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Best Remote Control Vibrator: For Long-Distance, Public Play, and More

In this guide, we’ll cover the best of the nearly 40 remote control vibrators I own and have used over the last few years. If you’re short on time, these are a few of my absolute favorites and what they’re good for!

Best For Wearable
Clit Stimulation

Lovense Ferri and VeDO Niki - Best wearable clitoral remote control vibrators square

Best Overall: Lovense Ferri

On a Budget: VeDO Niki

Lovense has the most reliable and versatile app. And the Ferri offers the strongest wearable clit vibes. This is the hands-free vibrator I orgasm with easiest. On a tighter budget, the remote controlled VeDO Niki is excellent and it’s the only other panty vibrator that takes me all the way.

Best For Wearable
G-spot Stimulation

Lovense Lush 3 and VeDO Kiwi - Best wearable G-spot remote control vibrators

Best Overall: Lovense Lush 3

On a Budget: VeDO Kiwi

It’s a similar story for remote controlled G-spot vibrators! For a high-quality app experience, Lovense is simply the best. But the VeDO Kiwi is equally powerful, and more budget-friendly since it uses a physical remote. Those who don’t need app-control will enjoy the savings.

Strongest, Most Versatile Dual-Stimulation

We-Vibe Nova 2 and We-Vibe app on Multi-Vibe function

We-Vibe Nova 2

This rabbit’s squishy internal arm arm and powerful, rumbly vibrations feel incredible on my G-spot! And the Nova 2 has a highly flexible clit arm so that, unlike many rabbit vibrators, this one actually works for a broad range of people. If you enjoy strong, rumbly dual-stimulation – this is the rabbit to get.

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I’ve been collecting, testing, and just enjoying a bunch of remote control vibrators for a few years now. 

39 remote control vibrators I've tested over the last few years
39 of the remote control vibrators I’ve tested over the past few years

From handheld options to hands-free wearable toys like remote controlled panty vibrators and egg vibrators

And some remote control vibrators you can even wear hands-free during sex

Several of my hands-free vibrators to wear during sex

Some of them I loved! Others were a bit… underwhelming.

I personally own and have extensively used all of the toys I’ll discuss in this guide to the best remote control vibrators. I’ve spent lots of quality time with each of them (and many others that didn’t make the cut for this guide).

I’ll give you all the info you need to make your pick! And share plenty of video demos along the way so you can see and hear how each toy operates.

There’s actually a pretty wide variety of types of remote controlled vibrators. So it’s impossible to pick just one as the best. Instead, certain remote control vibrators are better for particular uses. 

My remote control vibrators grouped by kind - handheld, egg vibrators, panty vibrators, and dual-stimulation vibrators

So I’ll walk you through several of my favorites, what they do well, and what they’re not as good at.

Whether you’re looking for a discreet public-play option, searching for a long-distance relationship toy, or even something fun to use at home during sex: I’ll give you my top quality picks. 

And also share some of the more budget-friendly options that surprised me with excellent performance.

I’ll keep updating this article as I add more to my collection. So you’ll see a nice range, including the latest-and-greatest and time-tested favorites that just can’t be beaten.

My Personal Favorite Remote Control Vibrators

If you’re short on time, I’ll save you some reading. Here are my personal favorites and what they’re good for.

Favorite wearable remote control vibrators (so you can enjoy hands-free stimulation for public play or as you go about your day):

My favorite wearable remote control vibrators - lovene ferri, vedo niki, lovense lush 3, vedo kiwi, we-vibe chorus
  • If you prefer clit stimulation: the Lovense Ferri and VeDO Niki are my two favorites. They’re the only two clitoral panty vibrators that bring me to orgasm hands-free. The Ferri is app-controlled and more versatile. Lovense’s app connectivity is excellent with nearby or long-distance partners. Niki is remote-controlled, so no long-distance play, but it’s less expensive and provides deep, rumbly vibrations.
  • If you prefer G-spot stimulation: The Lovense Lush 3 and VeDO Kiwi give the strongest and best hands-free G-spot stimulation. Again the Lush is app-controlled, and the Kiwi is remote-controlled / more budget-friendly.
  • For hands-free stimulation during sex: The We-Vibe Chorus isn’t as easy to wear around as the remote control vibrators above, but it’s designed to wear during sex for hands-free clit and G-spot stimulation. It’s one of the only toys I can orgasm with during sex completely hands-free. 

Favorite handheld remote control vibrators (these vibrators are for use inside the bedroom. You can’t wear them around like the options above, but they’re easier to maneuver, they provide excellent stimulation, and you can give control to a nearby or long-distance partner):

My personal favorite handheld remote control vibrators - lovense hyphy, we-vibe nova 2, lovense nora
  • The Lovense Hyphy: this vibrator has two ends – a pinpoint end for focused clit stimulation and a broader end for stronger clit stimulation or G-spot stimulation. This is the vibrator I use most right now, because I have multiple orgasms with it very easily (you can read why I think that is in my Lovene Hyphy review)
  • If you want powerful, rumbly dual-stimulation from vibrations, the absolute best remote control rabbit vibrator for this is the We-Vibe Nova 2
  • If you want dual-stimulation, but prefer G-spot pressure the Lovense Nora is wonderful. Its internal arm rotates, and the external arm vibrates. So it feels like fingering plus simultaneous clit-vibes. I really enjoy it!

I’ll chat in more detail about each of these in their individual sections below!

Best Remote Control Panty Vibrators [Wearable Clit Stimulation]

Best Overall
Lovense Ferri and Lovense Remote app closeup

Lovense Ferri

Strongest clit stimulation, best app connectivity, longest range, and most feature-rich app. This is the one I orgasm with easiest.

Best Mid-Budget
Vedo Niki Remote and Vibrator

Vedo Niki

Mid-budget with VERY strong, rumbly clit stimulation. Still one of the quietest panty vibes with great comfort and reliable remote connectivity. This is the only one besides the Ferri that takes me all the way hands-free.

Best on A Tight Budget
Satisfyer Sexy Secret and App

Satisfyer Sexy Secret

Excellent app with reliable connectivity at a budget price. Exceptionally quiet but less powerful vibrations.

The first few groups of remote control vibrators we’ll talk about are wearable vibrators. 

My wearable remote control vibrators showing the different kinds - egg vibrators, vibrating panties, dual-stimulation, and during sex

If you want to give control to a partner as you go about your day or in public, you need a hands-free wearable toy instead of a handheld vibrator. So if discreet, sneaky fun is what you’re after, then start here. 

If you just plan to give control to a partner inside the bedroom, you may benefit from the greater maneuverability of a handheld vibrator. 

Lovense Hyphy with text indicating that handheld vibrators are more maneuverable than wearables, so they're often better in the bedroom

We’ll start with panty vibrators because… well, they’re my favorite remote control wearable vibrators! That’s because vibrating panties give the best hands-free clitoral stimulation.

The 3 best remote control vibrating panties - lovense ferri, vedo-niki, satisfyer sexy secret

Like many women, I need clit stimulation to orgasm. So naturally, these are my favs.

While these small panty vibrators don’t reach quite the overwhelming vibration strength of bigger handheld vibrators, they provide solid clit stimulation you can enjoy discreetly outside the bedroom. 

Several panty vibrators and handheld remote control vibrators showing panty vibrators are less powerful, but allow discreet public play

If you typically need the immense power of something like a wand vibrator, then these remote control panty vibrators may provide more of a fun tease for you. But if you don’t need enormous power levels, they may take you all the way completely hands-free. I personally orgasm from my two favorites – the Lovense Ferri and VeDO Niki.

VeDO Niki and Lovense Ferri - the two strongest remote control vibrating panties

So if sneaky clit-vibes are what you’re looking for, check out these panty vibrators!

Lovense Ferri – Most Powerful Panty Vibrator and Best Overall

Best for: Strongest hands-free clit stimulation, best app, best overall
See Price at: Lovense, Lovehoney, PeepShowToys, SheVibe
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Let’s start with my top panty vibrator – the Lovense Ferri!

Lovense Ferri with the Lovense Remote app on the main remote screen

This remote control vibrator magnetically secures to any pair of your underwear. You’ll position it in a good spot for you and then secure it with the included magnet (which, by the way is crazy strong – this panty vibrator’s not going anywhere!)

One of the main reasons the Ferri stands out – it has the most powerful vibrations of all my panty vibrators! This chart shows how I rate its power compared to my other remote control panty vibrators.

Vibrating Panties Power Ranges

The Ferri’s shape also directs the vibes to my clit better than other vibrating panties. So its vibrations feel more impactful overall. While most other panty vibrators provide light stimulation for a fun tease, the Lovense Ferri is one of just two that takes me all the way. 

Strongest panty vibrators and how they feel - VeDO Niki and Ferri

The vibrations are a nice mix between buzzy and rumbly. So whether you prefer buzzier or more rumbly vibes for clit-stimulation – there’s something there for everyone to enjoy. If you’re a bit of a pure-ist and want all rumbly vibes, then the VeDO Niki may be a better fit for you.

You’ll control the Ferri through the Lovense Remote app. My partner and I have many app-controlled vibrators from several brands, and we’ve had our best experiences with Lovense.

Lovense Ferri and Remote app showing control selection screen - our favorite app and panty vibrator

The Lovense app has the most versatile, intuitive functionality and the best connectivity of all the brands we’ve tried. This is another big reason the Ferri is my favorite panty vibrator. 

Lovense Ferri demo

The Lovense app makes it easy to get the vibrations you want with the Loop and Float functions. Tap “Loop” to quickly draw out the exact vibration pattern you want, and the Ferri will keep repeating the pattern. 

Or hit “Float” to set the Ferri vibrating on a constant power level.

Screenshots using the Loop and Float functions in the Lovense app to control the Ferri

There are several other ways to control the Ferri – you can jump down here to watch my video comparing each app’s control features.

App control offers some unique advantages over remote control vibrators – especially for partnered play. The two biggest advantages:

  1. Your partner can see on-screen what you’re feeling. This helps a partner control your vibrator better and feel more involved. With a physical remote control, your partner can’t tell how your vibrations are affected when they click a button. So it’s harder for them to control your toy well, and it’s less engaging.
  2. You can play with a long-distance partner. Your partner can control your vibes from anywhere in the world! It’s an excellent option for long-distance couples, or couples who travel for work. A physical remote control means your partner will need to be nearby.
Side by side screenshots of both partners' view while video chatting in the Lovense remote app

Lovense’s connectivity is also the best in my experience. This is a huge deal with app-controlled toys. You want something that will connect quickly and easily. And also stay connected.

The Ferri connects quickly to the Lovense app. I almost never need to troubleshoot as I do with others. And the Ferri stays reliably connected. 

The Ferri is one of my most comfortable wearables. And it stays in place very well, even if I’m walking around or dancing.

Lovense Ferri magnet attached to the toy through my hand demonstrating the magnet's strength

While the Lovense Ferri is a bit louder than some other remote control vibrators in this guide, I can still play discreetly in most places. Anywhere with some consistent background sound masks the Ferri’s vibrations. 

My partner and I have been able to use it in most restaurants without either of us being able to hear it. And louder settings like bars are no issue. Always start on low power levels first to ensure it’s inaudible before letting loose.

I recommend the Lovense Ferri if you:

  • Want the strongest hands-free clit vibes for discreet play outside the bedroom.
  • Plan to play in places with some background noise (it’s inaudible in most restaurants, bars, outdoors, etc.)
  • Want the most complete and versatile control over your vibes – Lovense’s app provides the best control and most reliable connection.
  • Would like to use your toy with a long-distance partner – Lovense has a great long-distance experience and the best connectivity.

Discount codes:
15% off order at Lovehoney with code “PleasureBetter15”

You can read more details about my experience with the Ferri, and how it compares to other panty vibrators at my Lovense Ferri Review!

VeDO Niki – Best Remote Control Panty Vibrator

Best for: Strong, rumbly vibes at a mid-budget price since it’s not app controlled
See Price at: PeepShowToys, SheVibe
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If you don’t need or want app control, then the VeDO Niki is an excellent remote control panty vibrator at a reasonable price. 

VeDO Niki Demo

This one is controlled by a physical remote instead of an app like the Ferri. As a result, it’s more budget-friendly. And it’s the only other panty vibrator with the power to bring me to orgasm hands-free.

The Niki’s vibration strength is comparable to the Ferri’s, but Niki’s vibes are deeper and more rumbly!

VeDO Niki - Strongest remote control panty vibrator with deep, rumbly vibrations

Many prefer its rumbly feel over the mix of rumbly / buzzy vibes the Ferri offers. In fact, if the VeDO Niki had an app, it would be my favorite remote control panty vibrator. Those strong, rumbly vibrations feel incredible

Like the Ferri, the Niki’s shape directs the vibration strength to my clit where it should go! But its shape is broader, so it contours the body exceptionally well. As a result, it’s the most comfortable panty vibrator I’ve tried.

And also like the Ferri, the Niki magnetically secures to your underwear. Though the magnet is not as strong as the Ferri’s, the Niki’s shape naturally keeps the toy in place. I’ve never had issues with it moving around or slipping out of position.

VeDO Niki's magnet is less powerful than the Lovense Ferri magnet

Since the VeDO Niki is remote-controlled (not app-controlled), you won’t be able to play with a long-distance partner. And of course, your partner won’t be able to see what you’re feeling on-screen. They’ll need to rely on a good understanding of the remote-control’s buttons.

So it’s best for someone who plans to control the toy themselves or play with a nearby partner.

Thankfully, the Niki’s remote provides better control than many other panty vibrators I’ve used. 

Several I’ve tried (and wouldn’t recommend) have a single-button remote control. So you have to cycle through all the patterns and power levels to get to the one you want.

VeDO Niki's remote control showing what each button does

But the VeDO Niki’s remote lets you increase and decrease the power level with the plus and minus buttons (though you still cycle through patterns). The ability to quickly lower the power is important with wearable vibrators so that you can turn down the power (and consequently the sound) if you need to.

Another aspect of the Niki I love – even though it’s one of the strongest remote control panty vibrators, it’s also the quietest one I’ve tried! The deep, rumbly quality of the vibrations keeps them quiet even as you increase the power.

Here’s how the Niki sounds in comparison to the Ferri.

So you can wear it to coffee shops and restaurants like the Ferri. But you may also be able to wear it to even quieter places if you’re a real daredevil. And for people nervous about noise – the Niki will set your mind at ease.

At a mid-budget price, the VeDO Niki offers incredible bang for the buck. You get excellent power, lovely deep vibrations, exceptional comfort, and quiet vibes.

I recommend the VeDO Niki if you:

  • Prefer a remote control vibrator with a physical remote instead of an app
  • Want the strongest rumbly clit vibrations – about the same strength as the Ferri, but the Niki has deeper vibes.
  • Value an especially comfortable experience
  • Don’t need to connect with a long-distance partner (you need an app for that)
  • Want the quietest remote control clitoral vibrator – this is the best balance of high power with low sound levels

Discount codes:
10% off order at PeepShowToys with code “PleasureBetter”

To read more about my experience with the Niki, head to my VeDO Niki Review!

