The Dame Pom has a decent power range that begins very soft (1.25 out of 10) and reaches a medium intensity (5.0 out of 10) on high power. 

The Pom’s gentle-to-average strength is great if you’re prone to overstimulation or just prefer moderate intensity. And with its 5 power levels, you can climb through its power range slowly and comfortably. But it may not be enough if you prefer finishing with very intense stimulation. 

If you prefer powerful vibrations, I’d consider the We-Vibe Touch X or Fun Factory Laya III in the Dame Pom’s price range. They both begin as gently as the Dame Pom but finish with stronger vibrations (7.75 out of 10), which is plenty for most people.

I still enjoy the Dame Pom’s milder vibrations. I can orgasm with them, but I definitely need to use the highest setting to get there. It’s a slower process since everything is gentler, but drawing the experience out by edging for a while can be fun and lead to a stronger orgasm eventually.

The Lovense Exomoon has a good power range with gentle-to-moderate strength but lacks intense upper levels. 

When controlling the Exomoon in the Lovense app, the lowest power starts at just 1 out of 10 vibration strength. This gentle starting level is excellent for those who need a soft warmup. And you can work extremely gradually through 20 intensity levels to reach its max strength of 5.4 out of 10, so there are no giant, jarring leaps. Increments are very comfortable.

The top strength of 5.4 out of 10 is less intense than some, including Lovense’s other bullet vibrator, the Lovense Ambi (which reaches 8 out of 10). However, I still orgasm reliably with this moderate level of strength, and it will be enough for many people.

Those who prioritize rumbliness over high intensity will enjoy the Exomoon. If you prefer power over rumbliness, consider the Lovense Ambi.

When using the Exomoon’s button instead of the app, you’ll have access to 3 intensity levels. The first begins at about 25% power, the second at around 60%, and the third is 100% power. So the on-toy controls still provide a good power range when you don’t want to use the Lovense app.

We rate rumbly vibrations higher than buzzy ones because it’s what most people prefer.

The Dame Pom has decent rumbliness, with its 5 power levels ranging from extremely rumbly on low to neutral on high. It never becomes buzzy, which many people find overstimulating or numbing. Its low-frequency vibrations and moderate power make it a good option if you prefer milder stimulation. 

If you prefer low-frequency, rumbly vibrations but enjoy more power, there are better options than the Dame Pom. For instance, the We-Vibe Tango X and We-Vibe Touch X have similarly low-frequency (rumbly) vibrations but more strength on those rumbly settings. Or rumbly wand vibrators like the BMS Swan Era Wand or Lovense Domi 2 pack even higher intensity while remaining rumbly.

Which is better for you depends on whether you prefer rumbly, mild vibrations or rumbly, intense vibrations.

Most people prefer rumbly vibrators, so we rate them higher than buzzy ones. However, preferences vary, so consider what you enjoy! 

The Lovense Exomoon has great rumbliness. It’s lower-frequency (more rumbly) than most bullet vibrators, including the Lovense Ambi. In fact, every power level lands in the rumbly range. The gentler settings are extremely rumbly, but even its highest power levels remain moderately rumbly. 

I have not found a more rumbly app-controlled bullet vibrator than the Lovense Exomoon. It’s great for those who value rumbliness and don’t need exceptional intensity. If you want more power and don’t need app control, consider the extremely rumbly We-Vibe Tango X.

The Dame Pom’s wide, flexible shape primarily provides broad stimulation. It spreads comfortably along your vulva and vibrates the entire area.

Using the Dame Pom’s ridged tip, you can also focus the stimulation more. But resting the Pom over the entire area for broad stimulation is easiest. A bullet-shaped toy like the We-Vibe Tango X is better if you prefer precise stimulation. 

The Pom’s flexible shape and squishy texture help its broad stimulation feel especially comfortable. It feels like the Pom is spreading out to fill every nook and cranny. 

The flexible core also gives you more control over exactly where you apply pressure. You can palm this whole toy and use your fingers to press the vibrations exactly where you want them. Since the Pom is not rigid, the pressure isn’t an “all or nothing” deal – you can choose which areas you want to feel that firm pressure.

Whether you prefer focused or broad stimulation is entirely a personal preference.

The Lovense Exomoon provides focused stimulation. It’s one of the narrowest bullet vibrators I’ve tested. And the lipstick tip comes to a fine point, giving it an even tinier surface area.

This is great for limiting stimulation to a small, specific area. If you prefer direct clitoral stimulation, this is an excellent option. I can apply medium pressure with this bullet but don’t like to press too hard, or the small tip begins to feel pokey. The Lovense Ambi provides more moderate focus if you enjoy some broader stimulation.

The Lovense app is outstanding and is my personal favorite app for controlling my toys. It offers a wide variety of simple, intuitive, and useful features to control the Exomoon. (The connectivity is also extremely reliable – we discuss connectivity here).

The main “Remote” control screen is easy to use and gives precise, extremely versatile control over your vibrations. Use the “Float” button to quickly set the vibration power to any constant level. 

