help its broad stimulation feel especially comfortable. It feels like the Pom is spreading out to fill every nook and cranny. 

The flexible core also gives you more control over exactly where you apply pressure. You can palm this whole toy and use your fingers to press the vibrations exactly where you want them. Since the Pom is not rigid, the pressure isn’t an “all or nothing” deal – you can choose which areas you want to feel that firm pressure.

The Pillow Talk Flirty provides a medium amount of precision for a bullet. The tip is slightly bulbous, spreading out the vibrations a bit and making it comfortable to press firmly against my body. 

It’s less precise than tapered and lipstick-shaped bullet vibrators. But it’s more focused than broad mini vibrators like the Dame Pom or We-Vibe Touch X. The amount of precision you enjoy is entirely a personal preference.

The shape and texture of the Dame Pom make it extremely comfortable on your body, but applying pressure is challenging. 

The plush, flexible core easily contours to your body with a gentle, pillowy feel. The flexibility and broad, contoured shape make for a snug fit that spreads the pressure and vibrations comfortably along your whole vulva. 

The extreme flexibility limits the pressure you can apply though. So it’s best for those who enjoy gentle or medium pressure, broadly spread across your vulva – not those who like to firmly press the vibrator into a particular spot. Any pressure comes from pushing the back of the Pom with your fingers – not like a toy with a handle that you can leverage with your hand or arm for a ton of pressure. 

The Magic Wand Micro is cheaper and has a similar level of plushness in the head, but has a solid handle, so it’s easier to apply firm pressure. But the Magic Wand Micro’s power range is more limited.

I had to get used to the Dame Pom’s buttons. Since the palm vibrator is very squishy, the controls are easy to press accidentally. Sometimes, when I flex the Pom, the bending motion automatically clicks the increase power button. So there’s a minor learning curve to prevent this from happening.

I enjoy that the Dame Pom has separate buttons to increase and decrease power, or move through vibration patterns. So you can quickly reach your desired setting. You can also hold down the buttons to steadily change power for a more gradual build (rather than stepping up or down through the 5 preset power levels). So once you get used to the buttons, they provide excellent control.

The Pillow Talk Flirty is a very comfortable bullet that’s easy to use. It’s relatively long for a bullet vibrator (4.3 inches), making it very comfortable to grip, leverage, and apply pressure. The vibrations don’t travel into my hand much, so the grip is fantastic. And the button to adjust power is easily within my reach without needing to change my hold on the bullet. 

The control system takes some getting used to, but is straightforward once you learn it. Hold the Flirty’s button, and the bullet will gradually increase power. Once it reaches your desired strength, you release the button. To move back down, you’ll need to double-click the button to begin again at the gentlest setting. 

I prefer vibrators with two buttons to increase and decrease power, but I like that the Flirty’s system inherently provides gradual, subtle steps between intensity levels.

The Dame Pom works really well during sex as long as you prefer milder, rumbly stimulation. The tip covers a comfortable area, and you don’t have to worry about precisely positioning it in the “exact right spot” since it broadly covers your whole clit and upper vulva.

The stimulation is lovely, and I’m able to keep good contact with my clit during sex. Since the tip is flexible, it moves with my body during sex to stay in contact. 

It’s easiest to situate the Dame Pom in positions where you’re not facing your partner and have lots of space for your hand and the toy since both will need to be between your legs. But even in Missionary position, it still works well since the shape is so flat, and your fingers rest flatly along the back of the toy. So together, your hand and the Pom are not too thick that they take up that much space – it just takes a little more intentionality in face-to-face positions.

The Pillow Talk Flirty is easy to use during sex. It’s best in a spooning position or others where you’re facing away from your partner. The relatively slender size is great for fitting into tight spots. And since it has a slight flex, it’s very comfortable and able to keep great contact, even with a bit of jostling around. The slight flexibility makes it a bit more difficult to apply pressure during sex, but still easier than most bullets since it’s longer.

Positions where you’re facing your partner are a little trickier because you have to angle the toy so the end of it doesn’t hit your partner’s chest. But since it’s not a very long toy, it’s very doable. It just takes some intentionality.

While the Pillow Talk Flirty is good during sex, I have even better success with the Pillow Talk Racy because the tip of the toy curves inward. This helps to maintain good contact without having to angle the bullet in a way that contacts my partner’s chest.

The Dame Pom is very quiet for the most part, and it’s unlikely any housemates will hear you using it. 

However, it can make an occasional rattling sound on its highest power. We test every mini vibrator to see whether someone may hear it on the other side of a closed door. My partner listens as I use the vibrator in the bedroom, and he notes whether he can hear it. My partner could only hear the Dame Pom when I used it at its maximum power and only when it made a rattling sound. 

This was his note in our testing spreadsheet: “Even with this occasional rattle, I still have to try hard to hear it. It’s unlikely someone would actually notice it during ordinary use.”

I can also prevent the Pom from rattling by adjusting my grip to keep it in better contact with my body. If you’d rather play it safe, simply turning on a box fan or playing music in the bedroom makes the Dame Pom completely inaudible behind a closed door. Or you could try an exceptionally discreet vibrator like the We-Vibe Touch X if you’re very concerned about noise.

The Pillow Talk Flirty is one of my quietest bullet vibrators! While recording its decibel readings with our Sound Level Meter, it was quieter than the room’s ambient sound. When I’m using it in our bedroom, my partner cannot hear it from the other side of the closed door on any power levels. So it’s safe to use if you live with others.

The discreet noise is no surprise since it’s only mid-powered. If you want something quiet but prefer stronger bullet vibrators, consider the Pillow Talk Racy.

The Dame Pom is rechargeable and has a decent battery life, lasting 85 minutes on high power. This should be plenty for most people, but you’ll want to charge between every couple of uses depending on how long you run it.

A full charge takes 2 hours using its magnetic USB charging cable.

The Flirty’s battery life is short compared to most bullets, especially when you consider its low power range. You’ll definitely want to make sure to charge it fully between each use.

If you’re the type to forget to charge it (like me), you’ll want to pick something with a longer battery life. The Je Joue Classic is a great option. And even though the Blush Limited Addiction’s battery life isn’t much higher, you can extend it even further if you use some low or middle power levels.

The Dame Pom’s build quality is okay. It has many qualities that make it feel luxurious, like its comfortably plush, silky silicone exterior. And its contoured shape that fits naturally in your palm, or its completely waterproof design. 

But the extremely flexible structure also causes it to feel cheap in some ways – for instance, when the Dame Pom flexes, the flexing motion often presses one of the buttons accidentally. And it almost feels precariously held together inside, as though too much flexing could damage it – although I’ve had no issues with it wearing out or breaking.

The Pillow Talk Flirty has an excellent build quality, especially for an inexpensive bullet vibrator. The silicone feels smooth, but grippy and is luxurious. And the slight flexibility makes it comfortable, but it still feels sturdy. I’m not concerned about breaking it with too much pressure.

The Dame Pom is extremely easy to clean because it’s 100% waterproof. So you can completely submerge the Pom as you scrub with soapy water. You can also use it worry-free in the shower or bathtub.

The Pillow Talk Flirty is IPX6 water-resistant, which makes it very easy to clean. IPX6 products can resist “high-pressure, heavy sprays of water” so you can wash it under a faucet without worrying about damaging the toy. Just clean with soap and water.