Satisfyer Sexy Secret – Best Budget App-Controlled Panty Vibrator

Best for: High quality, reliable app control at a budget price
See Price at: PeepShowToys, SheVibe
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Alright – budget-buy alert! I love finding a good deal, which is why I included the Sexy Secret app-controlled vibrator in this guide. 

Satisfyer Sexy Secret Demo

The Sexy Secret is a rare cheap remote control vibrator that I think is good quality and worth considering. In fact, Satisfyer’s app is my second favorite (after Lovense’s). Their app is better than those from more expensive brands like We-Vibe, Kiiroo, OhMiBod, and others. 

Satisfyer app showing a looping pattern to control the Sexy Secret

At a price tag under $50 for a quality app-controlled toy, it opens up the world of hands-free and long-distance play to anyone on a strict budget.

That said, you’re making some trade-offs for the lower price.

Strong power is the main thing you’re giving up for the Sexy Secret’s lower price.

The Sexy Secret’s vibes still feel good. They’re light and buzzy and give an enjoyable tease. But they’re unlikely to take you all the way. While I can orgasm hands-free from the Lovense Ferri and VeDO Niki, the Sexy Secret’s softer vibrations don’t tip me over the edge.

Tradeoffs you make for the Sexy Secret's lower price compared to other remote control panty vibrators - primarily vibration strength

If you’re looking for something more likely to help you reach the finish line, the Ferri or Niki are your best bets.

But if you’re on a tight budget and just want to enjoy some sneaky foreplay outside the bedroom… the Sexy Secret is a great option. 

Here are some of the excellent features it has that are comparable to (and often better than) higher-end options:

First – the app

As I mentioned, I prefer Satisfyer’s app over every brand except Lovense.

Screenshots of pattern selection screen in the Satisfyer app

It has several control options, including a wide array of preset vibe patterns. 

Like Lovense’s app, the Satisfyer’s main control screen lets you quickly set a constant power or create looping patterns. And it provides excellent visuals, so a partner controlling your toy can tell what you’re feeling.

Using the loop button to create your own patterns in the Satisfyer app
There are two lines because I grabbed this screenshot while controlling the Satisfyer Curvy 1+ which has both air pulses and vibrations

You can also share toy control and video chat with a long-distance partner in Satisfyer’s app. We’ve had great experiences with Satisfyer’s connectivity in both Bluetooth (nearby control) and long-distance control.

Screenshot showing a long-distance call in the Satisfyer app

Comfort is another big “plus” on this toy. The Sexy Secret also magnetically secures to your underwear for a secure fit. And its silicone is extra-squishy and flexible. So it contours to your body in a very comfortable way.

Holding the Satisfyer Sexy Secret in my hand and flexing it back and forth

While its vibrations are softer than other options, that also comes with the advantage that they’re very quiet. So you can take it anywhere with some consistent, soft background noise.

If your budget for a wearable remote control vibrator is less than $50, the Sexy Secret is the toy I would get.

I recommend the Satisfyer Sexy Secret if you:

  • Want a budget option with reliable app-control – Satisfyer’s app is better than the other more expensive brands except for Lovense.
  • Don’t mind lower-powered vibes – this is the biggest trade-off it makes for the budget price; But the vibes are still teasy, fun, and great for foreplay outside the bedroom.

Discount codes:
15% off order at Lovehoney with code “PleasureBetter15”

Read more about the Sexy Secret and my experience with it at my Satisfyer Sexy Secret Review!

More Remote Control Panty Vibrators

The remote control panty vibrators I recommend in this article are my favorite ones, and the toys I recommend to my friends. But I did test out a whole slew of them. 

All my panty vibrators with the Lovense Ferri, VeDO Niki, and Sexy Secret highlighted as my favorites

So if you’re interested in hearing about some of the others I’ve tried, I compare all my remote control vibrating panties here and chat more about my extensive testing. 

Best Remote Control Egg Vibrators [Wearable G-spot Stimulation]

Best Overall
Lovense-Lush-3-Wearable-G-spot-Vibrator-and-App Square

Lovense Lush 3

Strongest G-spot stimulation (tied with VeDO Kiwi), best app connectivity, longest range, and most feature-rich app. The Lush performs highly in every category

Budget-Friendly With Excellent Stimulation
VeDO Kiwi and its Remote Square

VeDO Kiwi

The VeDO Kiwi is just as strong as the Lush and more rumbly! The Kiwi gives my favorite stimulation, but is remote controlled – so no long-distance play. But it’s exceptionally quiet and strong at a budget price.

Mid-Budget App Control
Svakom Ella Neo and App

Svakom Ella Neo

The Svakom Ella Neo is a budget-friendly app controlled egg. The app provides more basic control than others, but works well. Not as strong as some others, but good for long-distance play on a budget.

The next several remote control wearable vibrators provide hands-free G-spot stimulation.

The four best remote control egg vibrators - VeDO Kiwi, We-Vibe Jive, Lovense Lush, and Svakom Ella Neo

Remote-control egg vibrators slip in place, nuzzle up against your G-spot, and deliver some lovely vibes completely hands-free. So like panty vibrators, you can wear an egg vibrator as you go about your day.

But these provide G-spot stimulation only – no clitoral vibes. 

Don’t be confused by the antenna on some of these remote-control eggs. I initially thought maybe the antenna wrapped around and gave some clit-vibes too. But not so – all the vibes go to your G-spot!

View of Lovense Lush and other egg vibrators' antennas showing that they do not provide clitoral stimulation

So these are a good option for anyone who enjoys internal stimulation and doesn’t necessarily need clit stim. Remote control egg vibrators also have the advantage that they can be especially discreet.

Because they’re resting inside your vagina, your body helps muffle the sound – a feat that bodies are surprisingly good at! 

I also enjoy using these remote control egg vibrators at home for solo play. Since they’re hands-free, I can slip an egg vibrator in place, and my hands are available to use my favorite handheld vibe on my clit. So I use these quite a bit for dual-stimulation!

Using Lovense Hyphy and Lush 3 together for dual-stimulation

Like all wearables, egg vibrators don’t have a handle, so you can’t maneuver them to apply additional pressure. Instead, you’re relying on the vibrations to stimulate your G-spot. So if you just plan to play inside the bedroom and prefer G-spot pressure, you may want a handheld option. 

Wearable vs handheld remote control G-spot vibrators; Wearables stimulate through vibrations, whereas handhelds can give pressure and vibrations

But I’ve found that if I choose a very rumbly egg vibrator, it feels much closer to the nudging sensation of pressure! This is why my favorite hands-free toy for G-spot stimulation is the exceptionally rumbly VeDO Kiwi.

VeDO Kiwi remote controlled egg vibrator has powerful, rumbly vibrations

If you love G-spot vibes and want them completely hands-free… Then here are my top recommendations after trying and comparing all of the best egg vibrators.

Lovense Lush 3 – Tied for Strongest Egg Vibrator, Best App-Control

Best for: (Tied) Strongest hands-free G-spot stimulation, and best app experience. Best egg vibrator overall
See Price at: Lovense, Lovehoney, PeepShowToys
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The Lovense Lush 3 is the most popular remote control egg vibrator. And for good reason: 

It has powerful vibes and the best app experience.

Lovense Lush 3 Demo

This baby is a third-generation model. So it’s gone through multiple updates improving on the older Lush 2 and original Lush based on years of customer feedback.

Its strong vibrations are a big reason why I like the Lush 3. It’s tied with the VeDO Kiwi as the strongest egg vibrator I’ve found. 

And it has a nice mix between a buzzy and a rumbly feel (but those who like their vibes exceptionally rumbly will prefer how the VeDO Kiwi feels).

Two strongest remote control egg vibrators - Lovense Lush 3 and VeDO Kiwi

The flattened shape of the internal bulb also provides some nice pressure on my G-spot. Even without the assistance of my hands to leverage it.

Close-up view of Lush 3's flattened tip designed to press on the G-spot

Its shape and girth (1.5 inches max width) give you a stretch.

So you’ll enjoy the Lush if you like feeling full and enjoy some pressure on the internal walls or tend to prefer thicker toys. On the other hand, if you like slimmer toys, you may prefer the smaller size of the We-Vibe Jive (1.25 inches max width), though the Jive’s app and vibration power underperform in comparison to the Lush 3.

Lovense Lush vs We-Vibe Jive size with width dimensioned

The quality of the Lovense app is the other huge reason I recommend the Lush 3. Its app is the best of any brand I’ve tried. The connection is extremely reliable, and the features are useful and intuitive.

You can quickly and easily create your own looping vibration pattern, set a constant power, sync it to music, download patterns other users have shared, and more. And of course, you can connect with a long-distance partner and video chat while they control your Lush 3.

The Lovense app’s control screen is more intuitive, more complete, and provides better visuals to your controlling partner than other apps (and much better than a physical remote control).

Loop and Float on the Lovense Lush Screens

I demo each remote control vibrator’s apps on video here if you want to see how the Lovense app compares to others.

An app-controlled option like the Lush 3 is great if you plan to take this toy out and let your partner control it. Because the Lovense app is so visual, your partner can easily tell what you’re feeling and control the Lush well. It limits the need to communicate back and forth verbally.

Using the Lovense Remote app to control the Lush 3 provides your partner with great visuals of what you're feeling

It’s also easy to lock your phone screen, and the Lovense app keeps working. So you don’t need to keep your phone out while you play.

Lovense’s connection has been very reliable for us in nearby and long-distance control. It’s easily our favorite app-controlled brand.

As for noise level, the Lush 3 is on the slightly louder end compared to other egg vibrators. But it’s still quieter than many other wearables because your body helps dampen the sound. 

I was able to wear the Lush at all power levels to a coffee shop without my partner or me being able to hear it. As long as you’re in a place with some consistent background noise, the Lush will be quiet enough for your adventures!

I recommend the Lovense Lush 3 if you:

  • Want an egg vibrator with the strongest hands-free G-spot vibrations (tied with the VeDO Kiwi)
  • Want an app-controlled toy with the most reliable connectivity and most useful features – Lovense is the best app controlled brand in our experience
  • Want an internal toy for public play so that your body can help dampen the sounds more
  • Enjoy internal toys that provide a bit of a stretch
  • Want a long-distance partner to control your toy (Lovense has our favorite long-distance experience too)

Discount codes:
15% off order at Lovehoney with code “PleasureBetter15”

If you want to know more about my experience with the Lush 3, head over to my Lovense Lush 3 Review!

VeDO Kiwi – Tied for Strongest Egg Vibrator, Mid-Budget Remote Control

Best for: Strong, RUMBLY hands-free G-spot vibes; If you don’t need app control, this is the egg vibrator to get
See Price at: PeepShowToys, SheVibe, Wild Flower
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I enjoy the VeDO Kiwi’s G-spot stimulation even more than the Lush 3’s! 

VeDO Kiwi remote controlled egg vibrator and its remote

And – spoiler alert, it’s the cheapest egg vibrator you’ll find that’s still worth getting

It’s often cheaper than other remote control vibrators because VeDO is a lesser-known brand, but they make some of my favorite vibrators.

VeDO Kiwi demo

The VeDO Kiwi is tied with the Lush as the strongest remote control egg vibrator. But the thing I love about it? The vibes are super deep and rumbly. So it feels even more intense to me. If you like incredibly rumbly vibes, you’ll prefer how the Kiwi feels to the Lush.

VeDO Kiwi's vibration quality compared to the Lovense Lush 3's vibrations

I especially love using this toy at home to enjoy hands-free G-spot vibes while I use my favorite handheld vibrator on my clit.

It’s also fun to wear in public and control via the remote control. Of course, since it’s remote-controlled, your partner won’t be able to see what you’re feeling like they could with an app-controlled vibrator like the Lush 3

But it can still be fun to give up control.

Remote control for VeDO Kiwi

And remote controlled vibrators like this are cheaper than app-controlled options! Again – the Kiwi is the least expensive one I’ve tried that I still definitely recommend. 

The remote is a three-button setup. You use the middle button to rotate through vibration patterns. Then you can increase and decrease the power level of each pattern using the plus and minus buttons.

VeDO Niki and Kiwi remote control showing what each button does

This “up or down” power toggle is a must for me with remote controls. Adjusting the intensity slowly makes the difference between an enjoyable experience and overwhelming, sudden vibrations. 

The VeDO Kiwi lasts around 75 minutes (from my testing) continuously on high power. That’s not as long as some (including the Lush 3), but it’s usually enough for me. Works for quick trips out, but not a long evening.

And just as the VeDO Niki is an exceptionally quiet panty vibrator, the VeDO Kiwi is an extremely quiet egg vibrator. In fact, it’s even quieter than the Niki. So you can wear this in most places without being detected. Even some quieter locations that you wouldn’t be able to with other wearables.

VeDO Kiwi is quieter than VeDO Niki

If you don’t need app control, this is the egg vibrator I recommend. You can save some money and get what I find to be the most stimulating hands-free remote control G-spot vibrator.

I recommend the VeDO Kiwi if you:

  • Want the strongest hands-free G-spot vibes and prefer an extremely rumbly feel
  • Don’t need app control – if you don’t mind a physical remote control, then the Kiwi is the best buy. It provides my favorite stimulation but costs less than others since it doesn’t have an app.
  • Want an especially discreet toy – the VeDO Kiwi is one of the quietest wearable vibrators I’ve used without sacrificing power
  • Are ok with a remote-controlled toy instead of app-controlled

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I have my full review of the VeDO Kiwi here if you’re considering it!

Svakom Ella Neo – Best Budget App-Controlled Egg Vibrator

Best for: People who want an app-controlled egg, but Lovense is outside their price range
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The Svakom Ella Neo is the best option for people who want an app-controlled egg vibrator but don’t have the budget for the Lovense Lush 3. While not as cheap as the Satisfyer Sexy Secret, it’s still less expensive than the premium brands.

Svakom Ella Neo and Svakom App

There are two main things you’re trading off by comparison to the Lovense Lush 3 if you opt for the Svakom Ella:

  1. The Ella provides more basic app control (not the super in-depth control Lovense provides)
  2. The Svakom Ella is about 3/5ths as powerful as the Lush (or VeDO Kiwi).

You can control this remote control egg vibrator through two different apps – the Svakom app and the FeelConnect app. 

Svakom Ella vibrator with both apps that can control it next to it

They provide more basic control than better-developed apps like Lovense, Satisfyer, and others. But together, they still offer a decent range of functionality. You can’t design your own vibration patterns, but you can still choose from predesigned patterns, raise and lower vibration power, or use sound to control the vibrations. 

Lovense app and Svakom app open side by side showing difference in depth of control

And of course – the Svakom Ella opens up the opportunity for long-distance play on a bit tighter budget. 