Or you can draw out the exact pattern you want to feel by dragging your finger up and down to increase or decrease the vibration strength. Click “Loop” to put your creation on repeat. If you enjoy the pattern, you can save it for future use.

You’ll also see the vibration pattern clearly on the screen, so if a partner controls your Exomoon, they can tell exactly what you’re feeling. Many other brands don’t provide good visuals to your partner, making it hard for them to understand how their actions affect your toy’s vibrations.

One downside we noticed is that if you lock your phone screen, the vibration pattern changes a bit. The Exomoon keeps vibrating, but it’s not the same pattern you drew using the “Loop” button. This issue is only a minor inconvenience, and it does not occur when using the “Float” button to set a constant strength or when using pre-designed patterns.

You can choose from pre-made patterns under the “My Patterns” screen and adjust their speed. Or head to the “Discover” section to view patterns created and shared by other Lovense users. You can save any of these to your library. 

You can vibrate along to your favorite songs with the “Music” feature, but they have to be songs saved on your phone. Spotify compatibility has been disabled since September 1, 2022, when Spotify discontinued support for third-party apps. You can adjust how sensitive your toy is to the beats of the music. This is an excellent feature if you want to enjoy a constantly changing pattern without keeping your fingers busy on the screen.

Use the “Sound” feature to make your bullet responsive to the noise picked up by your phone’s mic. This is especially fun in a louder environment with Lovense’s wearables like the Lovense Ferri or Lovense Lush 3. 

You can also set an alarm for your bullet to buzz at a particular time, though this is less useful for handheld toys like the Exomoon.

The Lovense Exomoon’s long-distance features and experience are excellent. 

The Lovense app allows you to connect with a long-distance partner anywhere in the world. Adding a partner (or partners) is simple. Once you’ve saved them in your partners list, you can text, send photos, video chat, and share control of your toy – all within the Lovense app.

Your partner’s control screen is the same as the “Remote” feature you have during solo play. So they can easily create a repeating pattern using the “Loop” function or set your Exomoon to a constant power using “Float.” 

While video-chatting, your partner can see the vibration pattern overlayed on the screen so they can tell what you’re feeling. Or they can hide the vibration pattern to see you more clearly! Lovense’s visuals during video calls are better than other brands like Satisfyer. You can also share control without video or audio for anonymous play.

You can save multiple partners in your list if you connect with them often. Or send out an anonymous one-time link to someone. The anonymous feature lets you send a control link that works for a set amount of time. Once the time expires, they’ll lose access.

If your partner also has a Lovense toy, you can simultaneously control each other’s toys! You can adjust your partner’s settings to either require an invite and confirmation to control your toy each time, or to automatically accept their request so they can take you by surprise! This feature is best for their wearable toys like the Lovense Ferri and Lovense Lush 3.

The Lovense Remote is the most intuitive app for long-distance control I’ve used. And you each have great control and privacy settings to customize the experience. If you are primarily looking for a long-distance bullet vibrator, a Lovense toy like the Exomoon or Lovense Ambi provides the best experience.

The Lovense Exomoon and other Lovense toys have the most reliable connectivity with their app. It connects to the app quickly and easily. And it remains reliably connected. 

The first time you pair the Exomoon with Bluetooth, you’ll select “Add Toy.” The initial pairing process takes less than 20 seconds. After you’ve paired it once, when you open the Lovense app, it will typically connect instantly and automatically. 

Most brands require you to walk through a series of steps each time you want to play, but Lovense’s connection is typically instantaneous. 

I hardly ever have trouble with it disconnecting during use, even if I leave it dormant while using other apps. If it disconnects due to separating the toy and phone, it often automatically re-pairs when they’re back in range. 

And if you do have to manually re-pair it, it’s a very quick and easy process. Simply select the Exomoon from your list of toys again.

The same applies to long-distance control. My partner and I can keep a reliable connection, with disconnections being rare and minimally disruptive even if they do occur. 

If app control is important to you, Lovense toys are the best – primarily because of their reliable connectivity.

The shape and texture of the Dame Pom make it extremely comfortable on your body, but applying pressure is challenging. 

The plush, flexible core easily contours to your body with a gentle, pillowy feel. The flexibility and broad, contoured shape make for a snug fit that spreads the pressure and vibrations comfortably along your whole vulva. 

The extreme flexibility limits the pressure you can apply though. So it’s best for those who enjoy gentle or medium pressure, broadly spread across your vulva – not those who like to firmly press the vibrator into a particular spot. Any pressure comes from pushing the back of the Pom with your fingers – not like a toy with a handle that you can leverage with your hand or arm for a ton of pressure. 

The Magic Wand Micro is cheaper and has a similar level of plushness in the head, but has a solid handle, so it’s easier to apply firm pressure. But the Magic Wand Micro’s power range is more limited.

I had to get used to the Dame Pom’s buttons. Since the palm vibrator is very squishy, the controls are easy to press accidentally. Sometimes, when I flex the Pom, the bending motion automatically clicks the increase power button. So there’s a minor learning curve to prevent this from happening.