You can video chat with a long-distance partner while sharing control of your Ella Neo in the FeelConnect app. Your partner will adjust the slider to increase and decrease your vibe power.

Screenshots of video chatting with a long-distance partner in the FeelConnect app

We’ve found the apps maintain a reliable connection – they just provide more basic functionality than the Lovense and Satisfyer apps.

Svakom Ella Neo Demo

This remote control vibrator is less powerful than the Lovense Lush 3 or the VeDO Kiwi (my two strongest eggs). Its top power is about ⅗ as strong as the Lush or Kiwi, and its vibrations lean to the buzzy side of the rumbly/buzzy spectrum. 

However, it’s quiet for sneaky public play and has one of the longest battery lives of all my remote control wearable vibrators! 

Egg vibrators highlighting the Svakom Ella Neo's long battery life

In my testing, it was one of just two remote control wearables to last over 3 hours running continuously on its highest power. (The other was the Lelo Lyla 2, which did not make the cut for this guide because it underperforms in several other areas.) So the Svakom Ella Neo can be fun for a long evening out!

If you’re on a budget and looking for a remote control wearable G-spot vibrator: 

  • If you care more about powerful, rumbly G-spot stimulation: Go with the VeDO Kiwi
  • If you care more about app control, long-distance play, and long battery life for an extended evening out: Go with the Svakom Ella Neo

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If you’re interested to learn more about whether the Ella is a good fit for you, check out my full Svakom Ella review! I go more in-depth on my testing process and explain what worked well for me and what didn’t.

We-Vibe Jive – A Rumbly App-Controlled Egg Vibrator

Best for: People who prefer slimmer sizes and medium-strength, rumbly vibrations
See Price at: Lovehoney, PeepShowToys, We-Vibe 
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The We-Vibe Jive is another famous app-controlled egg vibrator in the same price range as the Lovense Lush.

We-Vibe Jive app controlled egg vibrator and We-Vibe app

I was curious to try this one out because it’s slimmer than the Lush, and I prefer smaller toys for internal use. Plus, We-Vibe’s toys always tend to be super rumbly. And these deeper vibes are my favorite for G-spot stimulation!

The Jive came through with that deep, rumbly feel! And I found it more comfortable for those who prefer less girth.

The Jive’s vibrations are mid-powered though. Its top strength is about a 6 out of 10 compared to the Lush and Kiwi’s top power of 10. 

VeDO Kiwi strong rumbly vibrations vs We-Vibe Jive mid-powered rumbly vibrations

Because I like strong, rumbly toys, I prefer the VeDO Kiwi’s stimulation over the Jive’s myself. But those who prefer softer stimulation or find themselves easily over-stimulated will prefer the Jive’s more mild, rumbly vibrations.  

The softer power also helps the Jive remain especially quiet. Its maximum vibration power is the quietest of all my remote control vibrators. I measured its noise at 35db while wearing it (just barely beating the VeDO Kiwi at 38db). Compare this to the loudest remote control vibrator which rang in at 70db.

We-Vibe’s app provides greater functionality than the Svakom Ella’s, but isn’t as in-depth as Lovense or Satisfyer’s apps. 

We-Vibe Jive Demo

Selecting preset patterns and adjusting their vibration power is easy. But while possible in We-Vibe’s app, designing your own patterns is much more complicated than with Lovense or Satisfyer.

Screenshots of We-Vibe pattern selection and general control

So for very customized control, I prefer Lovense. We-Vibe’s app connectivity has also improved in recent years, but still lags behind Lovense and Satisfyer’s.

I would say the main reason people might choose the Jive over the Lovense Lush is if they prefer very rumbly vibes, want softer stimulation, and find slimmer toys more comfortable

Plus, the We-Vibe Jive is the quietest remote control vibrator.

But the Lovense Lush is a better choice if you value more in-depth app control with an exceptionally reliable connection and enjoy high-powered vibes.

The main reason to choose the Jive over the VeDO Kiwi is if you prefer softer rumbly vibes and want app-control. If you prefer stronger rumbly vibes and enjoy remote control just fine, the VeDO Kiwi is a better choice.

Discount codes:
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You can read more about my experience with the Jive at my full We-Vibe Jive Review!

More Remote Control Egg Vibrators

The remote control egg vibrators I included in this article are the ones I think most people will enjoy. But if you want to read more about these and the others I tested, you can head to my full egg vibrators guide here.

Best Wearable Dual-Stimulation Remote Control Vibrators [Clit and G-spot]

This group is all about remote control wearable vibrators that stimulate both your clit and G-spot at the same time – completely hands-free.

Best wearable dual-stimulation remote control vibrators - We-Vibe Chorus, Lovense Dolce, Lelo Ida Wave

These serve a different purpose than remote control egg vibrators or panty vibrators since many of them aren’t great for public play. 

You can wear some of them in public, but they don’t stay in place as securely as panty vibrators or egg vibrators. But others just can’t be worn out because they’re not comfortable to wear with clothes while walking or they’re too loud.

There’s two main groups of remote control dual-stimulation vibrators:

  1. Those you can wear during penetrative sex – These toys are designed to free up your hands during sex so you can enjoy your partner while still receiving the clitoral (and G-spot) stimulation you need to orgasm. So it makes sex more stimulating for those of us with a vagina! Some of these bring me to orgasm hands-free during sex with my partner – which is fantastic since I don’t orgasm from penetration alone.
Hands-free vibrators you can wear during partnered sex
  1. Those that you cannot wear during penetration – Remote control vibrators in this group tend to be a bit stronger or deliver more unique G-spot stimulation (like pressure from a rotating internal arm). You can’t wear them during penetrative sex, but you can still give control to a partner. And I enjoy them for some hands-free solo play. I can just sit back and let the toy do its thing.

So if you’re looking for that hands-free fun that will offer clit and G-spot stimulation, let’s continue! Here are the best options I’ve used:

We-Vibe Chorus – Best Remote Control Couples Vibrator During Sex

Best for: Remote or app-controlled hands-free stimulation during sex
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The We-Vibe Chorus is one of the remote control vibrators designed for you to wear during penetrative sex, and it’s my personal favorite. 

We-Vibe Chorus, squeeze remote control, and We-Vibe app open to Multi-Vibe screen

So its most common use is for couples where one partner (like me) needs clit-stimulation during penetration to orgasm. And it frees up your hands, so you don’t need to hold a vibrator to your clit.

I’ve tried several hands-free couples vibrators, and the Chorus is the best of the best. 

We-Vibe Chorus and other hands-free vibrators during sex highlighting the Chorus as the best

It’s the one I can orgasm from the easiest and most reliably during sex! In fact, the only other one that takes me all the way is the previous version of the Chorus (the We-Vibe Sync).

We-Vibe Sync as Cheaper With Slightly Lower Stimulation Than We-Vibe Chorus

Now, hands-free vibrators for use during sex aren’t as strong as large handheld toys like a remote control wand vibrator (see the Lovense Domi 2). So if you typically need a ton of power, you may still need a handheld toy during sex. But the Chorus’ vibes deliver the power and quality I need to orgasm.

I’ve found most of these remote control vibrators for use during sex fit too loosely and move around too much during sex. So they don’t actually stimulate my clit well. 

But the Chorus has two adjustable hinges, so you can change its shape to fit your own body. 

Side by side of We-Vibe Chorus' adjustable hinges at opposite ends demonstrating its adjustable range

As a result, I get a tight, secure fit with the We-Vibe Chorus – so the vibes get delivered where I need them to orgasm. 

I like to find some budget options to recommend as alternatives to premium products. But unfortunately, from my experience, none of the cheap remote control vibrators to wear during sex work well. For this type of toy, the ones that perform well are an investment.

You can control the Chorus with the We-Vibe app or its physical remote control. 

We-Vibe Chorus Demo

And the Chorus is discreet enough that you can use it for public play too, though that’s not its main focus. Egg vibrators and panty vibrators fit more securely while walking around and are stronger. So if playing outside the bedroom is your main goal, consider a remote control egg or panty vibrator instead.

We-Vibe Chorus next to several remote control egg vibrators and panty vibrators indicating that Chorus is more difficult to keep in place while walking

I recommend the We-Vibe Chorus if you:

  • Want a hands-free remote control vibrator to wear during sex – the Chorus is the best and one of the only ones that takes me all the way hands-free
  • Can orgasm from mid-powered vibrations – the Chorus does not get as strong as larger handheld vibrators you could use during sex. But it’s the best hands-free option, and is still has the power to bring me to orgasm
  • Would like the option to control the toy via an app or remote control

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If you’re interested in the Chorus and why it’s my favorite wearable to use during sex, you can read more about it in my We-Vibe Chorus Review.

Lovense Dolce – Strongest Dual-Stimulation Wearable Vibrator

Best for: Strongest hands-free dual-stimulation inside the bedroom
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For the Dolce, Lovense took their famous Lush 3 shape. But instead of having an antenna for the external arm, they added a powerful clitoral motor! 

Lovense Dolce Demo

So while the Lush only stimulates your G-spot, the Lovense Dolce provides powerful dual-stimulation (clitoral and G-spot).

Lovense Dolce and Lovense Remote app pointing out both motors are powerful

The Dolce easily takes the cake for the strongest hands-free dual stimulation I’ve found in a remote control vibrator. 

The only exception is that if you wear both the Lush 3 and Lovense Ferri simultaneously, you can get more powerful dual-stimulation than the Dolce (but that takes two toys). If you’re interested, you can read more on that in my Lush 3 vs Dolce comparison.

Lovense Dolce next to Lush 3 and Ferri - the only option for stronger hands-free dual-stimulation

Like the We-Vibe Chorus, you can control the clit and G-spot motors independently through the Lovense Remote app. But both the Dolce’s motors are much stronger than the Chorus’ motors. 

And unlike the We-Vibe Chorus, the Lovense Dolce has some girth on the internal arm. It provides a greater stretch but is too thick to wear during penetration. And I find it’s too bulky to comfortably walk around with the Dolce, so I don’t recommend public play with it. (Though a few people online would disagree with that!) 

We-Vibe Chorus vs Lovense Dolce indicating the Chorus is comfortable enough to wear around, but Dolce is too thick for use outside the bedroom

Here’s who it is for: people who want the strongest clit and G-spot vibrations for hands-free solo, partnered, or long-distance use inside the bedroom.

While wearing clothes and walking around with the Dolce is uncomfortable, I find using it while lying in bed works well. So it can be worthwhile if you like power and just plan to play in the bedroom anyway.

You control the Dolce through the Lovense app – my favorite. There are tons of great control options. And you can design your own custom patterns quickly and easily.

Lovense Dolce and Lovense app showing separate looping patterns for each motor

You can also video-chat with your long-distance partner and give them control of your toy from anywhere in the world! Again, the visuals are great, and the app setup is intuitive. 

But most importantly, the connection is excellent and the best of all the app-control vibrator brands we’ve tried.

Lastly, the Dolce is on the louder end of wearable remote control vibrators because of the vibration strength. When we tried it in our silent home, my partner could hear it from the other side of the bedroom door if it got higher than 30% power. 

But it was completely inaudible if I was using the toy under the covers, or if we put some light music on.

So noise is another reason I don’t recommend taking this remote control vibrator out.

Consider the Dolce if you want hands-free clit and G-spot vibes inside the bedroom, and vibration power is your top priority.

Discount codes:
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You can read more details about my experience in my Lovense Dolce Review!

Lelo Ida Wave – Good Clit Vibes and Hands-Free G-spot Pressure

Best for: Hands-free G-spot PRESSURE paired with clitoral vibrations (in-bedroom use only) 
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So far, we’ve talked about wearable remote control vibrators that stimulate through vibrations

But since you can’t grip a handle to maneuver a wearable vibrator, most of them don’t have a way to provide much G-spot pressure.

Several wearable vibrators that stimulate through vibrations

Well, the Lelo Ida Wave is a rare remote control wearable vibrator that focuses on delivering G-spot pressure through a rotating internal arm. Meanwhile, its external arm vibrates to give you clit stimulation!

Since I (like many people) enjoy G-spot pressure more than G-spot vibes, I was excited to try the Ida Wave. 

And while some of Lelo’s remote control vibrators have flopped for me over the years (see my Lelo Lyla 2 and Lelo Tiani 3 reviews), the Lelo Ida Wave is a remote vibrator that delivers! 

I recommend it to my friends looking for hands-free G-spot pressure.

If you like fingering or shallow penetration, you’ll likely enjoy how the Ida Wave feels. I love a consistent “nudging” sensation against my G-spot. But it can take work (and body contortion) to get consistent back-and-forth pressure using a handheld toy. 

Lelo Ida Wave's rotating G-spot arm feels similar to fingering

The circulating internal arm on the Ida Wave continually sweeps along your G-spot with no work on your part! I find it great to pop in and get me in the mood. It feels like an internal massage because you just sit back and let the toy do the work for you!

The pressure is not as intense as if you’re using a handheld vibrator that you can press firmly against your G-spot. But it’s awesome to have all the pressure hands-free and effortlessly

And I don’t need to hold a separate toy to my clit either since the Ida Wave’s external arm gives me all the clit vibes I need.

The Lelo Ida Wave’s clitoral arm is nice and broad. So it rests comfortably along my body and doesn’t put unwanted pressure on any particular spot. The broad clitoral arm also helps anchor the Ida Wave in place, so that the internal arm’s rotations don’t wriggle the Ida Wave out of position.

Lelo Ida Wave showing how broad the clit arm is

However, this is another one that’s for in-bedroom play only. It doesn’t stay in when walking, so public play is a no-go.

You’ll use Lelo’s app to control the Ida Wave. While Lelo’s been making remote control vibrators for years, they’re new to the app control scene.

Lelo Ida Wave Demo

As a result, the app is pretty basic. Currently, you can’t create your own vibration patterns, and you cannot play with a long-distance partner in Lelo’s app. I don’t know if Lelo plans to add these functions as they develop their app more or not.

Screenshots of Lelo app showing SenseMotion control of the Lelo Ida Wave

Lelo’s app essentially acts like a digital version of their SenseMotion remote controls. You can select from 10 preset patterns and increase or decrease their vibration power. Or you can control the Ida Wave’s vibrations by shaking or rotating your phone (the same as Lelo’s SenseMotion remote controls).

So it gives good basic functionality but not the extra control styles or long-distance capabilities you tend to expect with app-controlled vibrators. 

Lelo Ida Wave and Lelo App

I recommend the Lelo Ida Wave if you:

  • Prefer G-spot pressure over G-spot vibrations 
  • Want effortless dual-stimulation without needing to hold a vibrator to your clit; This is my favorite toy to get the G-spot pressure I enjoy and the clit vibes I need to orgasm – without requiring me to hold or maneuver any toy

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Best Handheld Remote Control Vibrators

If you just want to give control to a partner at home (or even control the toy yourself), then you don’t necessarily need a wearable vibrator. 

Best Handheld Remote Control Vibrators - Lovense Hyphy, Ambi, Domi, Nora 2, We-Vibe Nova 2, Melt, and Satisfyer Curvy toys

A handheld remote control vibrator will likely meet your needs, and they have a few advantages over hands-free toys. 

First, you can often get better stimulation with a handheld vibrator because you can maneuver it to position the vibes exactly where you want them! You don’t need to rely on a good, secure fit to hit the right spot as you do with a hands-free remote control vibrator. 

You can also move a handheld vibrator around throughout your play. 

So if you prefer stimulating away from your clit while getting worked up, but want more direct stimulation once you’re fully turned on – that’s easy to do with a handheld remote control vibrator. 

On the other hand, a wearable vibrator stays in one spot from start to finish.

Lovense Hyphy in hand demonstrating the ability to maneuver the vibrator unlike a wearable vibrator

I also love that handhelds let me apply more pressure. Since you can grip the toy, you can press those vibes where you want them.

Handheld toys are just more versatile. A few of my favorites, the Hyphy and Nova 2, can be used for G-spot or clitoral stimulation. And you can get direct or indirect clit stimulation.

Lovense Hyphy and Nova 2 can have their broader arm used externally or internally

There are also some excellent remote control clit suction toys if you prefer very focused clit stimulation!

Of course, you cannot use these handheld remote control vibrators for public play. For that, you need a wearable vibrator.

But if you just want something your partner can control in the bedroom… Handhelds may be a great option for you!  

I’ll cover several of my favorites. All of them have apps to control them. And all of them can be controlled by a nearby or long-distance partner!

Let’s chat about how they differ and which ones might work best for you.

Lovense Hyphy – Strong Clit or G-Spot Stimulation (My Personal Favorite)

Best for: Strong, versatile stimulation you can use many different ways (also it’s the toy I have multiple orgasms with most easily)
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I bought the Lovense Hyphy as soon as it came out and have been an enthusiast ever since! 

It’s my current favorite vibrator

The Hyphy made it easy for me to experience multiple orgasms consistently.

Lovense Hyphy in its travel case with attachable silicone tips

It took me a few years to become multiply-orgasmic. And once I figured out what worked for me, it still took effort and was challenging to replicate at times. But the Lovense Hyphy made it easy for me to have several orgasms every time I play. 

Since each person’s different, I don’t believe it will work for everyone. But here’s why it works for me:

The Lovense Hyphy has two different vibrating ends. It has a small tip on one side for very focused clit stimulation and a broader motor on the other for stronger clit stimulation or G-spot stimulation.

Side by side view of each end of the Lovense Hyphy - a precision tip and a broader end

I orgasm using the more powerful, broad end on my clit. But after my first (second, third, or fourth) orgasm, my clit needs a bit of a cool down. It’s too sensitive for more strong vibes or direct stimulation. 

But to stay engaged and aroused, my clit still needs some indirect stimulation. This is where the Hyphy’s precision tip comes in. 

Immediately after an orgasm, I can keep the small tip vibrating on my vulva away from oversensitive areas. My clit stays engaged from the slight indirect vibrations but isn’t getting too much stimulation.

Once the oversensitivity has passed, I can switch back to the powerful broad end and have another orgasm FAST – typically under 30 seconds. 

And I can keep repeating this process until my body doesn’t want any more.

Precision end and Broad end of the Hyphy

Each person is different and has their own needs, so I don’t think the Hyphy will automatically give everyone multiple orgasms. But using it as I described above changed the game for me – and I think some others will have similar experiences.

The Hyphy’s top vibration power is a 10 (the same as the Lush 3 and several others on this list). It’s as strong as you can get before getting into ultra-powerful wand vibrators

A unique aspect of the Hyphy is that its vibrations are powerful but high-frequency (quite buzzy as opposed to rumbly). Buzzy vibes often get a bad rap in the sex toy world because many cheap, weak vibrators have buzzy motors.

Buzzy vs Rumbly Vibrators Infographic

And if you’re someone who knows you only enjoy rumbly toys, the Lovense Hyphy won’t be for you. But for anyone else, you may find that buzzy vibes hit the spot when they’re from a high-quality, strong vibrator!

I was surprised by how much I enjoy the Hyphy’s feel. Again – it’s my favorite vibrator right now.

Lovense Hyphy Demo

It’s powerful, buzzy vibrations feel distinctly different from a strong, rumbly vibrator. And it turns out my clit orgasms more easily and quickly from the Hyphy’s vibration quality.  You can read more about my thoughts on rumbly vs buzzy vibrators here.

As with the other Lovense vibrators on this list, you can control the Hyphy in the Lovense Remote app or with the buttons on the toy itself. As I’ve mentioned, Lovense has my favorite app and the best connectivity in close-range and long-distance modes! 

Lovense Hyphy with Lovense Remote app used to control it

The Hyphy also has three different attachable silicone tips for the precision end. Each slightly alters how the stimulation feels, so you can play around and find what you enjoy most.

Three interchangeable silicone tips for the Lovense Hyphy

I recommend the Lovense Hyphy if you:

  • Want a versatile toy you can explore a lot of stimulation with – focused or broad stimulation, clit or G-spot stimulation, several different silicone tips each offering a slightly different feel
  • Want to explore whether using the precision tip away from oversentive areas after an orgasm might help you have multiple orgasms
  • Want your partner to be able to control your toy for you through an app

Discount codes:
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Read my full Lovense Hyphy review here

Lovense Domi – Most Powerful Remote Control Vibrator

Best for: Most powerful vibrations of any remote control vibrator, with the exceptional reliability of the Lovense app
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The Lovense Domi is awesome for those looking for EXTREME POWER and broad clit stimulation. It’s easily the strongest app-control vibrator!

Lovense Domi Demo

Wand vibrators are in a league of their own when it comes to vibration strength. It’s honestly difficult to compare the Domi’s power to the other vibrators I’ve included in this guide because the overwhelming force feels completely different.

But I estimate that the Lovense Domi is 3 times more powerful than the second strongest vibrator on this list (any of them that I rated a 10 for vibration power).  

Lovense Domi vibration power compared to other strong vibrators

The Domi’s powerful broad vibes don’t just vibrate your clit. They vibrate everything – the entire vulva. Sometimes I’ll even use it over my clothes or through a towel. That’s how strong it is. 

And the vibes are extremely deep and rumbly. It’s one of the most rumbly wand vibrators I’ve tested. I enjoy using this remote control vibrator for very broad stimulation.

If you like enormous strength, the Domi 2 is the app-controlled wand to get. The Lovense Domi 2 and the We-Vibe Wand are the two major app-controlled wand vibrators available. And the Domi is the better wand.

Now, I want to note that not everyone loves extreme power or wants their entire vulva vibrated. “Stronger” doesn’t automatically equal “better” for everybody. 

Vibration power is a personal preference. And so is broad stimulation (like wands provide) or precision stimulation (like a bullet vibrator or the Lovense Hyphy’s tip provides)

Lovense Domi with Ambi and Hyphy next to it showing the broader surface of the Domi

But if you’ve enjoyed other wands or have found other vibrators feel too weak for your taste – the Domi wand is the remote control vibrator for you.

I was a little suspicious that it would pack as much punch as my other wands since the Domi is not a full-sized wand; It’s a bit smaller. But I quickly learned it could do everything my other wands did. 

And I prefer the Domi’s smaller size because it’s easier to hold and maneuver. Since it’s about the same size as my other handheld toys, I can hold it comfortably in my usual position.

Lovense Domi Mid-Sized wand next to several full-sized wands for comparison
Even though the Lovense Domi 2 is smaller than most wands, it’s one of the most powerful wand vibrators. It’s stronger than the Lelo Smart Wand 2 and Dame Com (in the photo above).

This is a great option for long-distance couples since you can use the Lovense App to control it. It has great connectivity and makes it easy for your partner to do exactly what they want. If you’re into forced orgasm play, this is probably the option for you.

Control the Domi with button on the toy or in the Lovense app

Even if you’re not long-distance, your partner can control your Domi while next to you in bed. It’s awesome if you like to relinquish control. 

I recommend the Lovense Domi if you:

  • Want the strongest remote control vibrator
  • Enjoy broader stimulation that involves the entire area – not just your clit
  • Enjoy orgasm control or forced orgasms
  • Want the best app and connectivity

Discount codes:
15% off order at Lovehoney with code “PleasureBetter15”

Read my full Lovense Domi 2 review here

We-Vibe Nova 2 – Best Dual-Stimulation With Strong Pressure

Best for: Super rumbly dual-stimulation with a flexible design that works for a broader range of people than most rabbit vibrators
See Price at: Lovehoney, We-Vibe, PeepShowToys, SheVibe
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Ok, I’m excited to talk about this one! I’ve got a drawer in my closet I store most of my vibrators after testing them. But the We-Vibe Nova 2 is one that I always keep in my nightstand next to my bed.

We-Vibe Nova 2 Remote Controlled Rabbit Vibrator and We-Vibe App

Before trying the We-Vibe Nova 2, I didn’t enjoy rabbit vibrators – but this remote control rabbit changed my perspective. 

Besides its wonderful vibrations, the Nova has two other design features that set it apart from most other rabbit vibrators: a squishy G-spot arm and a flexible, curled clitoral arm.

Flexing the We-Vibe Nova 2's clit arm

The We-Vibe Nova 2’s silicone is extra smooth, and the G-spot arm has a lovely squishiness. But the overall structure of the G-spot arm is still reasonably firm and doesn’t bend too much. 

The more rigid frame allows me to apply excellent pressure against my G-spot without the toy bending away. But the squishiness of the silicone makes the G-spot pressure exceptionally comfortable.

We-Vibe Nova 2 Demo

It also doesn’t press annoyingly against my vaginal opening when I leverage it as many other internal toys do.

The Nova’s clit arm has a broad, accentuated curled shape which keeps a larger surface area in contact with your clit than other rabbit vibrators. So you’re not trying to balance a teeny tiny clit arm delicately in the right spot as you are with others.

We-Vibe Nova 2 showing the clitoral arm shape

And while the Nova’s G-spot arm is more rigid so you can apply good pressure, the clitoral arm is flexible so that it actually stays in contact with your clit as you rock the Nova 2 against your G-spot.  

I wrote other rabbit vibrators off because I could never keep the clit and G-spot arms in an enjoyable position at the same time. But due to the flexible, curled clit arm – the Nova delivers great G-spot and clit stimulation simultaneously.

If other rabbit vibrators haven’t worked for you, but you’re still searching for one that will: I recommend trying the We-Vibe Nova 2! It’s designed so well to work for a broad range of people.

Then there are the vibrations. 

Per usual for We-Vibe, the Nova’s vibrations are a heavenly, deep, rumbly feel. And it has gradual power increments, which is great for building that slow wave.

Vibration power of the We-Vibe Nova 2 clitoral motor and G-spot motor

I rate the Nova’s clitoral motor at an 8 out of 10 and the G-spot arm at a 10 for vibration power. 

While the clit arm’s not quite as strong as some other vibrators on this list, it’s more than enough for me, and I think it will be for most people too. For a few reasons:

  1. The Nova 2’s design succeeds at delivering both clit and G-spot vibes simultaneously so you’re getting a lot of stimulation.
  2. These vibrations are extremely rumbly – so they feel pretty intense.
  3. Since it’s a hand-held toy, you can apply much more pressure than you can with a wearable. So you can press those vibes into your body in a really satisfying way. The curved clit-end of the toy is also set up uniquely to apply very firm, yet comfortable pressure on your clit.
  4. Besides the G-spot vibrations, you can also thrust or rock this toy against that front wall. For me, the results were… pretty instantaneous.

You’ll control the Nova 2 with the We-Vibe app or the buttons on the toy. While not my favorite app, I’ve still had good experiences using it to control the Nova. You don’t get as precise control as the Lovense app provides, but there are a lot of preset patterns you can select and adjust.

View of We-Vibe Nova 2 on-toy buttons and the We-Vibe app

And you can play long-distance too. 

I was surprised by how quickly the Nova brings me to orgasm. And since I bought it, it has remained very close to my bedside.

Oh, it’s crazy quiet too. 

My partner and I had a particularly fun afternoon where we needed to keep the volume down since there were people nearby. And I could use this toy’s full power range without worrying about being heard.

We-Vibe Nova 2 next to several other handheld vibrators highlighting it as the quietest

I recommend the We-Vibe Nova 2 if you:

  • Find other internal toys uncomfortable, but have still been looking to find one for that internal pressure
  • Enjoy simultaneous clit and G-spot stimulation
  • Prefer deep, rumbly vibrations
  • Want something you can hold and leverage for great internal and clitoral pressure
  • Are looking for something your partner can control – from in the room with you or from anywhere in the world 

Discount codes:
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Lovense Nora – Best Rabbit Vibrator for Effortless G-spot Pressure

Best for: Dual-stimulation for people who prefer G-spot pressure over vibrations
See Price at: Lovense, Lovehoney
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Like the We-Vibe Nova, the Lovense Nora is the other remote control rabbit vibrator that surprised me with how much I enjoy it. 

Lovense Nora app-controlled rabbit vibrator and Lovense app

The Lovense Nora is great when I want strong automatic G-spot pressure paired with lovely clit vibes.

Most rabbits vibrate against your G-spot. And to get G-spot pressure you need to manually press these rabbits against your front vaginal wall. But the Lovense Nora’s internal arm doesn’t vibrate – instead it rotates to continually nudge against your G-spot and deliver lovely pressure.

Gif of the Lovense Nora Rotating Head

Without you needing to do anything! And wow, does it make a difference.

I find that rather than thrusting, I prefer a slight “nudging” along the front wall of my vagina. If my partner is fingering me, it’s a sort of “come-hither” motion, barely inside. 

And the Nora replicates that feeling so well. Plus, you can control how fast the Nora rotates using the Lovense app.

And unlike the hands-free Lelo Ida Wave, you can manually thrust the Nora against your G-spot if you want even more pressure. So I find the Nora more stimulating than the Ida Wave. 

Lelo Ida Wave and Lovense Nora - two rotating remote control vibrators

While the Nora’s inner arm rotates, applying pressure on your G-spot, the external arm vibrates on your clit. 

Though the Lovense Nora’s clit arm is flexible like the We-Vibe Nova’s, I find it doesn’t keep quite as much surface area in contact with my clit. And the Nora’s clit motor is more gentle (6.5 out of 10 vibration power) than the Nova’s (8 out of 10 vibration power). 

How each of the Lovense Nora's arms stimulate you

So the clit stimulation from the Nora is softer than from the We-Vibe Nova 2

If you prefer manually thrusting your toys for additional pressure anyway, you’ll probably prefer the Nova 2. The vibrations are stronger, and the internal arm vibrates (so you’ll get G-spot pressure and vibes).