I enjoy that the Dame Pom has separate buttons to increase and decrease power, or move through vibration patterns. So you can quickly reach your desired setting. You can also hold down the buttons to steadily change power for a more gradual build (rather than stepping up or down through the 5 preset power levels). So once you get used to the buttons, they provide excellent control.

The Lovense Exomoon is very comfortable and easy to use. It’s right at the shorter end of my ideal bullet length. Its 3.4-inch length provides enough space to grip and leverage the bullet for good pressure. Vibrations in my hand are minimal and not distracting.

The bullet’s discreet “lipstick design” gives it some unusual ridges near the tip, which I had to adjust to. But it’s nothing that will bother most people.

The Exomoon has just one button on the toy. So if you don’t want to use the Lovense app, you’ll need to cycle through the 3 intensity levels and 4 vibration patterns. I wish it had separate buttons to increase and decrease power. But if you want more in-depth control, you can use the app. The button is easy to press without adjusting my grip.

The Dame Pom works really well during sex as long as you prefer milder, rumbly stimulation. The tip covers a comfortable area, and you don’t have to worry about precisely positioning it in the “exact right spot” since it broadly covers your whole clit and upper vulva.

The stimulation is lovely, and I’m able to keep good contact with my clit during sex. Since the tip is flexible, it moves with my body during sex to stay in contact. 

It’s easiest to situate the Dame Pom in positions where you’re not facing your partner and have lots of space for your hand and the toy since both will need to be between your legs. But even in Missionary position, it still works well since the shape is so flat, and your fingers rest flatly along the back of the toy. So together, your hand and the Pom are not too thick that they take up that much space – it just takes a little more intentionality in face-to-face positions.

The Lovense Exomoon is a decent bullet to use during sex. 

Since it’s on the shorter end, it can be a little tiring to reach down and hold it in place during sex. It just takes a little more effort than some. 

The tapered tip works well during solo use but requires you to angle the bullet’s base away from your body to keep consistent contact. That angle can be restricted in positions where you’re facing your partner, like Missionary. It’s still doable if you lean away from each other a bit. But it takes more intentionality than some bullets – especially those with angled shapes like the Lovense Ambi.

It’s better in positions facing away from your partner where you have plenty of room to maneuver the bullet.

If using your bullet during sex is a top priority, consider the Lovense Ambi. If it’s not a top priority, most people will still enjoy the Exomoon during sex.

The Dame Pom is very quiet for the most part, and it’s unlikely any housemates will hear you using it. 

However, it can make an occasional rattling sound on its highest power. We test every mini vibrator to see whether someone may hear it on the other side of a closed door. My partner listens as I use the vibrator in the bedroom, and he notes whether he can hear it. My partner could only hear the Dame Pom when I used it at its maximum power and only when it made a rattling sound. 

This was his note in our testing spreadsheet: “Even with this occasional rattle, I still have to try hard to hear it. It’s unlikely someone would actually notice it during ordinary use.”

I can also prevent the Pom from rattling by adjusting my grip to keep it in better contact with my body. If you’d rather play it safe, simply turning on a box fan or playing music in the bedroom makes the Dame Pom completely inaudible behind a closed door. Or you could try an exceptionally discreet vibrator like the We-Vibe Touch X if you’re very concerned about noise.

The Lovense Exomoon is very quiet. It’s inaudible from behind a closed door on every power level, so it’s discreet. And the sound isn’t annoying during use, either. If discretion is a priority, the Exomoon is a good choice.

The Dame Pom is rechargeable and has a decent battery life, lasting 85 minutes on high power. This should be plenty for most people, but you’ll want to charge between every couple of uses depending on how long you run it.

A full charge takes 2 hours using its magnetic USB charging cable.

The Lovense Exomoon is rechargeable and lasted 85 minutes on high power during our testing, which is pretty good. I often forget to charge between uses and still have plenty of battery life.

The Dame Pom’s build quality is okay. It has many qualities that make it feel luxurious, like its comfortably plush, silky silicone exterior. And its contoured shape that fits naturally in your palm, or its completely waterproof design. 

But the extremely flexible structure also causes it to feel cheap in some ways – for instance, when the Dame Pom flexes, the flexing motion often presses one of the buttons accidentally. And it almost feels precariously held together inside, as though too much flexing could damage it – although I’ve had no issues with it wearing out or breaking.

The Lovense Exomoon’s build quality seems good. A silicone handle would feel a little more luxurious, but the ABS plastic handle feels solid and durable. The silicone tip is very smooth, and the button has a nice feel. 

I’ve had the Exomoon since June 2022 and have not experienced any issues yet. And I’ve had other Lovense toys for over 3 years without problems, so I expect the Exomoon to last.

The Dame Pom is extremely easy to clean because it’s 100% waterproof. So you can completely submerge the Pom as you scrub with soapy water. You can also use it worry-free in the shower or bathtub.

The Lovense Exomoon is completely waterproof (IPX7 submersible), so it’s very easy to wash. You can submerge it in water without worrying about keeping parts dry while scrubbing with soap and water!