But the Lovense Nora gives me great G-spot pressure completely effortlessly

Lovense Nora Demo

The combination of automatic G-spot pressure and clit vibes provides a great blend of stimulation that takes me there in a uniquely satisfying way.

Lovense Nora vs We-Vibe Nova 2 - automatic or manual G-spot pressure

The Lovense app gives you separate control of the G-spot arm and the clit arm. You or your partner can control how fast the G-spot arm rotates and how strong the clit arm vibrates.

You’ll get great control features and reliable connectivity.

Closeup of Lovense Nora's buttons and Lovense app control

I use the Lovense Nora when I want strong G-spot pressure and clit vibes simultaneously – and I want the rabbit to do most of the work for me.

I recommend the Lovense Nora if you:

  • Want a unique blend of G-spot pressure and clitoral vibrations
  • Want a toy that you can manually thrust for additional G-spot pressure or let the rabbit do the work for you with its rotating G-spot head
  • Want the quality and reliability of the Lovense Remote app

Discount codes:
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Lovense Ambi Bullet Vibrator – Budget-Friendly Toy From My Favorite App Controlled Brand

Best for: People who want the high quality and reliability of the Lovense app on a tighter budget
See Price at: Lovense
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The Lovense Ambi provides a way for you to enjoy the high-quality and reliable app control of Lovense while paying less

It’s the cheapest Lovense toy but has the same quality app experience as other Lovense toys.  

Lovense Ambi and Lovense Remote app

The Lovense Ambi is a small but powerful bullet vibrator that surprised me with its performance. I love this little toy because, unlike most bullet vibrators, it has a nice angle instead of sticking straight out.

I find this helpful for a few reasons:

First, I enjoy pressing my vibrators firmly against my body. It helps me feel the vibrations more deeply. 

But I can’t get much leverage from small, straight bullet vibrators. The Lovense Ambi’s angled shape naturally rests its blunt head between my legs without me needing to angle my wrist out. Since my hands and the toy are in a more natural position, I can get more leverage comfortably to press the vibes deeper than with traditionally shaped bullet vibrators.

Lovense Ambi angled head makes it easier to leverage

I also prefer the Ambi’s shape during penetration with my partner. The smaller size and angle make it easy to fit between our bodies. 

The Ambi gets about as strong as my Hyphy, even though it’s only about a third the size. And the vibrations are a mix between buzzy and rumbly – which delivers some surface-level and some deeper vibrations together.

While I use my Lovense Hyphy more often, the Ambi is convenient to take on the go due to its smaller size. 

If you’re on a tighter budget but want the best app experience that Lovense toys offer, the Ambi is an excellent choice.

Lovense Ambi Demo

I recommend the Lovense Ambi if you:

  • Have a budget under $75, but still want the best app control experience that Lovense offers
  • Prefer smaller vibrators or more focused stimulation, but like to leverage your toys to press the vibes firmly into you
  • Hope to use this with your partner during travel – The small size and long-distance control capabilities make it convenient when traveling

Remote Control Clit Suction Toys (Air Pulse Toys)

Best Overall: We-Vibe Melt – If you have the budget and know you enjoy air pulse toys, grab this one
Best Budget Options: Satisfyer Curvy 1+, 2+, or 3+ 
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If you’re looking for a remote control air pulse toy rather than a vibrator, some app-controlled clit suction toys are available!

App controlled clit suction toys. Left to right: We-Vibe Melt, Satisfyer Curvy 1+, 2+, and 3+

Remote control clit suction toys have a lip that seals around your clit, and stimulates it with pulses of air or suction.

If you’ve never tried an air pulse toy, they feel very different from vibrators. The stimulation is ultra-focused on a small area, so it can feel super intense

Some people find the hyper-focused stimulation feels overstimulating or uncomfortable. Others absolutely love the intense feeling and consider clit suction toys to be the best type of sex toy. 

Lovense Hyphy which stimulates with vibrations next to We-Vibe Melt which stimulates through air pulses

I’ll cover four app-controlled clit suction toys – one high-end option (We-Vibe Melt), and three budget-friendly options (Satisfyer Curvy 1+, 2+, and 3+). If you’ve never tried one, I recommend starting with a budget choice to learn if you enjoy clit suction toys. 

The three Satisfyer Curvy toys I discuss below are great budget options if you’re at the starting line!

Or if you’d rather start with the best right away, buy through Lovehoney since they let you return a toy for a refund if you don’t enjoy it.

Here are the four best remote control clit suction toys if you’re ready for some intensity. 

First, the We-Vibe Melt. 

This is a really popular one, and tends to be a favorite amongst air pulse lovers. 

We-Vibe Melt and We-Vibe app

The Melt is the most intense app-controlled air pulse toy, and the pulsations are of higher quality, and are deeper-feeling than the more budget-friendly Satisfyer Curvy models. It uses the same Pleasure Air tech that Womanizer’s toys use (the leading clit suction toy brand). 

We-Vibe Melt Demo

It has a smaller opening, which means very direct, intense stimulation since there’s less surface area to spread across. Even the lowest power level feels very impactful. So here’s another reminder that the Melt is for those who crave intensity! 

Remote control clit suction toys side by side to show the size of their openings. Left to right - Satisfyer Curvy 2+, We-Vibe Melt, Satisfyer Curvy 1+, Satisfyer Curvy 3+

The suctions are very deep and thuddy – especially on the lower levels. As you get to the highest levels, they become slightly buzzier. But still give really strong pulses.

The angle of the opening is very conducive for getting a good seal too. So you won’t have to spend time finding the right placement. And while clit suction toys are harder to use during partnered sex than a vibrator, many people have had the best success with the We-Vibe Melt.  

Your partner can control the Melt’s intensity using the We-Vibe app. They’ll be able to raise and lower the power, but there aren’t patterns available like there are for We-Vibe’s vibrators.

The Satisfyer Curvy 1+, 2+, and 3+ are each about a third of the price of the We-Vibe Melt. So I’d recommend starting with one of these if you’re not sure you love air pulse toys.

The three Satisfyer Curvy models with the Satisfyer app

The Curvy’s are pretty similar to each other, but the opening size of each is different so they provide more focused or more diffuse options:

  • Satisfyer Curvy 1+ has the widest opening for the most diffuse (less intense) stimulation
  • Satisfyer Curvy 2+ is in the middle 
  • Satisfyer Curvy 3+ has the most narrow opening for the most focused, intense stimulation
Satisfyer Curvy Demo

My favorite of these is the Satisfyer Curvy 1+. Its mouth is wider than the Melt and other Satisfyer Curvys, so it diffuses the pulses more. I prefer this less direct stimulation and find it easier to get the right fit with the broader lip. 

I also love the Curvy 1’s slightly ribbed edges, because it makes it easier to vary the suction level. If I press harder against my body, the suction is tight, and the pulses feel more intense. But if I hold it more loosely, I can still feel the pulses without it being too stimulating.

Satisfyer Curvy opening size compared - larger will feel more diffuse. Smaller will feel more intense

The power of the Curvy 1+ is not as strong as the Melt, but I still found it to be plenty. And for a third of the price, it’s a great option to start with!

All the Satisfyer Curvys have vibrations in addition to the air pulses. You can control the air pulses and vibrations separately in the Satisfyer app.

Satisfyer Curvy with both vibrations and air pulses controlled in the Satisfyer app

And the app itself is better than We-Vibe’s even though Satisfyer’s toys are more affordable! 

So if you care more about a better app experience than higher-quality pulses, you may prefer one of the Satisfyers.

Overall, all Satisfyer’s remote control clit suction toys have a less-thuddy feel than the Melt. They’re more light and airy. And on the higher levels, it feels a little closer to vibrations. 

If you prefer more focused intensity, you may like the smaller openings of the Satisfyer Curvy 2+ and 3+

Satisfyer Curvy 2+ and 3+ are more intense than 1+

The Curvy 2+ was also a tiny bit deeper-feeling than the Curvy 1+. But I found the smaller opening a little more challenging to fit well.

Choose the We-Vibe Melt if:

  • You care more about high quality, deep-feeling pulses than having more in-depth, versatile app control
  • You like intensity – the Melt feels the most intense of the app-controlled clit suction toys
  • You already know you like air pulse toys and are willing to spend for the best stimulation

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Choose a Satisfyer Curvy model if:

  • You care more about a versatile, in-depth app experience than having deeper air pulses
  • You’re on a budget or don’t know whether you enjoy remote control clit suction toys
  • You want some more diffuse, less intense-feeling options

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As far as the Satisfyer Curvy’s go, choose based on whether you want more diffuse or focused stimulation. The lower the number, the more diffuse the stimulation. The higher the number, the more focused and intense. 

How to Choose the Best Remote Control Vibrator For You

Wearable vs Handheld Remote Control Vibrators

The first part of your decision is whether to get a wearable remote control vibrator or a handheld vibrator. 

Remote control vibrators grouped into handheld and wearable vibrators

If you want to control your toy or share control as you go about your day, then you need a hands-free wearable toy. Remote control wearables like vibrating panties (clit stimulation) or egg vibrators (G-spot stimulation) are small and discreet enough to wear for public play without anyone noticing.

The Lovense Ferri and VeDO Niki are my favorites for clit stimulation. And the Lovense Lush and VeDO Kiwi are my favorites for G-spot stimulation.

Favorite wearable remote control vibrators for public play - VeDO Niki, Lovense Ferri, Lovense Lush 3, and VeDO Kiwi

If you just want to share control of your toy while playing at home in the bedroom, you likely don’t need a wearable vibrator. And you can often get better or more versatile stimulation from a handheld remote control vibrator.

With a handheld vibrator, you can grip it and maneuver it to press the vibes precisely where you want them. And you can move the vibrator around as needed. With wearables, you’ll position them in place, and they’re in that spot to stay. 

Several handheld remote control vibrators that you can move around

With handhelds, you can also control the pressure you apply. But wearables are hands-free, so you can’t easily adjust the pressure.

I love to press clit vibes against my body, so if I’m just using a toy in the bedroom, I’m using a handheld vibe (except when I wear the We-Vibe Chorus for hands-free stimulation during sex). And when it comes to handheld G-spot toys, you can thrust or rock the toy to give more internal pressure. Instead of relying only on the vibrations to do the trick.

Handheld toys are often stronger than wearable toys too. So if you’re a power queen, you might opt for a strong handheld vibe like the Lovense Domi. Or for super-focused intensity, you may enjoy a remote control air pulse toy.

Most intense remote control vibrators - We-Vibe Melt and Lovense Domi

In short:

  • For play outside the bedroom – go with a wearable remote control vibrator
  • If you’re just giving up control inside the bedroom – for better stimulation, go with a handheld vibrator

Vibration Comparison: Power, Range, and Feeling

Vibration Power and Range

Strongest Vibrations: Lovense Domi
See Price at: Lovense, Lovehoney, SheVibe
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Most of the remote control vibrators I included in this guide stimulate through, you guessed it – vibrations. So let’s chat about their power – full power chart here!

Each remote control vibrator labeled with its max vibration power

Vibration power is especially important for hands-free wearables. 

These toys don’t have a handle that allows you to maneuver them to press the vibes in more. So all the stimulation comes from the raw vibration strength. You’ll likely want to choose one of the stronger toys if you’re looking for a wearable vibrator.

With handheld remote control vibrators, I find overwhelming power isn’t necessarily as essential (unless you just love power) because the handle lets you maneuver the toy and press the vibes where and how you like them. So they can be more stimulating without extreme power.

And several remote control vibrators also stimulate other ways besides through vibrations. Power also isn’t quite as crucial for these toys since there’s more going on.

Lelo Ida Wave and Lovense Nora - Two examples of remote control vibrators that stimulate with G-spot pressure instead of vibrations

For instance, the Lelo Ida Wave and Lovense Nora have slightly less power than others. 

But they’re still two of my favorites because they have rotating internal arms that give G-spot pressure instead of blasting the area with vibes. 

Now, I directly compared all of my remote control vibrators’ power to each other. I rated each vibrator’s power on a 0 to 10 scale. This is based on my experience and how I think each toy’s power feels. 

A chart comparing remote control vibrators vibration power of each motor

It’s not an exact science. 

For instance, it’s difficult to produce a number that perfectly compares a rumbly vibrator’s power to a buzzy one – they feel different even at the same power. But I did my best to make the comparisons to scale! 

So when I rate the We-Vibe Jive at a 6 for vibration power, and the VeDO Kiwi at a 10, I’m saying the Jive feels about 60% as strong as the Kiwi to me. Several of these remote control vibrators have a top power level of 10. These feel equally strong to me, or at least any differences in power feel indistinguishable.

I also put the Lovense Domi outside the 0-10 scale because, as a wand vibrator, its power is soooo much stronger than any of the other toys. I rated it a 30 – about 3x as powerful as the next strongest remote control vibrators.

Lovense Domi highlighted as the most powerful remote control vibrator

I made sure to rate each toy’s low power levels too. A wide range makes for a nice slow build. I love those low levels when I’m first starting. Then I work up to full strength when I’m more turned on.

Plus, some people prefer softer stimulation the entire time.

When a remote control vibrator had two motors, I rated each individually.

Dual stimulation vibrators have different power levels for each motor

If you’re looking for top vibration power, you’ll want to go with the Lovense Domi. Wand vibrators are in a league of their own in terms of powerful vibrations. I found it about three times stronger than my other top performers! 

And for a wand, it starts out fairly low (you have to control it through the Lovense app to access these lower levels). So you have a wide range to play with.

Lovense Domi vibration power range with low and high level labeled

For excellent strength but not extreme power, I enjoy the Lovense Hyphy and We-Vibe Nova 2 in the bedroom. You can use the Hyphy for clit or G-spot stimulation. And the Nova 2 offers very strong dual-stimulation. Its G-spot vibrator is a 10, and the clit vibrator is an 8 – so you get great power on both motors.

Lovense Hyphy and We-Vibe Nova 2 - Strong remote control vibrators that are more focused than a wand

If you’re looking for fun outside the bedroom, I’d recommend one of the stronger remote control vibrators since you can’t maneuver them with your hands. The Lush 3 of VeDO Kiwi will give you the strongest G-spot stimulation. And the Lovense Ferri and VeDO Niki provide the strongest wearable clit stimulation.

Strongest remote control vibrators that are more focused than a wand

Vibration Quality: Rumbly vs Buzzy

If you’re unsure whether you prefer rumbly (low-frequency) or buzzy (high-frequency) vibrations, here’s a quick infographic on how these two differ.

Buzzy vs Rumbly Vibrators Infographic

Vibration feeling is largely a personal preference. For clit stimulation, I can enjoy a broad range between rumbly and buzzy – though I often prefer to have at least some mix of buzz included. But I want all the rumbles with my G-spot toys. 

It will take some exploring to figure out your preferences.

If you know what you enjoy, here are the trends:

Remote control vibrators from We-Vibe (Jive, Chorus and Nova 2) and VeDO (Niki and Kiwi) tend to have the most rumbly vibrations. And even though the Lovense Domi isn’t from either of these brands, I found it very rumbly too.

The most rumbly remote control vibrators. Left to right - We-Vibe Jive, Chorus, Nova 2, VeDO Niki, Kiwi, Lovense Domi

Lovense’s other toys have a mix of rumbliness and buzziness – not far on either end of the spectrum. The Lovense Hyphy is one other exception with very buzzy (but high-quality) vibes. I like their toys for clit stimulation, and the Lovense Hyphy is my favorite vibe right now.

Remote control vibrators with a mix of rumbly and buzzy vibrations. Left to right - Lovense Dolce, Ambi, Lush 3, Ferri, Nora

Satisfyer and Svakom’s toys are very buzzy (and not as high-quality feeling as the Hyphy). But Satisfyer especially is more budget-friendly.

Remote control vibrators with high-frequency (buzzy) vibrations. Left to right - Lovense Hyphy, Satisfyer Sexy Secret, Svakom Ella Neo

Here’s a quick reference for where each toy falls on the rumbly to buzzy spectrum:

Air Pulse Intensity and Feel

Most intense remote control air pulse toy: We-Vibe Melt
See price at: Lovehoney, PeepShowToys, We-Vibe
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If you’re considering a remote control air pulse toy, they primarily differ in the intensity and feel of the pulsing.

I rated each clit suction toy’s intensity like I rated the vibrators’ power.

Remote Control Clit Suction Toys Chart - Air Pulse Intensity Graphic

But the feel of those pulses is another really important aspect. Like vibrators feel more rumbly or buzzy, clit suction toys’ pulses feel somewhere between deep and thuddy, or light and airy. 

While this is another preference, people who really enjoy intense air pulse toys usually prefer a deeper, thuddier feeling like the We-Vibe Melt provides. These pulses feel more impactful than the Satisfyer’s more surface-level pulses.

However, if you’re more sensitive or aren’t sure whether you love the intensity of air pulse toys you may prefer the Satisfyer Curvys’ lighter-feeling pulses.

I personally enjoy the Curvy 1+ the most out of all of these app-controlled clit suction toys  options because it has lower powers, and the pulses feel lighter instead of that harder thudding sensation of the Melt. They actually feel a little closer to vibrations as you approach the highest levels.

Best beginner remote control air pulse vibrator - Satisfyer Curvy 1+

I also really enjoy the wider, ribbed opening. This allows me to control the suction level, and open that seal up a bit if it’s feeling too intense for me.

The larger openings feel more diffuse, and the smaller ones feel very direct. Then the amount of material around the opening will either keep a very tight seal if it’s thin or allow some variation if it’s wider.

Clit suction toys comparing the size of their opening and how it affects intensity

As someone who prefers vibrators to clit suction toys, the Satisyer Curvy 1+ does the trick for me at a budget price. But if you typically enjoy clit suction toys more than vibrators, you’ll likely prefer the deeper intensity of the We-Vibe Melt – it’s one of the most highly regarded clit suction toys.

Best Overall
We-Vibe Melt and Single Vibe control in the We-Vibe App

We-Vibe Melt

Get this one if you have the budget and already know you’re a fan of clit suction toys. The Melt has the deepest pulses and the greatest intensity

Best for Beginners or
Budget Buyers
Satisfyer Curvy 1 and Live Control screen on Satisfyer App

Satisfyer Curvy 1+

The Satisfyer Curvy 1+ has more diffuse stimulation and a budget-friendly price. While not as intense, it feels good and the app-control is excellent.

Pressure: Which G-spot Vibrator Packs the Most Impact

Best pressure is from handheld options: We-Vibe Nova 2, Lovense Hyphy, Lovense Nora
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Many people like G-spot pressure more than vibrations on their G-spot. If that rings a bell, this section’s for you.

There are four main ways these remote control vibrators can provide G-spot pressure:

Category 1: Automatic, gentle to medium pressure

The first group are toys that provide automatic G-spot pressure with a rotating internal arm. 

This group, including the Lelo Ida Wave and Lovense Nora, gives stimulation by gently and consistently “nudging” up against your G-spot. I really enjoy these remote control vibrators – I find it feels similar to fingering which I love.

Remote control vibrators that provide automatic G-spot pressure - Lelo Ida Wave and Lovense Nora

I would call this gentle/medium pressure rather than very firm. 

The automatic pressure is not as massive as you can get by manually thrusting a toy – but the benefit is that it’s completely effortless. You can simply ride the clit vibes and subtle fingering-like G-spot pressure away to orgasm.

Category 2: Manual, you control the pressure – gentle to very firm pressure

Next are handheld remote control vibrators that you can manually thrust or rock the internal arm against your G-spot for additional pressure. Or to push the vibrations in more deeply.

This group includes the Lovense Hyphy, We-Vibe Nova 2, and Lovense Nora (the Nora falls into category 1 and 2 – you can manually add pressure on top of the automatic rotation). 

Remote control vibrators that let you control the amount of G-spot pressure - Lovense Hyphy, Nova 2, and Nora

With these handheld G-spot vibrators, you have complete control over pressure. You can apply as little or as much as you want! It’s very customized since your hands are doing the work. 

So it can fall anywhere from gentle to very firm pressure.

Category 3: Hands-free toys; Slight pressure only comes from the stretch the toy provides

This group includes remote control egg vibrators (Lovense Lush 3, We-Vibe Jive, VeDO Kiwi, and Svakom Ella). 

Hands-free remote control G-spot vibrators. Left to right - Lovense Lush 3, We-Vibe Jive, VeDO Kiwi, Svakom Ella Neo

These are hands-free toys you wear internally. They mainly stimulate your G-spot through vibrations

Since there’s no handle, you can’t apply any more pressure than the toy provides naturally while resting in you. And that pressure is only happening from the toy giving your vagina a bit of a stretch – it’s less G-spot pressure than the other groups.

If you’re looking for an egg vibrator for public play, but enjoy more G-spot pressure: I find the VeDO Kiwi’s powerful, extremely rumbly vibrations mimic the sensation of pressure better than the others.

Category 4: Added pressure during penetration

Ok, so there’s only one toy in this group – the We-Vibe Chorus. This one is unique because it is a toy you can wear during penetration. The inner arm is slim. So it only puts more pressure on your G-spot when there’s a penis or dildo pushing up against it. 

We-Vibe Chorus provides pressure when combined with penetration

I love the extra G-spot pressure it gives during sex. 

I would consider it medium pressure during sex – almost no pressure when using it solo. 

App-Controlled vs Remote-Controlled Vibrators

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Choosing between an app-controlled vibrator and a remote-controlled vibrator comes down to what you care most about. Each has advantages and disadvantages, which I’ll cover. 

Left to right: Lovense remote app, Satisfyer app, We-Vibe Chorus remote control, and VeDO remote control

Benefits of app-control over remote-control vibrators:

  • Much more in-depth, custom, and unique control over the vibrations
  • Many apps (Lovense and Satisfyer especially) allow you to quickly and easily create your own vibration pattern exactly how you want it
  • Apps provide visual feedback to your partner, so they can tell what you’re feeling
  • Apps (except Lelo’s) allow you to connect with a long-distance partner anywhere in the world
  • App-control can be more discreet for play outside the bedroom since you can simply lock your phone screen. You don’t need to hide a physical remote control
  • In our experience apps also stay connected in Bluetooth mode for a greater distance

Phone controlled vibrators provide way more unique and custom control over your vibrations than a remote control. We’ll cover the functionality of each particular app more below, but most apps provide a way to create your own vibration patterns – so you can get the exact feel you want.

Screenshots comparing the design your own vibrations feature in Lovense, Satisfyer, and We-Vibe apps

They allow you to select and modify pre-designed patterns and control your vibrations through music on your phone, streaming services, or the sounds your phone’s mic picks up. And several allow you to download patterns other people have created and shared.

You have much more control than simply cycling through a few patterns with a remote control and raising / lowering the vibration power.

An even more important benefit for couples is that app-controlled vibrators will let your controlling partner see what you’re feeling

Screenshots demonstrating the visual feedback that phone controlled vibrators provide

Apps typically show the vibration pattern and power on-screen in real-time. With remote controls, your partner is just clicking buttons. But they have no way to tell how their button clicks affected your vibes. They don’t know what pattern you’re on, how strong your toy is vibrating, if the connection has dropped, or if the battery has died.

So remote-control vibrators require more verbal communication between partners than app-controlled toys.

If you’re hoping to use your toy for long-distance play, you’ll need an app-controlled toy (though Lelo is the only app without long-distance capabilities). Apps let you connect with a partner anywhere in the world and share control of your toy while voice or video chatting. 

App controlled vibrators next to phones showing how a long distance video chat looks in-app

So overall, if you’re looking for a wide variety of control options, enjoy designing your own patterns, or want your partner to have a better experience controlling your toy (in close range or long distance), then app-control is best! 

App-controlled toys are often pricier than remote-control vibrators. But if you’re on a budget, there are exceptions, like the Satisfyer Sexy Secret.

And now for remote-control vibrators! Even though I prefer app control, there are still some great things about a physical remote.

Physical remote controls for the Kiwi, Niki, and Chorus

Benefits of remote-control vibrators over app-control vibrators:

  • Simpler to use – no learning curve
  • Usually cheaper
  • Typically the remote control and vibrator are automatically paired – you don’t need to pair them together

Remote-controlled vibrators are much simpler. 

This means a quicker learning experience – you click a few buttons to cycle patterns and raise / lower power. And they also typically come at a lower price tag. So they’re great for the budget-buyer. 

Remotes can be great for someone who wants to control their vibrator themself

If you plan to control your own toy, you don’t need the visual feedback apps provide. When you click a button, you’ll feel the vibrations change. And you’ll always have the remote control and vibrator within feet of each other – so you don’t need the longer range of app-controlled toys either.

A physical remote control next to the Lovense remote app highlighting the benefits of remote and app control

And even though physical remotes are less engaging for a partner, they can still have fun controlling your remote vibrator. It’ll just take more communication together to be on the same page.

Some of my favorite toys are actually controlled by a remote – the VeDO Kiwi and VeDO Niki. They provide excellent stimulation at a lower cost since they’re remote-controlled!

VeDO Niki and Kiwi highlighting the fact that remote control vibrators can provide excellent stimulation while being cheaper than app controlled vibrators

App Control – Close Range Features

Best app control: Lovense toys
Best app control on a budget: Satisfyer toys
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Each app has a unique set of features that allow you or a nearby partner to control your vibrator. 

In this section I’ll rate, discuss, and show video demonstrating each app’s close-range control features. And in the next section, I’ll chat about their long-distance control features.

Video demo of each app’s close-range features: Lovense, Satisfyer, We-Vibe, OhMiBod, Svakom, FeelConnect, Lelo

When scoring these apps, I’m considering the main control functions, how the app handles creating your own patterns, its pre-designed pattern selection, music and sound control, other unique control features, and the user experience in general.

In addition to great features, you want your remote control vibrator to have good connectivity, so consider both together. Luckily the two brands with the best control features (Lovense and Satisfyer) also have the best connectivity, so it’s pretty simple.

A chart rating each app's close range features from 0 to 10

My absolute favorite app is the Lovense app which controls the Ferri, Lush 3, Dolce, Hyphy, Domi, Ambi and Nora. So if you were considering one of those, they each provide a top-notch app experience.

My favorite app (Lovense) with the vibrators it can control

When I’m scoring my toys for their close-range features, I’m looking for several characteristics: 

App control vibrators that scored high have a main control screen that makes it quick and easy to design your own patterns, select and modify pre-designed patterns, and set a constant vibration power. 

Apps also score higher when they provide good visuals of the toy’s real-time vibrations. This makes it easier to quickly get the vibrations you want. And good visuals help your partner control your toy better. It’s also more engaging for a partner when they can see what you’re feeling.

Lower-scoring apps indicate that controlling the vibes was more difficult, less intuitive, and less visual. Sometimes these apps include features that aren’t very useful and are missing genuinely helpful features. Or the control features available were clunky or unreliable.

Lovense

Lovense easily provides the best control features (and connectivity) of any app-controlled brand.

Screenshots of the Lovene app's available control styles and Remote screen

They beat the other apps for several reasons. Most importantly, their main control screen provides the best functionality and visuals while remaining extremely simple

With just two functions, “Loop” and “Float,” you can achieve any vibration feel you want. Click “Loop” and drag the on-screen dot around to quickly and easily create a repeating vibration pattern. Or tap “Float” to keep the vibration power constant.

Side by side screenshots illustrating the Float and Loop functions in the Lovense app

The vibration pattern and power level is clearly displayed on-screen. And when drawing a pattern, you can feel the vibrations as you draw them. So you can tell whether you’re creating something you enjoy.

Lovense’s main competitor, We-Vibe, has pattern creation – but you cannot feel what you’re drawing until after you’ve saved it. So it’s difficult to create something you really like.

Besides the main remote screen, you can download free patterns other Lovense users have created and shared. Lovense has the most active user-base of the app-controlled brands, so there are a lot of user-created patterns to choose from. You can adjust the speed of these patterns too! 

Screenshots showing how to find and download user-shared patterns in the Lovense app

You can also sync your vibes to music on your phone, through Spotify, or to the sounds your phone’s mic picks up. Really fun to use if you don’t want to be glued to your phone.

Quite importantly, all the features Lovense’s app provides work as intended and are intuitive. It also has the best connectivity, which I cover here.

Satisfyer

Even though Satisfyer’s the most budget-friendly app-controlled brand, their app is the next best after Lovense

Lovense app on left is the best overall, and Satisfyer app on right is second-best and very budget-friendly

Toys that use the Satisfyer app in this guide are the Satisfyer Curvy air pulse toys and the Satisfyer Sexy Secret panty vibrator.

Toys that use the Satisfyer app - Sexy Secret, and Satisfyer Curvys

Satisfyer modeled their app pretty closely to Lovense’s. So many of the same features are available – they just look different.

Satisfyer’s main control screen is very similar. You drag up or down on the screen to change the intensity or draw your pattern. And like Lovense, Satisfyer has a “Loop” button, so any pattern you draw keeps repeating. 

Side by side screenshots showing available Satisfyer control options and the live control screen

The vibration pattern or power level is clearly indicated on the screen.

They provide a bunch of preset patterns as well. And Satisfyer has introduced a “Community” feature like Lovense, which lets you download patterns others have shared! While their community is not quite as big as Lovense’s there’s still a ton available here. 

You can also control your vibrations through music (on your phone or Spotify) and sound. 

Screenshots showing the Music and Erotica features in the Satisfyer app

And Satisfyer has a newer “Remotyca Stories” feature. This one lets you buzz along to free erotica stories in the app. Lovense doesn’t have this at the moment, so this is one area Satisfyer beats Lovense. But there are only a few stories right now, and I’ve found them hard to get into personally.

The only reason that Satisfyer doesn’t score as highly as Lovense is that the control screen is just a bit less visually intuitive and feels slightly more clunky. But it’s very similar for a huge price cut, so I love mentioning it to my budget hunters!

OhMiBod

While I own some of OhMiBod’s toys, I haven’t included any of their remote control vibrators in this guide. This is because I find both their toys and app to be middle-of-the-pack while charging a premium price

Screenshots of Lovense vs Satisfyer vs OhMiBod main control screen

For instance, the Lovense Lush 3 outperforms the OhMiBod Esca 2 at the same price. And I find the We-Vibe Nova 2 and Lovense Nora are far better rabbit vibrators than the OhMiBod Fuse.

OhMiBod vibrators next to comparably priced vibrators from Lovense and We-Vibe that that perform better

OhMiBod’s app provides several pre-designed patterns, and you can raise and lower the power level of each. But it’s not very visual for a controlling partner. The vibration patterns have names but no visual indication of how they feel.

Screenshot of preset patterns in the OhMiBod app illustrating that it doesn't show a partner what the pattern looks like

OhMiBod’s app also lost some points because you can’t design your vibration pattern down to the waveform in the same sense that you can with Lovense, Satisfyer, and We-Vibe. 

But it does have two unique ways to design your vibe experience that are interesting. I find them less intuitive than Satisfyer and Lovense. But some enjoy their setup!

With OhMiBod’s “Tap” function, you can hit or hold down the “tap” button to create repeating pulses of vibrations. You can change the intensity of the pulses, but it’s always either “on” or “off.” You can’t create gradually increasing and decreasing patterns. 

But if you like vibrations that start and stop you may enjoy it.

Screenshots of the Touch and Tap features in the OhMiBod app

If you prefer a consistent wave “Touch Mode” can be pretty nice. It provides a consistent rolling wave-like vibration. 

As you drag the on-screen dot around the grid, you’ll change the intensity and speed of the wave. The vibrations get more intense and faster as you drag to the upper right. And they’re slower and softer towards the bottom left.

OhMiBod’s music and sound control features are comparable to Lovense and Satisfyer. 

We-Vibe

Closely after OhMiBod is We-Vibe’s app. This one controls the We-Vibe Nova 2 – one of my favorite rabbit vibrators, the Chorus – my favorite wearable during sex, and the Jive remote control egg vibrator.

The We-Vibe app next to the remote control vibrators I recommend from We-Vibe: Chorus, Jive, and Nova 2

We-Vibe is one of Lovense’s main competitors. Their toys are built extremely well with lovely deep, rumbly motors, which is why several of their remote control vibrators made the cut for this guide. 

But their app could be better. It’s still useful and works well! But it doesn’t provide as intuitive, customized, or visual control over your vibrations as apps like Lovense and Satisfyer.

We-Vibe’s app focuses on providing enjoyable, quality pre-set patterns for you to choose from and modify. Several patterns are available to choose from, and you can set four as defaults on the Multi-Vibe screen. 

Screenshots of We-Vibe app preset pattern library and Multi-Vibe Screen
Dragging the dot outward from the center increases the power, and moving it to a different quadrant changes the vibration pattern

This screen allows you to easily switch between your four favorite patterns (you can swap these out when you want). And if you have a dual-motor toy like the Chorus or Nova 2, you can play different patterns on each motor. 

Dragging the on-screen dot toward the center lowers your toy’s vibration power, and pulling it outward increases the vibration strength.

This screen is convenient if you enjoy a few patterns and want to be able to change quickly between them and change their power level. For a controlling partner, it’s a bit less visual than Lovense of Satisfyer since there’s no large on-screen representation of the vibration pattern. But it’s not a huge downside.

The main area We-Vibe lags behind Lovense and Satisfyer is with their pattern creation. You can design your own vibration pattern in We-Vibe’s app. But it’s clunky and difficult.

Side by side screenshots of the pattern creation feature in the Lovense and We-Vibe apps

Unlike with Lovense and Satisfyer, you cannot feel what you’re drawing until you’ve completed it. So it’s hard to tell if you enjoy what you’re creating. And you have to fit the vibration pattern within one phone-screen width. Lovense and Satisfyer allow you to create patterns as long as you like.

We-Vibe’s app typically has Music and Sound control which they call “Beat Mode.” 

But We-Vibe’s app underwent a major redesign in the summer of 2022, and Beat Mode has said “Coming Soon” since then. Before the update, it worked reliably and was a good feature. Once the revamped version is back, I’ll let you know how it is.

Overall, We-Vibe’s app works well but is more basic than other options. The high quality of their toys is what makes We-Vibe worth considering.

Svakom and FeelConnect

You can control Svakom products (like the Ella Neo) with two different apps: the Svakom or FeelConnect app.

Svakom Ella vibrator with both apps that can control it next to it

And it’s good there are two apps because it takes both to achieve near the level of control other apps provide. 

Even together, the Svakom and FeelConnect app combo scores the lowest. But keep in mind Svakom’s toys are designed to be more budget-friendly. 

The simple, basic control they offer works reliably, but there are no extra bells and whistles. Here’s what you’ll be working with.

Screenshots showing Svakom Set Modes and adjusting vibration power
Note: The visual representation of the vibration patterns is not accurate in the Svakom app. For instance, Mode 1 shows a wave but is actually a constant power

The main ways to control a vibrator with Svakom and FeelConnect are:

  1. Raise and lower a constant vibration power
  2. Select from several pre-designed patterns and adjust their intensity

There is a sound and music responsive feature, but my partner and I have never had success with it. The app crashes whenever we try it.

You can still play with a long-distance partner which I’ll cover here. So overall, I think that the only reason someone might consider a toy with this app is if they need it for long distance connectivity and are on a budget. Plenty of remote-controlled toys give about the same variety of control for cheaper.

Lelo

The Lelo Ida Wave uses the Lelo app to control it. And while I recommend the Lelo Ida Wave because I enjoy it’s hands-free G-spot pressure and clitoral vibes – the app is nothing to write home about.

Lelo Ida Wave with the Lelo App showing the Shake feature

Lelo just recently began making some of their vibrators app-controlled. So they’re new to the scene, and their app does not have much functionality yet. At the moment, it’s basically a glorified physical remote control.

It does everything that one of Lelo’s SenseMotion remote controls does and nothing more. You can select from preset patterns and adjust their power level. And you can shake or tilt your phone to control your vibrator. 

Screenshots of Lelo app showing SenseMotion control of the Lelo Ida Wave

That’s it.

No designing your own patterns, no music or sound control, no connecting with a long-distance partner.

It’s reliable and the basic control works well. I’m hopeful Lelo will add more functionality as they make more app-controlled vibrators.

App Control – Long Distance Features

Best long-distance features: Lovense toys
Best long-distance on a budget: Satisfyer toys
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An app’s long-distance features determine how a partner can control your vibrator from across the globe. And each app provides a different experience for long-distance couples.

A chart rating each app's long-distance features from 0 to 10

The apps that scored highly for their long-distance play features provide your partner with a variety of easy and intuitive ways to control your toy from a distance. And if you each have a toy, higher-scoring apps let you and your partner control each others’ toy simultaneously!

The video chat experience is essential too. 

Apps that score highest give your partner clear visuals of both the vibrations and the video chat – so they can still control your toy well while you connect. And they also make it easy to maximize the video screen and minimize the control panel if you’d rather focus on each other.

Overall, I’m looking for an experience that makes connecting together easy, rather than getting caught up with the ins-and-outs of the app.

The winner of long-distance play was, once again – Lovense! And for long-distance control, they beat their competitors (even Satisfyer) by a decent amount. 

Side by side screenshots comparing a Lovense video chat to a Satisfyer video chat
Notice that in Satisfyer’s video chat, you can no longer see the vibration waveform as you can in Lovense’s app

Mostly because: you know that awesome remote-control screen you have for nearby play? Well, a long-distance partner will use that same screen to control your vibrator. So they have excellent control and visuals.

They can use those “Loop” and “Float” functions to quickly design any vibration pattern or set your toy to an exact desired power level.

And if you’re video chatting, their control screen overlays nicely so they can easily see both. But you can minimize the control panel whenever you want to make the video of your partner more clear.

Screenshots showing how you can maximize or minimize the control panel during a Lovense Video Chat

Plus, Lovense is the only app that can give you the ability to take control of your partner’s vibrator by surprise (your partner will have to allow this in their Partner Settings). 

They also provide great long-distance features for people who want to connect with someone they’re not in a long-distance relationship with. 

For instance, you can save multiple partners in the Lovense app. And another fun, unique feature with Lovense: you can send out anonymous links to someone to let them control your vibrator for a limited time!

Screenshots showing how to generate an anonymous control link in the Lovense remote app

The other apps also all have a control screen and video-chatting abilities. All the apps (except OhMiBod) will also let you control your partner’s toy (if they have one) while they’re controlling yours. But other apps’ long-distance experience is just less intuitive and more clunky.

The closest is Satisfyer’s app. Your partner can still create patterns and set a constant power. 

But Satisfyer’s visuals are worse in long-distance mode than in close-range control. You can’t clearly see the vibration pattern anymore. Instead, you drag up and down this blue-to-red tinted line to raise and lower the power. 

So your video chat always has a colored tint on top of it, which can be annoying if you want to see your partner more clearly. 

Side by side screenshot of both long-distance partners' view during Satisfyer video chat

And We-Vibe’s still works well if you primarily want to select and modify preset patterns. You can easily minimize the control screen to make the video clear which is great. The main downside is a lack of easy pattern creation features – but that’s not important to everyone.

Screenshots showing the We-Vibe control panel maximized and minimized during video call
Your partner can access the Multi-Vibe and Single-Vibe screens while video chatting in We-Vibe’s app

Overall, Lovense is just the easiest to use and the most versatile. It’s the best for long-distance couples or people looking to play with anyone far away!

My favorite app (Lovense) with the vibrators it can control

So here are the toys you can control with the Lovense app if you’re interested in using one for some long-distance fun! The Ferri (panty vibrator), Lush 3 (egg vibrator), Dolce (dual-stimulation wearable), Hyphy (handheld G-spot or clit vibrator) , Domi and Ambi (both handheld clit-vibrators).

Remote Control Features

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A remote offers fewer options to control your toy than an app. But some remotes are better than others!

The remote control vibrators I recommend in this article are either app-controlled or have a genuinely useful remote. Vibrators with poor-quality remotes did not make the cut.

My favorite vibrators with a physical remote control. Left to right - VeDO Kiwi, VeDO Niki, We-Vibe Chorus

But as you search, you should know what types of remotes to avoid and why.

Some toys I’ve tested, like the Mantric egg or panty vibrator, have a one-button remote. These give a poor experience for several reasons. 

Mantric egg vibrator and its single-button remote control illustrating the lack of control these options provide

A one-button remote means you cannot adjust the intensity of any preset pattern. And you have to cycle through all patterns and constant power levels to go backward. 

You have to just toggle through all the different patterns at whatever set power they are. With all toys, but especially wearables that you may use out of the house, it’s important that you can lower the power if needed. 

But with a one-button remote, you must cycle through the higher power levels first to decrease the power level.

And you’ll also want to be able to raise the power incrementally. Otherwise, you’re starting out blasting the whole area – whether you’re warmed up or not. One button remotes do not allow for a tease or warmup. 

I did not include any one-button toys in this best remote control vibrators guide, because they are not worth the money.

The VeDO Niki (for clit stimulation) and VeDO Kiwi (for G-spot stimulation), which are some of my favorite remote-controlled toys, can increase or decrease the power of each pattern. 

VeDO Niki and Kiwi with their Remote Controls - Examples of remote controls which provide all the necessary functionality

So even though you don’t have the custom control of an app, these vibrators’ remote controls provide all the basic functionality you need for an enjoyable experience.

The We-Vibe Chorus also has a pretty advanced physical remote and is app-controlled. 

This one lets you increase or decrease the power of each pattern. But it also lets you tap back and forth through pattern options. With VeDO’s remotes, you cycle through patterns but can increase and decrease their power.

We-Vibe Chorus Squeeze Remote Control with buttons labeled

The Chorus also has a pretty unique remote feature: Squeeze Control. The bottom portion of this Squeeze remote is squishy, and will let you give bursts of power to your vibrator by squeezing the remote.

A couple other remote-controlled toys like the Lelo Lyla 2 and Lelo Tiani 3 have unique motion-activated features. However, I haven’t included these in this guide, because they fall short in other areas. 

Lelo Lyla 2 and Tiani 3 - Vibrators with a SenseMotion remote control

Although the Chorus’ Squeeze remote sounds interesting, I haven’t found these additional control features contribute much to my overall enjoyment. I’m happy with the basic button setup of VeDO’s remote control vibrators. 

The biggest recommendation is to ensure your remote can increase and decrease power. 

Connectivity: Reliability and Remote Control Range

Absolute best connectivity: Lovense toys
Nearly the same and more budget-friendly: Satisfyer toys
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Connectivity relates to how easily the vibrator connects to the remote or app, and whether it stays reliably connected in nearby and long-distance modes.

As I tested and scored these toys, I looked for a simple, dependable pairing process. 

I also noted how long I could typically use the vibrator before a disconnection occurred. And I tested whether opening other apps or letting the app sit without activity for a while caused disconnections.

Screenshots of Lovense, Satisfyer, and We-Vibe toys connecting to the apps

Some remote control vibrators also take more work to reconnect when a disconnection happens. Others automatically reconnect within seconds, so even a rare disconnection isn’t disruptive.

In general, the connectivity stays mostly the same within the brand. 

So, for example, all of Lovense toys have awesome connectivity. I’ve had my best experiences with them. 

Lovense toys and app highlighting their reliable connectivity

Pairing is always quickest for me with Lovense toys. And when I open other apps or let a period of inactivity lapse, I find that the app and vibrator stay connected. I can almost always play longer than half an hour without any disconnections.

Satisfyer is closely behind Lovense. Their toys quickly connect without troubleshooting 90% of the time. If it doesn’t pair right away, you just follow the on-screen prompts to reset the vibe and it will fix the issue. 

Once paired, disconnections are rare, and reconnecting is typically automatic.

Satisfyer Toys and app highlighting their great connectivity

In fact, I’ve seen improved connectivity with most brands in the past couple years. So most offer good connectivity with only occasional disconnections or troubleshooting to pair the toy. 

Even the more basic Svakom/FeelConnect apps work pretty reliably. It sometimes takes a few attempts to pair. But they stayed pretty reliably connected once paired. As one of the budget options, troubleshooting during that initial pairing is a decent trade-off if you need long-distance control on a budget (and don’t want one of Satisfyer’s toys).

We-Vibe is another brand I’m having much more success with lately when it comes to connectivity. The app went through a major update in the summer of 2022. And since then, all my We-Vibe toys have paired much more quickly! Which was a huge complaint from me before. 

So while I used to rate We-Vibe’s connectivity pretty low, I no longer do. 

They’re much closer to Lovense than they used to be. I do wish their pairing process was automatic though. You will need to press buttons on the toy and follow prompts on the app to connect.

Screenshots showing on-screen prompts to connect vibrator to We-Vibe app

So it is clunkier than Lovense which allows you to just open the app and your toy typically connects immediately. 

We-Vibe’s vibrators stay connected pretty well but do disconnect occasionally. The main reason I rate We-Vibe lower is that when they disconnect, they do not always automatically re-connect like Lovense and Satisfyer’s vibrators typically do. 

This can be an issue for their wearable vibrators because if it doesn’t automatically reconnect, you’ll need to take a trip to the restroom to press the buttons on the vibrator to reconnect it. If you’re playing with a partner at home, this isn’t an issue.

Several We-Vibe vibrators showing the button used to connect

When it comes to physical remote controls – the toys I’ve included in this guide have exceptionally stable connections. You won’t need to worry about a disconnection except when the remote and vibrator are too far apart. My favorite remote-controlled toys, the VeDO Kiwi and Niki have not given me any connectivity issues.

Now general connectivity can be grouped by brand. But the range you can separate the toy from the remote or app differs with each toy. 

I tested each remote control vibrator in this guide by taking them outside with my partner. He’d walk away while controlling my vibrator and we’d measure how far away we reached to cause a disconnect.

Remote Control Vibrators Chart Comparing Connectivity Range in Feet from Our Test Results

Toys with remote controls usually need to stay close – within 30 feet or closer. App-controlled toys can go much farther! Most made it over 100 feet in our testing, and a few made it between 300-400 feet!

So if across-the-room play is something you’re interested in, I’d go for an app-controlled toy. If you plan to play in the bedroom, seated at the same restaurant table, or nearby at the bar – a remote or app would work just fine.

A quick note: The actual distances in typical use will likely be less than my partner and I achieved during testing. In fact, many of the results we got are greater than the range listed on the toys’ specifications. We test all our toys in an open alley outside our house with no obstructions so we can directly compare the results to each other. 

So while your numbers will likely be less in normal use, you can be confident vibrators with a higher distance in our testing, will typically give you a greater range in your normal use than a vibrator with a lower distance in our test. 

Wearability Outside the Bedroom

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This section is for those hoping to wear your toy for public play or around the house. Some remote control vibrators are easier to wear and more comfortable while walking than others. 

Wearable Remote Control Vibrators For Public Play

Now obviously handheld toys are not wearable in public. But two wearables are also only for at-home play: The Lelo Ida Wave and Lovense Dolce.

Lovense Dolce and Lelo Ida Wave - Wearable vibrators that are not good for public play

For the Dolce, I find it far too uncomfortable while moving around for public play – if you want dual-stimulation outside the bedroom, go with the Ferri and Lush together over the Dolce

Lush 3 and Ferri as better dual-stimulation combo than Dolce

And the Lelo Ida Wave can fall out while walking around. You can jump back up here to read more of my thoughts on wearing them out.

Secure Fit While Wearing Your Toy Out

Most secure overall: Any egg vibrator
Most secure clit vibrator: Lovense Ferri
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For wearable remote control vibrators, there’s a range in how securely they fit and stay in the ideal position. From most secure to slightly less secure, we have:

Wearable Vibrators for secure fit
  • Egg vibrators – Most secure; Won’t fall out and typically stays in the ideal position
  • Panty vibrators – Still secure; Won’t fall out, but can shift out of the ideal position with a lot of movement. May need to adjust occasionally.
  • C-shaped, dual-stimulation wearables – Least secure; Even the We-Vibe Chorus (the best of this type) can shift around some with heavy movements like jumping / dancing. The cheaper ones that don’t have adjustable hinges as the Chorus does can fall out with large movements
Chart showing each wearable vibrator's secure fit rating from 0 to 10

Egg vibrators are the most secure because they insert into your vagina, and you really need to pull on them to remove them. I’ve never had an issue with one of these coming out on its own or moving around while wearing these toys out.

Egg vibrators as the most secure-fitting wearable vibrators

Then there are panty vibrators. 

These sit in your underwear – all the ones I recommend in this guide magnetically secure to your underwear. So they’re much more secure than the ones that slip into the front pouch sewn into a lot of underwear. 

All panty vibrators showing that magnetic ones fit more securely than slip-in vibrators

These magnetic panty vibrators are still very secure – they stay in place, and I’ve never had one come out. Though they can shift slightly, and you may need to adjust sometimes.

And while I’ve never had one come out, I still recommend that you wear pants with the VeDO Niki or Satisfyer Sexy Secret just in case. If you’re wearing a skirt or loose shorts, it’s possible the magnet could come off. 

On the other hand, the Lovense Ferri has one of the strongest magnets I’ve ever seen, and I’m confident it’s not going anywhere.

Lovense Ferri magnet attached to the toy through my hand demonstrating the magnet's strength

C-shaped, dual-stimulation wearables like the We-Vibe Chorus are a little more difficult to wear around. They don’t magnetically secure to your underwear. And the internal arm is much thinner than an egg vibrator. So it doesn’t take as much of a tug to pull them out.

C-shaped vibrators showing slimmer arm than egg vibrators attributes to a less snug fit

The We-Vibe Chorus (and We-Vibe Sync) have adjustable hinges, so you can get a tight fit that won’t come out with these two.

Side by side of We-Vibe Chorus' adjustable hinges at opposite ends demonstrating its adjustable range

But cheaper ones like the Satisfyer Double Joy or We-Vibe Unite don’t provide an adjustable fit. I’ve actually had these two cheaper ones slip out. 

Luckily it was just at home, so no harm. But if you want to wear a C-shaped toy out, you’ll want to wear tight-fitting underwear and pants for extra security. These toys are the ones that are meant to wear during penetrative sex. But you can also wear them in public with the right outfit.

Comfort While Wearing Your Toy Out

Most comfortable clitoral vibrator: VeDO Niki
Most comfortable G-spot vibrator: We-Vibe Jive
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I am all about comfort. I’m wearing my softest sweater as I write this!

Remote Control Vibrators Chart Comparing Comfort Rating - Graphic

And so naturally I am very affected by how comfortable (or not) a wearable toy is. I find external toys more comfortable to wear around personally. So the ones I find most comfortable are panty vibrators like the Lovense Ferri and especially the VeDO Niki

Lovense Ferri and VeDO Niki - two comfortable wearable vibrators

These fit right up close and contour your body, so they are hardly noticeable. One of the reasons I chose the Ferri, Niki, and Sexy Secret to mention in this article is because they are so comfortable. 

Some of my other panty vibrators jostle around too much or don’t sit as well against my body – but these three are very comfy. 

The C-shaped toys are the next most comfortable. With these, you mostly want to make sure the inner arm isn’t too pokey. And the Chorus has an extra comfortable arm, so no need to worry with this one.

I don’t find egg vibrators as comfortable, but it’s more of a personal preference. I don’t like too much of a stretch vaginally. So these toys’ girth is definitely noticeable to me. (Although I do find the slimmer size of the We-Vibe Jive is very comfortable) 

Egg vibrators are comfortable if you enjoy a stretch

If you like feeling an internal stretch, you’ll find other egg vibrators more comfortable than me. 

And on the plus side, that internal stretch keeps them securely in place!

Noise Comparison

Absolute quietest: We-Vibe Jive
Quietest while still being powerful: VeDO Kiwi
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Noise level can be really important – especially if you’re considering a wearable vibrator for an evening out.

Video demonstrating each remote control vibrator’s sound level on its highest power level

I test my remote control vibrators noise a couple ways.

First, I measured each toy’s noise with a decibel reader to get their official sound levels. For the wearable vibrators, I measured their noise while wearing them since that’s how you’ll actually use them. For handhelds, I just measured the noise while holding them.

The chart below shows the measured decibel reading on their lowest through highest power levels.

Remote Control Vibrators Chart Showing our Measured Decibel Readings - Graphic

As you can see, wearables are definitely on the quieter end, which is exactly what you need for maximum discretion. Since the egg vibrators are inserted into the vagina and muffled by your body, they are the absolute quietest. 

So the We-Vibe Jive and VeDO Kiwi are the two quietest remote control vibrators. They each have deep, rumbly vibrations too, which tend to be quieter.

The quietest remote control vibrators - We-Vibe Jive and VeDO Kiwi

This Kiwi’s quiet vibes are especially impressive because it’s also tied for being the most powerful remote control egg vibrator.

Panty vibrators are not far behind. Your body doesn’t muffle the sound as much as it does for an internal vibrator, but these toys are still discreet. The Sexy Secret and VeDO Niki are the quietest options for wearable clit-stimulation

Quietest clitoral remote control vibrators - Sexy Secret and VeDO Niki

Same story with the VeDO Niki as the Kiwi – it’s quiet, yet still one of the strongest options. The Sexy Secret, on the other hand, is quiet because its vibes are less powerful.

Remote control vibrator with decibel reader for testing noise level

I also like to take my wearables out and ensure we can’t hear them in use. I took each to a quieter coffee shop and a louder brewery to see which toys remained inaudible at these locations. I brought my partner to sit with me and indicate if or when he could start to hear the vibrations as I went through their power levels and patterns. 

You can head to my best vibrating panties guide and best egg vibrators guide for full details on that. But to make a long story short: we could use the full power spectrum of all our wearable vibrators in both the coffee shop and the brewery without the sound being audible to my partner or me. 

However – I still recommend starting with the low power levels to make sure that they’re completely inaudible wherever you are too.

And still, the louder the environment, the better. But in loud places like bars and breweries we had no concerns of the toys being audible. In the quieter places (like the coffee shop), we were more cautious of sound even though they all remained inaudible. 

We also tested whether someone could hear a toy in use on the other side of a closed bedroom door for those of you who live with other people. I had my partner stand on the other side of the bedroom door while I worked my way through each toy’s power levels and patterns.

The remote control vibrators fell into three main groups:

  • Group 1: Toys my partner couldn’t hear on any power or pattern
  • Group 2: Toys that needed some soft music or a fan to make the upper power levels inaudible
  • Group 3: Toys that needed loud music to drown out the sound of the upper power levels

All the wearable vibrators except the Lovense Dolce fell into the first group – completely inaudible at all power levels. Two handheld vibrators were also completely inaudible – the Lovense Ambi and We-Vibe Nova 2.

All the remote control vibrators my partner could not hear behind a closed door

The We-Vibe Nova 2 was the quietest of the handheld vibrators.

The deep, rumbly vibes are crazy quiet for being so strong. If you’ve got some nosey housemates, the Nova 2 can take you to some high powers without anyone hearing a thing from the other side of the door.

Most of the other handheld vibrators mostly fell into group 2. You can use most of their power range without being audible, but someone could hear the upper powers if they were right on the other side of the door. Turning soft music or a box fan on in the bedroom completely drowned out the sound, so my partner could no longer hear them on the other side of the door.

The remote control vibrators that need a fan or light music to cover the noise

Only a couple toys fell into the third group! The We-Vibe Melt and Lovense Domi can be pretty noisy – especially at their top levels. We needed louder music (not just playing through my Iphone) to drown out their noise. So these may not be best when housemates are nearby.

Loudest remote control vibrators - Lovense Domi and We-Vibe Melt

Battery Life

Longest battery overall: We-Vibe Melt
Best wearable with longest battery: Lovense Ferri 
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I test all of my toys’ battery life by charging them fully.  Then I run them on their highest power level until their battery runs out. I check on them every 10 minutes to see if they’re still going and make note.

Here are my battery life results for every remote control vibrator in this guide:

As you decide, you’ll want to consider how much battery life you need. If you hope to use your toy for a long evening out, get a wearable with ample battery life. 

Many of the wearable remote control vibrators had the longest battery. With the Svakom Ella, Lovense Ferri, and Sexy Secret each lasting longer than 2 ½ hours!

While the Svakom Ella Neo lasts longer, the Lovense Ferri has the best balance between long battery life and high power.

Wearable remote control vibrators with the longest battery life - Svakom Ella, Lovense Ferri, Sexy Secret

Options like the VeDO Niki and Kiwi have battery lives closer to an hour. These are still good for a quick trip out. And you can stretch the battery life out substantially by using low and medium power levels too.

Long battery life isn’t as important for handheld toys you’ll just be using in the bedroom, unless you enjoy long sessions. And some of the handhelds also lasted over 2 hours. 

The Lovense Nora, Domi, and Satisfyer Curvy 1+ each made it past the 2.5 hour mark. And the We-Vibe Melt ran for over 4 hours! So you have some great options if you tend to forget to re-charge (like me).

Handheld remote control vibrators with longest battery life

Final Thoughts

We’ve talked about several different remote-control vibrators today! Hopefully you have a better idea of what kind you are looking for.

If you haven’t zeroed in on exactly which one yet, here are my favorites. I think you could have fun with any of these. And you’ll be pleased with the quality:

FAQ

How do remote control vibrators work?

Remote control vibrators are controlled by either a physical remote, or an app you’ll download to your phone. You will connect the toy with the control or app, and then you can adjust your toy’s vibrations without having to touch the toy at all.

Remote controlled vibrator vs app controlled vibrator

Sometimes people are interested in remote control vibrators so they can wear their toy in public. This allows you to discreetly control your vibrations from the click of a button in your pocket! 

Others are interested in a remote controlled toy so they can allow a partner to take control of their toy for them. App-controlled toys allow a partner from anywhere in the world to access your toy’s vibes. So these are great for long-distance partners.

Video chatting while sharing control of a vibrator using the Lovense app

Whichever partner has the vibrator, will connect it to their phone through Bluetooth. Then you’ll connect with each other through the app using wifi or cell data.

What is the range on remote control vibrators?

My remote control vibrators have a range anywhere from 15 – 175 feet! But most of them are on the smaller side of that. I would say about 30 feet is the average when it comes to a toy that comes with a physical remote.

Remote control vibrators with a physical remote average around 30 foot connectivity range

App-controlled toys generally can maintain a connection from much farther. My app-controlled toys are in the 40 – 400 feet range. With most maintaining their Bluetooth connection for at least 100 feet.

App controlled vibrators have average a much greater connectivity range than remote controlled

And if 100 feet isn’t enough for you, you can also control most app-controlled toys from anywhere in the world using Wifi or cell data. So unlimited feet! If across-the-room or across-the-world play is something you’re interested in, I’d recommend an app-controlled toy.

What lube to use with remote-control vibrators?

Water-based lube is typically the best to use with a remote-control vibrator. Every remote control vibrator in this guide has a silicone exterior. If silicone lube is used with a silicone toy, it can break down the material. So use water-based lubricant!

Sliquid water-based lube and the Lush 3 - indicating to always use water-based lube with silicone toys

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